Had to give one of my cats away :o(
By marie2052
@marie2052 (3691)
United States
February 11, 2012 11:35am CST
Friends that follow my discussions know I had two cats. Mawmaw being my black and white kitty and then Tink who looks almost like a siamese except for a couple of white markings on him.
As Mawmaw is getting older (4) She seemed to be getting territorial.
If Tink even entered the bedroom it was like someone opening up a can of Whoop A** on him.
This never took place during the day but around 10pm to midnight EVERY night. Its been going on more and more in the last 3 months.
My hubby has to get up at 3 to 4 am depending on when he has to be in at work, so naturally I don't want him to be woken up by cat fights.
Some nights I would put Tink on a pillow up above my head and he would try to stay there but most cats get up sometime during the night. When he would try to come back she would beat the crap out of him again.
So I finally saw everytime he laid with me in the evenings before hubby come to bed, he would always be alert and on guard.
So I finally put her on Craigslist and gave her to an older lady that I think and hope she will be very good to her.
But the question is I know some of you have more than one cat in the family. Does this happen? She was spayed and he is neutered. Its the first time I have ever had two cats together as I usually only dealt with one at a time when the kids would have a kitten given to them or a stray they would find and the words "can we keep him momma?" how do you say no. LOL
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@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
11 Feb 12
At one time I had 4 cats and didn't really have any problems. The male was the dominant one, and the 3 females what would make him mad and they just didn't do it. The male and two of the females were from same the same mother, and I don't know if that made any difference. I don't think it did, because the one he didn't tolerate as much was one of his siblings. It seems funny, but he had his favorites and they could get away with a lot more than the one he didn't like as much. It was just like he was a human male, and always got his way or would beat them up. It is a shame that there was no other solution to your problem. Hopefully she got a good home.
@marie2052 (3691)
• United States
12 Feb 12
The lady was very kind she had lost her husband and did not want a dog that she had to take outside.
Mawmaw seemed to take to her right away and I gave her mawmaws favorite blanket and food.
Also got her scratching circle that has the balls that roll around thats her favorite toy.
I can go visit her any time I want she said so I thought that was kind.
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@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
12 Feb 12
It sounds like she will be very nice to her and you found her a good home. I'm sure that makes you feel better. It was nice that she said you could still see her.
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@mariab2000 (740)
• Canada
12 Feb 12
I'm sorry to hear to hear that you had t o give away one of your cats, it must be very sad for you. I have never kept cats before so I have no idea if there is jealousy or this kind of problem for people who keep more than one cats. I know a few people who have kept 2 cats at a time and I haven't heard anything like this from them. Anyways, I hope your cat finds a good home with the old lady and is well taken care of.
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@marie2052 (3691)
• United States
2 May 12
Thank you mariab2000 for being so kind.
Mawmaw is definately doing good and Tink and her both are sucking up and enjoying the good life LOL
I still feed and treat her as the lady could not afford to take care of her but wanted her desperately. So she is still in my life. She is in good hands.
Of course Tink being with me thinks he is in BETTER hands LOL.
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
11 Feb 12
Khuay and Murphy (she's a she) have that animosity. He will try to thump on her all throughout the day at various times. I usually try to catch him at it and let him have a thump of my own to let him know that it isn't acceptable behavior. I won't give either of them up since it isn't a constant thing each day.
Murphy is also an instigator. She will give a healthy swat and spit at any of the clan that invade her territory. She has been an only cat for 6 years and then I started adding to my group, she still thinks she should be an only cat. If the guys even pass where she is sleeping they get thumped and spit at. It's just cat nature to get ugly about their territory. After all, cats are rather territorial and it sounds like yours were no exception.
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@marie2052 (3691)
• United States
25 Feb 12
I could not believe how bad it was getting. I have several ailments and they would wake me but knowing my husband had to get up in the mornings between 3 and 4am I could not keep the two from fighting.
Since I gave her up Tink sleeps every night and does not bother us. So it has been a blessing in disguise I guess.
mawmaw has a really good home. I took some treats to her and she looked at me like she could care less LOL
She is that independent until SHE wants in your lap or sleep next to you.
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
11 Feb 12
Maybe she was jealous of you & didn't want him coming near you. I had one cat that was as sweet as sugar until I got married. She would rub on him & basically leave my husband alone as long as he was no where near me; but let him get close to me, she would attack!!! Every time he hugged me, I was on lookout for an attack. I hope Mawmaw's new owner will give her a good home & I hope you, your hubby, & Tink will finally find some peace!!!
@marie2052 (3691)
• United States
12 Feb 12
She was deffinately jealous of me. The tirad did not start til I come to bed to knit or read a book. It was like Let the Games Begin LOL
Now Tink lays on the bed and sleeps all night
When he did come on the bed the poor baby was so stressed he would not sleep. Then all day he would be so tired he would sleep anywhere he could get in my lap.
Yes the lady is nice and I can visit Mawmaw when I want so things have quieted down thanks.
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@telmesh (1793)
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11 Feb 12
What a shame bet you have mixed emotions having to give one of your pets away but things could not continue the way they were. My sons family has three cats the mother, son and daughter, the mother is a very small cat and the offspring are a reasonable size. Mum is always snipping at the youngsters as the go by but they all know their own food bowl and stick to their own. They tolerate each other at a distance.
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@marie2052 (3691)
• United States
12 Feb 12
Yes it was hard but She went and made friends with the lady while she was here. Since I had to take care of Tink since he was 5 weeks old and so sickly in and out of the vets til he was almost 6 months old. He sincerely thinks I am his mommy.
So when he tried to come to bed Mawmaw would just beat the daylights out of him.
So I had to do something because my husband has to sleep nights and get up very early to go to work.
it was hard but the house is truly lot quieter. I think Tink is even relieved from being Beat on all the time.
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@NailTech (6874)
• United States
11 Feb 12
I'm so sorry you had to give your cat away. I hope the cat is with a loving caring woman now who won't have a problem. There are ways to help in these cases and although I'm not an expert on cat behaviour, I think it could have been resolved with both cats still living there. I have had the problem before, with just minor spats, but one of my cats was very territorial with other people's cats in the neighborhood, to the point where I wanted to keep him in the house all the time. That never worked so I had to just keep a watchful eye on him when I could. He got into so many cat fights though, and a few times had to be taken to the vet for medical care. I can only imagine what he did to the other cats. 
He loved people but hated most other cats. My dad gave him the nic "Terror of the Neighborhood". 
He loved people but hated most other cats. My dad gave him the nic "Terror of the Neighborhood". 2 people like this
