my friends friend...

It sounds like this person is a chronic complainer. Often people do not give them the same respect others get, because of their negative attitude. That person needs to look at things in a more positive way and I think she will get treated better at work.

You can not motivate someone who is always complaining. If that friend has the same benefits as the others it means she/he is blind for what is going on. She is also not able to appreciate what she/he has and will never be satisfied and always look for an excuse why others seem to have more. The grass is not always greener at the other side! It might show that way but you don't know what people do, how hard they have to work to make it look that green. That friend is not working at all, just complaining. If you want something you have to work for it. If you don't have enough money you have to ask yourself where your priorities are. You want the newest cellphone? Well then you have to skip other things from your list like: buying clothes, buying cooked meals/dinner, going out etc. That way she can have exactly the same. To be honest, this is not the kind of person I would like to have for a friend and there is no reason to motivate her. You can't motivate lazy complaining people who are not willing to have a close look at themselves and are only saying they are discrimated because they are foreigner. I would not even take such a person seriously and feel ashamed to have a friend like that.

I hate people who are always complaining. Just this lunch, my office mate and i told an office mate who was complaining of how her purchased food tasted not good. I bought the same food, yet i like it so much, but here she is complaining. So , we told her " you are always complaining. It's as if nothing is delicious or good with you anymore. Lower your standards in life so you won't complain on things." And she kept silent. Now if your friend is like that, you might as well tell her to lower her standards and just bear what she has to bear because there are a lot of unemployed people.