No-One At Impact Housing Is Taking Me Seriously

Please don't take this the wrong way but it's actually comforting for me to realise I'm not alone in having to cope with noise. I've often thought I was silly and being unreasonable but I now know differently. The one thing that worries me about moving is living next door to similar neighbours to the ones we have now. Then we would be back to Square One. Apparently, the in-laws moved 3 times before they found a house that didn't have noisy neighbours. One house they lived in had neighbours who ran a pub elsewhere. After closing time (which would've been bang on 11pm then) these people would bring back a load of mates to their house and party. This happened every night! I am pleased the in-laws now have a lovely home with a massive garden they can relax in and they've been there since the mid-80s. Unfortunately, we haven't the finances for such a home but ANYTHING is better than putting up with dodgy neighbour after dodgy neighbour. It isn't right.

Hiya Janey, No its only a normal reaction to what is happening around you. I think that you either need to make yourself less seen and not take heed of their music because alas they might do it even more than before just out of pure spite. I have lived with spiteful people and know what that is and how bad it can get to be. Sort of you do this to me and I will do it even more back to you. I don´t mind I don´t take things the wrong way most of the time. Today is one of those Days when in this House I might just have well as said nothing in particular as they are pretty much egoistical lol and they only see their view of things so in that sense I can get to feel pretty much alone and I then remember how many Women are putting up with much more than that in this World. It was my Husband who called the Police to those upstairs but they were so cowardly they did not take it out on him they took it out on me instead well if I was around often enough. I had to go shopping right across the other side of the area where we were living that is how bad it got to be. At one time there were at least 15 of them living there all the time and during the Day at least 30 of them going up and down in the lift all Day long so you can imagine. They are very spiteful people when they want to be. They will never change although I wish they would. Its nice to know that some like your inlaws have been able to break away from the noisy neighbours thing good for them. You would indeed be horrified if I could have put into a video where we used to live in another place where every July from one date to another there was a permanent Disco day and night with about 50 big music woofers right underneath you making the walls dance and vibrate up to yet I have not found one video but I still look every so often. No one did anything about this at all. On those very dates and before the lucky people that could get to flee the City did because they could not take it. Pure hell was what I called it. Since then I have moved because I had to but anything like that I have never heard of since. They have told me that he moved his Disco somewhere else at the very least he should have been fined but he was an ex policeman so with that I think I have said everything. If you cannot move I used to do things to distract myself from the very thing that was annoying me and it was the only way around it. Will give you an example a Neighbour downstairs had a Baby and she let it cry all Day and Night I had just lost a little Baby Girl two weeks before then so I was still very sensitive to the loss. Here then they had the Cavemans mentality and I was not allowed to do things the right way. No one understood what I was going through so I picked up a pair of headphones and I had them on all the time the baby was crying. Poor child I feel was never loved very much but he grew to be a toughie thank goodness. That was the only way I got through that and I was explaining that to a Matron who lost a Baby Girl and she exclaimed oh Sue I would have gone beserk don´t know how you put up with it and she had been seeing Babies delivered every Day for years but when it came to losing her own she could not cope with it truly amazing so if you thought like I did that they seemed to be made of rubber lol how mistaken I was and she is great fun to be with lol.xxx Janey when you live in a high rise block of flats you can get to learn so much that in a way I am grateful for being able to learn. My Husband and kids have never been able to cope with anything like this and they still find it just as difficult. Try and go out Janey rise above them all you can say here is Janey but don´t confront them with reporting them the more you can ignore them the better I know that you can do it. Go to a Friend´s House when you can all you can. When I lived over there I had a really nosey Neighbour and I had a House with an outside Toilet she knew what time I went in the Toilet and so on I can almost bet she had a Diary about what I did and did not do lol. Luckily for me I had a Job with long hours so that broke it up for me with that bothersome Woman. Really its not a case of you running away from your House but distracting yourself all you can. You might well say well why should I when its them who are the cause well try not to see it that way and things can get better for you they really can and remember there are millions of people in this world and they are only a miserable handful. Fortitude is not my strongest point either but I have made it that so I could stand strong against these pesky people. Got another one two Doors away and I ignore him he is trying to find faults about the Dog you see but I have almost got him beat now all I need is the muzzle which with regret I am going to have to put on him when I walk him outside of here like it or not. You see they are on an Anti-Dogs Campaign at the moment and because I have a big Dog they are making them a target. If I lived near to you you would probably forget that they ever existed those lovely people near to you. Have to go now Janey boy have I rattled on here but that is how I coped you see and how I will cope with those pesky nosey so and sos.xxx

You live in Spain don't you, is that right? I believe Spaniards only like little dogs and whenever I've been over there there are little dogs all over the place, pampered as anything and yet anything bigger than a poodle is treated poorly. I would MUCH prefer a big dog than a little blighter, believe you me. Preferably a labrador or doberman! That's an amazing tale you tell there of the disco. Was that in the country you are in now or England? I guess there are noisy people in whichever country we choose to live in. Can't escape 'em lol. As for my neighbours. My rant has actually worked. Because one of them thinks I'm a "nutter" I reckon those at Impact Housing have told her to not get me wound up. Let her think I'm a nutter, I don't care. If it means living next to someone who's quiet bring on the white coats and pills, I don't care! Haha!

It didn't help that John was working very late today so my stress levels were sky high at tea-time (when I was washing up after eating by myself) and I just kicked off in the kitchen, banging a huge spoon on the sink, swearing my head off. All they did next door was laugh so we're gonna have to move, I think.

Yes, I can fully understand you there Janey. We came to the conclusion that we would have to move. The tenants next door just seemed to continue ignoring the law. They would be OK for a week or so, and then suddenly start up all over again. They knew that they would not be there permanently, as they were there for a year or two. I ended up playing my electric keyboards at full blast early one morning around 7.30 a.m, just to stir up their hangovers a bit.. but it didn't really work. I then had to go and explain to my other neighbour on the other side why I had done it, but he just said, "You'r OK.. Good for you!". He also told me that he could hear them coming through our house! And had contacted the council himself. I can understand the effects because for several months after moving here I would be listening for unwanted noise. The silence was like having won the lottery. I hope you get it resolved. A good tactic is instead of trying to block out the noise focus on it fully. It is a meditative tactic that can work sometimes, but not all the time.. _Derek

Yes, I did that with my music yesterday..but I didn't really want it on and that was annoying me as well. Plus the fact it didn't have the desired effect. What I wanted to happen was the neighbours turning their music down once they heard how loud mine was..you know, get the hint? It didn't work though which is why I contacted Impact Housing in the end. The "main woman" at Impact Housing has received communication from me and I reckon there must be meetings going on today as the neighbours aren't in the house at the moment. Coincidence? Maybe. But, like I said, even if they are moved the next lot replacing them will probably be the same. This is the problem. Not even Impact Housing know what a tenant will be like until they have moved in.

That sounds perfectly reasonable to me mate...after all, everyone knows that the sound of hanging wallpaper is deafening.

I've been reading a lot more about Noise Pollution and our Environmental Health section of the Council..and it makes interesting reading..well, for boring people like me anyway. For starters, I was right about the music during the day thing. The comment that woman from Impact Housing made was well out of order because she's wrong..and I knew it too. Since then the noise has gone from next door and they are out during the day. I've never had a problem with noise at night so I'm fortunate in that respect. As for lawnmowers..none of those round here but I did read that equipment like that shouldn't be used early in the morning or late at night, for obvious reasons. However, the funniest was "no decorating on a Sunday." We've been guilty of that one but it has been rare and it's usually Saturday the FIL has been round but he's not supposed to start before 10am but has done, although the people on the other side have moved out (where all the decorating has been happening) so I think we're safe lol.

It's amazing how many people have gardens and don't look after them. Some even dig it all up and put gravel in there for their precious car. None of that here as we just have yards at the back and the front of the house is right on the footway, if you see what I mean. As for the neighbours; since my kick-off last week they've been really quiet and hardly ever in the house (but they haven't moved out as I've seen washing on the line) and Kenny moved out from the other side a couple of months ago but we're yet to get replacements. There have been workmen and women in there but nobody actually moving in..and I hope to God whoever it may be is alright!!

Who are the hasidic's? Never heard of that term before, my friend. Yes, we have similar laws over here and the comment the woman from Impact Housing made (about the noise being during the day) was wrong and I KNEW she was wrong, which is why I slammed the door in her face. I was getting nowhere with her and it got me so mad. Anyway, since then the neighbours have been like Church Mice lol.

The Hasidic's are the ultra religious jews. It is amazing how some people actually get away with things and others do not. You know and I know if it were us playing music loud like that someone would be called the cops in about three seconds. I know how you feel. But I guess the difference is here I live in the city, you sound like you live more in a suburban setting.

Believe me, I could put up with that. Anything instead of loud music and shouting. However, it's been quiet since I "kicked off" as they're hardly in the house now. They go out during the day so perhaps they are at their friends or something. I know they haven't moved out though but I'm OK with them if they're quiet lol.

I reckon even if they are in the house,they may draw in their horns.Everybody must be amendable to reason.

I have done but I think they just got onto Impact Housing rather than create a stink over it.