lost the mood to celebrate valentines
By kaeirole
@kaeirole (668)
Philippines
February 12, 2012 7:55am CST
i know it's not a-must to celebrate valentine's day..but for me,i want to try to celebrate it with my partner..since we were on a long distance relationship for 2 years and we never had the chance to be together on valentine's..but even if we were apart, i never failed to do some effort in giving some silly surprises online during that day..
and now that we're only few houses away from each other, i planned to do a little silly surprise i used to give her..got things planned already..but just today, i lost the mood to do it..i don't know..she was treating me so cold..and i just hate it, so everything follows in me..i also got cold to her..and i don't if my mood will get back before it's too late..
6 responses
@Flashpointer (784)
• Philippines
12 Feb 12
Maybe she thinks that your selfish effort is not counted since she was expecting some more about you than having maintaining relationships by using online. Let's say how much she missed you, worries too much about you and sometimes can't sleep properly without your personal visit within 2 years. Well, you can't blame her because to her it is still important that you visit once in a while than visit her online regularly. I know, it is unfair that she treated you cold, but consider her also her feelings. The only treatment that you can do is give her warmth that came from your heart because she was trapped by her own depression. Forget online, go there and do what a man got to do.
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@Flashpointer (784)
• Philippines
13 Feb 12
Well maybe staying in one place without going out makes a person feel depressed. Ask her out, maybe in her favorite sports just to ward off her depression. Like you are the doctor and she is your patient. It is really difficult to treat person with mood swings or with kind of unpredictable depressions if you are pretending but when you love that person and never gives up, she feels you are still there in her heart. Just don't rush things up, if it needs to court her everyday why not. Since she was expecting more about you unless she open up a heart to heart talk discussions and you might able to fill that needs she wants.
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@WakeUpKitty (8691)
• Netherlands
12 Feb 12
As I understand your mood depends on how she is responding? Might be it's the same with her. So if you both stay cold nothing will change. A long distance relationship is completely different as living a few houses away from each other. Now you can see every step she takes. This can be very confusing.
If this relationship means anything to you, you can force yourself to be attentive and open and take the chance and see how she responds.
If it's not worth to you anymore, end this relationship. Ps Sometimes we have to force ourself to be lovely even if we don't feel like it.
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@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
12 Feb 12
Hmmm she might be having some mood swings lately. I think the moment you surprised her, you will definitely see her so happy and smiling. So just do what you planned to do to surprise her on Valentines day!
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@indi15 (888)
• India
13 Feb 12
I think you should give her a surprise as yo do every year , celebrate the day happily and then have a chat with her about your feelings.Do not worry she will understand, may be there is something troubling her also.
