ever tried to find out if your partner is cheating on you

Ouch! That's real cheating because you found it by your own. Better to talk to him about this things to clarify what happen and why he didn't love you anymore?

So sad to hear about this.My exgirl friend did the same.I did not talk to her like a stranger.But she always tells that she does not love me to all her friends and to any stranger.Saying that she goes out with those guys and finally ending up dating all those guys.For three years,she could not find a guy better than me,but then she ditched me and went out with another guy for his money and job.I was so blind not to see this and loving her for three years.I beleived her that she was just seeking new friends and not to ditch me.You better ask this to him directly.May be its like my situation.Or may be he was lying being a total stranger.Just talk it out.

I had a partner that I didn't suspect was cheating... but we were having trouble and it was pretty clear the relationship wasn't making it. He tried to connect with a girl from his high school days via Facebook. Apparently, she was "special" and I guess "the one that got away". He went home to visit family and tried to see her in person (she refused). Apparently he told her he was married "but wasn't going to see his next anniversary." I just mention this because it seems that people will say anything sometimes to get what they want. In the case of your partner, he might have been saying that because a lot of people lie online so they can "experiment" and "fool around"... you know that classic "my wife doesn't understand me" line? *sighhhh* People can truly be hurtful in ways we don't expect or imagine. So sorry you had to go through that!

Oh, Im so sorry that happened. I know the feeling because my boyfriend from before almost did that to me and with my economics classmate. But that was long forgotten. But whenever I feel that something is not right, like when I feel that he is cheating on me. I would find a way to know something about it or investigate or question him. until I find out if what i am suspecting is true or not.

I once suspected, not my BF cheating, but a girl flirting with him. I got an intuition when I saw some group photos on FB. I could not confront him about it as I know he might only get defensive. So I pretended to be ok but meanwhile I was asking someone who knew them both to spy on them. Turned out that the girl really admitted to my spy that she had a crush on my boyfriend. But my spy could attest that there's nothing between them but friendship. That was the time that I opened up to my boyfriend in calm manner. I told him what I felt about it, told him it bothered me since I could not be with him 24/7. And he honestly told me that he only considers her as a friend. I know it's difficult to just trust that he's loyal to me but I chose to trust. If he cheats on me, he breaks my trust, that's the end of him.

Sorry to hear that, what a terrible way to find that out. I have had suspicions in the past with my partner and just asked him out right, of course he said he wasn't, but i did believe him. He's a terrible liar so i can tell when its the truth and a lie. My suspicions went pretty much straight away, i was just paranoid over nothing.

Oh no, that's horrible! I have found out that someone has been cheating on me before from their mobile phone and it really hurts. Your partner should just have told you how he was feeling. A break up is always painful but it is better in the long run to be honest. Cheating-type behaviour just creates extra hurt and anxiety.

Oh my that hurts! So sorry for what you've learned You have thought of a great idea. And it is really good that you have finally knew the truth. He wasn't cheating on you but not love you anymore. It is better at least you have found it out than just waiting for him to tell you. He might not know how to begin telling you so he was just telling a stranger. So what did you with it? Did you finally broke up with him?