How do you feel when your family, or close relative, is unappreciative?
By Dominique25
@Dominique25 (9460)
United States
August 19, 2011 8:56am CST
Some of us know of ones that we are close to that aren't appreciative. I think for me personally this makes me really upset. I feel that when others help us out and give of their time and resources to help us we should show our appreciation. I strongly feel their really isn't excuse for not being appreciative and letting others know that we are glad that they helped. When a family member of mine does this it gets under my skin. Because I can see that others are helping them out and they show literally no appreciation. They won't even go places with the people that helped them out when they are invited and yet they don't have anything better to do. For me I feel bad for the people who helped the individual or individuals out. So frustrating. How do you feel when you see these types of things happen?
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@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
19 Aug 11
Well I'm used to it haha. My family and relatives are not that really showy of what they feel so I cant really read them. I think it is wrong though for someone to do something for another person and expects to be acknowledge in return. If you will do something then it should be at your will and without expecting anything in return. I do agree though that some people right now are rude and don't even say thank you.
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@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
21 Aug 11
Yeah I don't like it when family members aren't appreciative. Not that anyone asks them to say thank you. But when I see others do awesome things for them and they don't even say thank you that is really upsetting to me. Because I was raised that you say thank you when others do things for you, and that you show your appreciation. I just consider it rude not to show that when others help you out.
@chiyosan (30186)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Sometimes it happens. I would sa that even I are or have been guilty of this one time or another when i think i need to catch time, when i think i need to do something for myself, for my work, for the things i want to do, etc... well i know that it is really true that this happens to us - we have been unappreciative once too and our friends and family or relative have somehow thought we were unappreciative though we do appreciate them - we are just not as good in shopwing our feelings.
It is of course very frustrating that we are not appreciated, but i guess we just have to be sensitive to know that people love us, just not the way we wanted them to.
@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
3 Dec 11
Yes I agree with you. I'm sure that we have all been guilty of this at one time another especially when we are busy doing so many things. I do think that it is important for us to make the effort to show our appreciation when we have the opportunity or we aren't that busy. I've come to see that sometimes individuals aren't appreciative even when they could be. And I do think it is important that we show our love for others and appreciate that they love us to.
@greenline (14838)
• Canada
20 Aug 11
Yes, that is very disappointing and frustrating. I have had bad experience with those people, relatives and friends. It is so amazing that people can be so ungrateful to those who went out of the way to extend help. Any way, there are different types of people in the world.
@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
22 Aug 11
Yeah it is very frustrating. Sometimes I just wonder how people can really get this bad. Perhaps because with the way they were raised, or how they just feel themselves. I want to make sure that my children are appreciative to everyone who help them.
@bewitched13 (792)
• India
20 Aug 11
It is really disgusting when people do not appreciate when it needs to be. But the worst part is that the same people know to demean you and they will never lose and opportunity. I hate such people. What i personally feel is only when a person appreciates, they have the right to depreciate.
Happy mylotting.
@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
22 Aug 11
Yes I agree. There are a lot of people who feel that it doesn't bother them. But it really gets under my skin. Because people work hard, they have the same amount of hours in the day, have bills to pay, and like to enjoy their time and money as well. So I feel when someone helps us out we should definitely show our appreciation for their efforts.
@sirulrike034 (166)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
I don't take it personally when a family member or a close relative is unappreciative. As a middle child, I get used to not having much attention given by my parents. I don't get mad or hate them or rebel again them because of that. I just understand my situation and read through materials that would help me manage my emotions.
Some of them are unappreciative because they expect that you can do better than what you did. I understand that giving compliments makes someone motivated but I also give compliments to those whom what I think is deserving. I just do not overdo it.
@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
22 Aug 11
I'm glad that you are this way. I'm sure having this attitude has helped you reduce your amount of stress a great deal. Reading material on how to handle our emotions is a good idea. I think reading material such as this is very practical when we deal with family and friends who are this way.
@enigma13 (372)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
Some people are just too thick. My in-laws are the most ungrateful people in the world. They won't acknowledge any good deed that you have done for them. Not only that, they also love taking people for granted. So this is not news to me. I've accepted the fact that they are like that. So long as I know that I've done my part, I'm at peace with myself. They are the least of my problems. It's normal to feelirked about these kinds of people though. You are not alone Dominique25. ;P
@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
22 Aug 11
Yeah sometimes it's just better to not bother with it. I think it's easier to do this though when you don't have to worry about seeing the individual often. Then it really is easier to just ignore it. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts.
@koperty3 (1876)
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19 Aug 11
The problem with my family is that they never appreciate anything so I'm not even upset. I do what I can do. I help them if they need help and if I can of course. I don't care if they appreciate it or not. I stop listening their talking long time ago. I'm adult and I pay my bills not someone else. I wish you nice day!
@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
22 Aug 11
Yeah it is pretty sad when our family is this way so often that we just get use to it. I agree though that it is good for us to help them when they really need. I don't like to let anyone talk advantage of me, and i feel this way even with regards to my family. I think that people should be hard working and not always look to others because they know that they will help.
