If you thought a child was being neglected, would you call the authorities?

United States
November 17, 2006 9:58pm CST
If you notice a young child (under 10) frequently left alone in a public place for 6-8 hours without any food, cell phone, or money for a payphone, would you consider them negelected? How about if they are neatly dressed in private Catholic school uniforms and appear to be well fed? If you thought they were negelected, would you get involved or mind your own business? What if it could possibly mean that you would lose your job? What if you were wrong?
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@blueman (16509)
• India
18 Nov 06
i think there are many organizations which are there to look after that.
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
18 Nov 06
Yes, there are, but they aren't going to do anything if no one tells them about the situation.
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• United States
18 Nov 06
Thanks for your answer. I don't really think social services does a good enough job in cases like this. Usually if they find the children healthy and seemingly well cared for, they will go on their way.
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
19 Nov 06
I totally agree with your comment about social services. I also don't think they look into it far enough.
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@helper1 (765)
• Canada
19 Nov 06
You know in both senerios, I would call the police, and report it each and every time. Eventually, they will get Social services involved. And believe me when I say this, when the Police Call Social Services, the parents are going to be under a microscope for the rest of their lives, or atleast until the youngest child has grown up and moved out. I can't remember exactly, but I think Social has a 3 strike rule, on neglectant parents, after that the kids are put into foster care, the parents have to do courses and such, to get their children back, and the children become wards of the Court. I know this from experience, because I was one of those kids, and I know that I would not be where I am today, if I was with my natural parents. I was 8 years old when I was adopted!
• United States
19 Nov 06
Thanks. I do remember a scenerio several years back where a family would drop all four of their young children off on a Saturday while they would go do their errands. They had no cell phones, nor did they have any money for a payphone. I think my supervisor told the parents that she would call the police if they continued to do this. They never did it again. I mean, what are some parents thinking? What if something were to happen to their kids? Some of these youngsters don't even know their address or phone number if you needed to call them!
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
18 Nov 06
Yes, I would call the police and yes I would consider them neglected no matter how they were dressed. I would do it even if it did mean I might lose my job. If I were wrong, I would be just wrong. I'd rather be wrong than live with something happening to a child because I did nothing.
@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
19 Nov 06
I think if you try to work it out with the parents and they still continue to do this, then you have even more reason to call the police. Those children are in danger. There is also a danger that they will start leaving them elsewhere if you don't report them now. They may start suspecting they you are on to them.
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• United States
18 Nov 06
What if you were able to contact the parents and ask them to come get their child? What if they say "I'm coming right over" and they take their time? Or, they say "I'm at work, I'll be there at x o'clock". They actually come and get their children, but the next day or week, the same thing happens. Does it matter if you try to work it out with the parents first?
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@magikrose (5429)
• United States
18 Nov 06
I would call. Especially if it happens alot. No child should be left alone for any perioud of time. Especially if under 10yr old. My son is 11 and the most time Iwould leave him alone is 20min. That is it. If I was wrong fine, but it is better to be safe than sorry.
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
19 Nov 06
That would make me even more prone to call the authorities.
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@justvenkys (1357)
• India
18 Nov 06
No i will not. A small girl is also working in our house on her own will.
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• United States
18 Nov 06
Yes, but your own house is probably not a public place. You probably have control on who goes in and out of it.
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@sekhmetgb (462)
19 Nov 06
I would definitely file a report with the authorities. My personal experience in UK is that it is very difficult to get social service to do anything. When I worked in general practice I made several referrals, and not many were taken all the way. There is always the idea that even 'not good enough parents' are better than no parents or foster parents (a view I personally do not agree with). Very few children therefore are taken away from their parents. They put in place 'looked after children' care plans, which are never followed up. The chances of you losing your job as a consequence of reporting someone should not exist, as it is your moral duty as a human being to defend the defenceless. If you are wrong, nothing terrible will happen - it will be investigated and then closed. But at least there is a record of it, so if someone else reports the abuse then the previous record and concern will pop up again. But please, if you think there is the slightest chance the child is being abused in any way whatsoever, you must report it.
• United States
19 Nov 06
Thanks. That sounds like good advice.
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@MellieC (783)
• United States
20 Nov 06
if i saw a kid alone for hours at a time in public without any adult supervision i would definantly contact the authorities. i would ask the kid where they're parents are or who's watching them. i dont care how they are dressed. if they are under 10 they should not be alone.
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• United States
20 Nov 06
What if there were adults present, but they aren't neccessarily there to watch your child? Places like libraries, malls, arcades, etc. They all have adults there working, and they do try to maintain order in their establishments, but they aren't there to watch everyone's child. Does that make a difference?
@claudia413 (4280)
• United States
19 Nov 06
I'd certainly consider a child left alone in a public place for 6-8 hours without any food, cell phone or money to be neglected. It wouldn't matter how they were dressed. I would have to get involved no matter what the consequences might be. Better to try to do something positive than to just ignore the situation. I could never forgive myself for doing nothing if something happened to that child.
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• United States
20 Nov 06
Thanks! I can understand why many would feel that way.
• United States
19 Nov 06
THERE IS NO EXCUSE! - There is no excuse to neglect a child or leave them just anywhere!
I would most definately call for help or do something like sit with the child or try to find out why they were there all alone. Little children should not be left alone in this day and age! God knows what could happen to them! I would also stay with the child until the authorities got there. Even if the parent came back out of the blue. That kid is not going anywhere until the police arrive!
• United States
19 Nov 06
Thanks. There have been situations where we have called the police because we knew that the child was not supposed to be there alone. One child came in and was being totally destructive. We tried to talk to him, but he didn't seem to understand. No one else seemed to know him. We called the police and an officer arrived. Right after the police arrived (the child was probably there at least a half an hour or more by himself), the parents arrived. It turned out that the child was autistic and loved to go there (I've never seen him before, though they said he as there all the time). Apparently, he was in the back yard when he just opened the gate and walked out. Wow! I never saw them again. Luckily, that one wasn't abandonment.
@Phlamingho (7822)
• Denmark
19 Nov 06
I don't think I could live with myself if I didn't do anything, so yes I would call the authorities.
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• United States
20 Nov 06
Thanks! You seem to be in the majority here.
• Janesville, Wisconsin
19 Nov 06
I would ask the child if they needed any help, and if they were alone. Maybe it is not neglect, but a runaway or abandonment, or maybe they are hanging around waiting for someone to get off work. However, if you thought it was abuse and neglect, find a local officer and ask them to check it out, or contact Children's Services protections... - DNatureofDTrain
• United States
19 Nov 06
I'm pretty sure it's not a runaway situation or pure abandonment. I'm sure it's a case of "go to this place and I'll come get you later" and, for one reason or another, they don't seem to check in on their child. What gets me is that the school they go to is a long walk away. I'm pretty sure they're dropped off there. It's entirely possible, but I'm not sure, that there may have been a miscommunication as to who was going to pick up the children. It may be that the mom thought another relative would pick them up and maybe that they were with them. That happens more often than people think.
@rawpoet (2045)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Yes, I would and have. Unfortunately, I had to do this with a family member. The child was given to me for a short period of time from social services. Family or not, no child should go neglected. Good topic! +
• United States
20 Nov 06
Thanks! I'd have to say, fortunately, that most parents I see are responsible and don't do such things to their children. Every once in a while I'll see this and it would bother me. Those parents just don't seem to get it that public places are not places to dump kids off for hours. They seem to think that if there's an adult there, that they'd watch them. Maybe that adult has other kids to watch, or has other things to do.
@briggsy13 (136)
• United States
19 Nov 06
I would call, the worst I could consider would be that you got in trouble. If you didn't say anything and the child was neglected I could never forgive myself!!
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