My friends often say that I was a cruel husband.
By sql_cell
@sql_cell (1427)
Indonesia
February 8, 2011 1:31am CST
My friends often say that I was a cruel husband. Because, when I go to work, I never leave money for my wife. If I give money, just enough for the shopping needs of the home. I do this, I do not mean cruel to my wife. I do this, because I want to save money. And I do this so I can meet all needs. What do you think?
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8 responses
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
8 Feb 11
Where i am from, the money in the marriage belongs to both partners. To deny your wife money for herself to spend on what she wants is a violation of the marriage contract and in my opinion, yes, a bit cruel. If your wife is dedicated to her marriage, she will use the money in ways that will enhance the marriage. Give her a small allowance each payday and you will see how much happier she will be and as a result, she will make you happier.
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@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
8 Feb 11
Well, we cannot argue that that went for a bad cause since the children are the center of our responsibilities. Children are growing and need those essentials that come from snacks as well as from the main meals. As a matter of fact, snacks according to many doctors should be a part of children's regular nutrition plans because of nutritional needs. Of course if the snacks are non-nutritional like candy and soda for example, it is questionable. Besides, it makes the children happy and as a result, makes mom happy, and as a result, makes you happy. Isn't that what raising a family is all about?
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Jul 11
sql cell oh lord why do you make her account for every stinking penny like that. have fai th in her as you must love her or shy did you
marry her? In other words she dare not need any nmoney for herself now thats unfair if you are one who will not let a wife work you will have to supply her money for her personal needs and not do not make her account to you like a child. how humiliating it is for her. if I were her I would go get a job and support myself.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Jul 11
yes I do think you are cruel if your wife has to beg for money for food for clothes for caring for t he children, they are also your responsibility or else let your wife work if you are so all fired stingy and only wanting money for saving. You sound like you feel a woman is less than the man and cannot be trusted. you are so wrong. sit down find out how smart she really is and trust her to be smart at shopping and if you can afford it let her have a job too as in this economy here in the US most all people in a household are having to work to meet the costs of living here. marriage is supposed to be a partnership not just a way to be cared for for the rest of your life. You owe a lot to her and should not b e selfish if you must refuse her working.In my marriage we split the money it was ours not yours.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
13 Feb 11
As a wife, I could feel, what your wife feels. I also have, what your wife feels. I am not free to buy something, because I had no more money. Like when my brother came, and I do not have anything to serve. This made me confused. Perhaps your wife is also experiencing the same thing as me.
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When my husband was alive,we did not have a lot of money,but enough to get by,till he got ill.Now,I am barely making it.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
8 Feb 11
I think you should leave more than what you're giving her. It's not supposed to be work all the time for her. You should give her some breathing room.
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@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
8 Feb 11
No, you do this because you don't have faith in your wife in money matters. You don't think your wife can't assist in your cause. You think if you give her money she'll spend it in buying unnecessary things. Why don't you discuss this frankly with your wife? Why don't you tell her that you want to save some money for a better future of your family? Have faith in her. She's actually on your side. However, you may need to convince her on that. Just imagine - what if some sudden emergency arises? What if someone in your home suddenly falls ill and need to see a doc? Who's gonna pay for that? What are you suppose to do in order to tackle the situation? Are you going to send money through Registry-Post? Give your wife a fixed amount of money each month and ask her to spend it as she wishes. Give her some liberty for God's sake.
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@dfollin (27267)
• United States
6 Jul 11
Exactly! Discuss it,don't make it one sided.You are partners.When my husband and I married I already had a son I was getting a small amount of child support for.Then we had a child also.My husband was a plumber,he did not have a huge paying job,but we got by,barely.But,he told me to spend the small child support as I see fit.I had the check book and paid the bills each month.If we had an unusual expense come up,then we would discuss how to handle it.But,he NEVER went to work where I had no money in my pocket!It wasn't a lot,but if I had to take the kids out,even just to run a simple errand I at least had money for drinks and a snack at least.Or enough even to get a meal at a fast food restaurant.
Think,man think!
