dire straits .Don't know what to do.
By suman2008
@suman2008 (683)
India
January 9, 2012 4:34am CST
One of my closest friend is in dire straits.He is already in love with a girl who is 8 years younger than him.He loves that girl ,but he is like everything to that girl.She does not have any other friend apart from my friend.
Recently under his parents pressure he had to meet a new girl for marriage .Though the new girl does not look great but she is a very nice person indeed.Now she is utter confused about whom to choose.
He ask me to help him out of this situation.I am also puzzled to solve this.That's why I have asked you guys.
Wish you all a belated very happy new year.
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8 responses
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
It's only your friend who can decide who would be the girl for him to spend for the rest of his life. He should weigh things specially his feelings.
He should choose the one who is more dear to him.
@suman2008 (683)
• India
9 Jan 12
Well,Thanks for your reply,but he is my best friend that's why I am worried.
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
I think that's how we love our friends. Whatever hurt they may experience, we will feel it too.
@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
10 Jan 12
It sounds like he is from a culture where they like to arrange the marriage. Is he old enough to make the decision for himself of whom he would like to choose for his wife?
Is he in love with both girls? I don't think you can help him choose his bride.
Is the girl that is 8 years younger than him old enough to be married?
He needs to decide which girl he wants to share the rest of his life with. Who he has the most in common with, who he can talk to easily and carry on a conversation with.
Good luck to him.
Have a wonderful New Year.
@suman2008 (683)
• India
11 Jan 12
Thank you MaryLynn,nice to see your respond after a long long days.You have pointed out some very good things.My friend is now 28.He seems to be more comfortable with the girl that his parents chose for him.But what he will say to his old girl friend?
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@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
11 Jan 12
I don't know what your friend will say to his old girlfriend. Does she even know that his parents have chose a girl for him to marry? It is sad that she will be hurt if he chooses the new girlfriend. Maybe his parents saw things in the relationship he had that they thought might not work. Maybe this new girl has more in common with him. He needs to realize that he needs to choose one or the other and that there has to be finality with the girl he does not choose. This needs to be done so he does not wonder year down the road about what could have been.
@madugulagopi (1093)
• India
9 Jan 12
Its your friend who has to chose his partner. No one should advise on whom to chose because he would be the person who knows the two gals better than you so it is better for him to chose for himself.
@suman2008 (683)
• India
11 Jan 12
Yes madugulagopi,you said exactly right thing but I met both of them and my friend has told me his every bit of feelings, that's why he is seeking my suggestion.
@suman2008 (683)
• India
11 Jan 12
Well cearn,I will keep your advise in my mind.Thank you for helping me at least.
Have a nice day.
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
I think you can suggest to him to choose who is the girl he really like and he think that he will love for the rest of his life. Marriage is not simple as playing games so he must make sure who is he really like and he really love. He must not listen to others but he must listen to his self.. Happy Mylotting..
@suman2008 (683)
• India
11 Jan 12
Well bubuth,the point is that his current girlfriend is still studying and the girl whom he met a few months ago is a school teacher.So she is more knowledgeable from the former one.That's why he is puzzled.
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
15 Jan 12
It is sounding to me as if he is not really in love with either of them. If he is choosing them on their work-related success then he is falling in love with the purse and not the girl. You said that he loved the younger girl and yet he easily stopped loving her enough to love this other girl whom he just met even more. Sounds like your friend has some growing up to do.
@512771751 (1096)
• China
26 Jul 12
Oh, it is so hard to make a choice. Maybe he has to lose something when he get something. Then things will be more easy.
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
15 Jan 12
How old is your friend? I'm guessing that this girl that he is "in love" with that's 8 yrs younger is way way too young to even be involved with him?? I don't agree with arranged marriages at all so if I were your friend, I would not agree to marrying anyone just because my parents wanted me to. I think that love is an important factor in marriage but that's just my personal opinion.
@thanks1961 (7033)
• India
10 Jun 12
I am 11 years elder than my wife! Yes, it is not a joke and true. Even I was not knowing she aged in that low when I know each other. Only it come to know after marriage and I was under the impression that she may be 2-3 years difference. By look and physical nature even now also we won't look that much difference. Any way, if they are physically make a lot of difference, then decide what to do, otherwise age difference is not a matter at all. However, I know it is so late to mark a comment after 6 months, but curious to know what happened later on...
