will you marry me: NO!
@luntian_grace (1373)
Philippines
December 7, 2011 1:57am CST
what would you feel if you propose to someone that you love... then just to be turned down?
what if someone who isn't your boyfriend who will come and propose to you? well he's a dear friend... would you accept?
ok i must be out of my mind when i did that. i know that voice inside me is saying your out of your mind... he was a good boyfriend i just hope that he is still alive after i turned him down and broke up with him... i know it's been three years since the last communication... well he has this suicidal tendencies... we are too a like... he is the best boyfriend ever even though we don't see each other like normal couples do... but he always made time for me though his busy with his kids (students). and i always made time for him... but then i... just can't do it... i choose him over a job. and i felt guilty that i did... a person over a job (dream). he was a sweet person that's one thing that i miss the most of him... i just want to say sorry and i don't want to hurt him, though i move on with life.
and things are doing well i thought that nobody would drop a bomb on the door... after more than two years well my world was turn upside down... very persistent... he proposed four times and i turn him down four times... his not a boyfriend but a dear friend... his fifteen years older than i am but never see him as a romantic but just a good brother... god! is he good looking? no doubt about it... tall (nice bone structure)... is he dark... no a bit pale... and god he is too well with guitars... one that can really turn my knees weak is a man holding a guitar and rip it... but then again i can't take someone that is just looking for a wife... a woman needs to be love and not to be just a wife... so i turned him down... well i think he will never be my friend ever after a commotion.
yes all in all i have five proposals and i turned them all down... i know! i am out of my mind! specially with the first one! over a job... god!
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4 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8691)
• Netherlands
8 Dec 11
I had enough proposals too but why should I accept them?
Why accepting it and be with someone who doesn't mean the world (or something else) to you? If your life alone is great and full of freedom and happiness?
Then only someone special, someone who can add something great to the life you already have, is good enough.
Just a dear friend is not a good reason to get married and be sticked to someone for ...
There must be something special in that person if you say yes otherwise it should be a NO. A big one since giving false hope or living with someone you don't love is the worst thing you can do.
@luntian_grace (1373)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
he was a friend but then... i don't think that he loves me too... we both felt the same... he thinks he loves me but then again i know that he is not... he is trying so hard to have a wife... i know that it hurts him so much seeing his nephew and nieces being married and have children of their own... he wants that for himself but just afraid to be turned down by a woman he loves... may be being turned down by a friend would hurt as much knowing that their is no love after all at the end of everything. i see it in his eyes he is afraid to love and get hurt...
the truth is i want to give it a shot but knowing him... i know that he can't give the thing that i am looking for my man... LOVE! he can only give me friendship and companionship and that is all. and i know that some day after the walking in the aisle he would regret it for he will find someone that he truly love but trap in a situation that he could have walk away... i want to be his friend... i want what is best for him and i know that that is not us being together as man and wife but as good old friends...
@sjvg1976 (42727)
• Delhi, India
7 Dec 11
Hello luntian_grace,
I did an arrange marriage,
it was difficult to adjust with a person who you don't know but after being married for 7 years it seems like we did love marriage.
In my opinion too its not good for a girl to marry a person who is 15 years older than her.I think in marriage age matters as it becomes difficult to adjust with a person having age difference as both minds think differently as per their age and there are chances that marriage gets break in lesser time.
it was difficult to adjust with a person who you don't know but after being married for 7 years it seems like we did love marriage.
In my opinion too its not good for a girl to marry a person who is 15 years older than her.I think in marriage age matters as it becomes difficult to adjust with a person having age difference as both minds think differently as per their age and there are chances that marriage gets break in lesser time.
@brew2x (3094)
• Philippines
7 Dec 11
What would you feel if you propose to someone that you love... then just to be turned down?
That would be a slap in my face. I'm always serious when it comes to relationship and of course I won't propose if we know each other for just a couple of months. What I'm trying to say is, you should only be with someone you think you could possibly end up with and not for any other reason. If things are not working good between the two of you, I wonder why should you stay still with each other? On the other hand, if things are doing good and you've known each other for a long time. How could possibly that someone turn you down. Well, we should expect the unexpected in this world and almost everything is possible. I think I will feel mix of emotions if ever I get turn down. I will be angry, confuse and sad at the same time.
What if someone who isn't your boyfriend who will come and propose to you? Well he's a dear friend... would you accept?
I will decline. For me a friend is a friend. A lover could be a friend but a friend couldn't be my lover.
