do you have to give up dreams
By C
@ShyBear88 (59342)
Sterling, Virginia
February 4, 2012 10:56pm CST
Do you think you have to give up all of your dreams if you have or had a kid at a young age?
I don't think any parent has to give up there dreams when they have a child. If they really want to do something that will not only better themselves up there child's life then I say go for your dreams. If its to finish school,get a better job, maybe travel a little bit it all can be done. Maybe not all the time frame you want it to be done but anything is possible if you really want it.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Feb 12
Unless you want to be a ballerina or gymnast, you know a profession where you need to be young to do, I think parenthood shouldn't stop you. It may be a little harder or take a little longer but dreams can come true.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
7 Feb 12
Ballerina's can be any age. Gymnast yeah you tend to retire between 16 and 18 because then no body wants you any more after that age.
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@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Feb 12
You can still have a kid and do that. Many women do both and you know 25 is like the new old when it comes to dance since most all women have kids in there early 20's these days.
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@maximax8 (31042)
• United Kingdom
13 Feb 12
I don't think it is wise for a young mom to give up all her dreams. She could put her baby into daycare and get a good education. She could then get a great career when her studies end. I know that is is possible to travel overseas when you have one or two kids. I take my four year old disabled son and my two year old daughter on trips overseas. Next month we will be off to Argentina and Chile. I know that parents could do a little baby sitting to give the young mom a little spare time. If a girl has her baby at age seventeen then she will only in her mid thirties when her kid becomes a grown up.
One of my cousins got pregnant at age sixteen and had her first son at age seventeen. She went on to get pregnant again and she had an abortion which she later regretted. She got pregnant again soon afterwards and kept her baby boy. Now she is over forty years old her life is very different. Fifteen years ago she got a four year work visa for Australia. She met a man and fell in love. I went to visit her twelve years ago in Western Australia. She is happy living in Australia with her husband.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
13 Feb 12
I wasn't talking about giving up education just a dreams what ever it is to be a cook or an artiest you know those things that any young parent would still want to do if they didn't have kids. Not just the mom's but the dad's as well. There is two parents to ever child that is created so they both have dreams of wanting to do something. If they want that dream they can do it. But also you have to think daycare isn't cheap its every expensive in some places.
Also when talking about young parents please don't assume only one parent is in the picture that is only the mom. This discussion actually came from a father that was 17 and still wanted to be a song writer and he did it, it just took longer for him and his girlfriend to get to where they wanted. No matter father or mother both can live out there dreams it just might take awhile and dreams might change.
@lilaclady (28206)
• Australia
5 Feb 12
I believe anyone can fulfil their dreams, it would probably be a bit harder with a baby to care for to but I think it would give someone more to work for in their dreams and they already have a wonderful dream come true , they made a baby and that is really something.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
5 Feb 12
That is right, anything is possible if you try for it. Yes some times having a baby can make things a little bit harder but not impossible it'll happen in its own time. Maybe not always when you want it to but if you work hard and do your best any dream an happen.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Feb 12
Honestly, the reason that I gave up my dreams was because of the fact that it was something that was just too expensive for my family to be able to do, but then shortly after I quit school, I did end up having my daughter. When she was born, I realized that the dreams that I'd always had for myself was actually not something that I really wanted to do with the rest of my life.
So, it is my feeling that being a parent will make your dreams change, but it doesn't mean that you have to give up your dreams.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Feb 12
Well when your young dreams do change a often but for some it never changes. Its about how much you really want it in the end. If it something badly that you want you'll get there.
