Love possibly gone!
By edsss17
@edsss17 (4394)
Philippines
May 30, 2012 7:12am CST
This discussion wouldn't be talking about me. I just feel pity towards my Uncle since he's really been sad lately and me and my aunts are really worried.
Let me tell you a bit about him.
Okay. He is a basketball player in our town. Of course, he is known within our area and her wife worked abroad and it has been 5 years since she left and one thing that we are really against since the start is she went abroad as a single in all her documents and she used her father's surname.
So, it has been 5 years already and my uncle haven't received any single call from her but we have heard that her wife always call her parents. Who wouldn't get sad/hurt for that matter, right? 5 YEARS!
What we worry about him now is that he's being sad, distant and silent which he really isn't. He doesn't open up what he really feels and it saddens me as I used to know him as a very jolly person.
We have guessed that his wife has gotten marriage in the country where she have worked and my uncle have thought of that too.
I think his wife's love towards him has possibly gone and it's such a pity. All the years he have waited for his wife and the situation ended like this. 
If only I could do something... 
What do you guys have in mind? Mind sharing it! Thank you!
If only I could do something...
What do you guys have in mind? Mind sharing it! Thank you!1 person likes this
6 responses
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
1 Jul 12
Hello edsss this is really a big problem on the side of your uncle that obviously you observed lately. First thing you have to do is to talk to him constantly. Don't give him an idle time where he could think hi love life. It is true, it is not easy to the concern because it involves the feelings.
Life must go on. He is not the only one who experienced this and yet survived. Show some guys who survive. You never mentioned if your uncle legally married or not I hope they were not formally married to ease the problem. I felt sorry for your uncle.
Mobhomeir here
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
1 Jul 12
Oh boy that's the heaviest load of the father (your uncle). Well, I think the best idea to comfort him is to talk always and encourage him to move on for the sake of his three siblings. What kind of future would his child could get if he would be carried by his sorrows and pains. He must go on, move on and fight his feelings for the sake of his three sons.
Mobhomeir here
070112 1500hrs
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
30 May 12
It's a pity my friend that after 5 years of no communication , he would still pine for his wife. And what's sad is he knows that his wife is regularly calling her parents. 
It's obvious that his wife has fallen out of love. Maybe it would be best that they talk about it heart to heart, so your uncle can move on already.
It's obvious that his wife has fallen out of love. Maybe it would be best that they talk about it heart to heart, so your uncle can move on already. @SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
9 Jun 12
Pray for your Uncle that he can finally meet another woman who can replace the wife who isn't ever present and doesn't care a bit for him anymore. 
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
8 Jun 12
Yes my friend. He knows as bright as the shine of the sum that her wife is calling her parents regularly and doesn't even asked about him.
He tried a lot of times to talk to her wife but the woman seems to ignore every single calls and emails from him. If she would only clear things up, it'd be better for the two of them!
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
30 May 12
The first thought I got while reading your post was 'perhaps they had problems before she left, or perhaps he did something that's why she left'.
I don't want to generalize people but basketball players are not the most loyal people in the world. Women (or girls) flock over them and if you are married and still playing basketball as a profession, you're bound to get into troubles with your wife.
I don't want to be biased but that's the only reason why I think she left and never contacted him ever since.
Anyhow, obviously their relationship is broken, no couple could ever exist not communicating for 5years. I know you and your aunt can't really do anything about it except to help him feel that he's not isolated, that he can go to you guys for comfort and fun.
Don't worry about it, soon he will find someone that would love him and never leave him. Just raise his hopes up and don't pity him.
Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
30 May 12
I know what you think about basketball players but he really is different. He have served his wife really well and almost my grandma freak out when my Uncle seems like he is her maid.
But its just like his wife isn't contented of their simple life. She wants more!
But, who am I to say this, right?
We're still trying to cheer him up! We just want him to be happy.
Thank you for your opinion. Appreciated it very much!
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
30 May 12
my lady
So sad :(
Granted they have a problem before his wife left...it's not a reason for the wife to cheat her husband.
If she really wants to be free -why can't she face her husband and settle the matter.
I also wonder why her parents are not saying a word- unless they are trying to cover everything (its their daughter anyway)
That would be really hard for your uncle and you and your family should help him to overcome depression- that's too dangerous for his situation right now.
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
8 Jun 12
Hi my lady,
Yes. She should at least try to talk to him about them, their family and stuffs. Its not easy for the husband to wait for a wife who doesn't even think of going home..
But still, my uncle keeps waiting for her even though that deep inside him he knew it'd be impossible for her wife to come back. Imagine, 5 years.... no talk, chat or whatsoever!
@penrockerchic (1903)
• Philippines
30 May 12
That sounds a little depressing. I guess most people who go abroad changes some things about their documents especially their marital status because that way, they can get to go abroad easier and get a good job. I know this might sound silly but the way you're describing whatever is going on between you uncle and aunt seems more inclining towards both of them growing apart. This is the reason why I don't believe in long distance relationships 'cause distance can really affect each party in some ways. Maybe your aunt doesn't want to talk to your uncle because she doesn't want to or maybe she may have other reasons with her. Either way, I think your uncle really needs to talk seriously to your aunt in any way he can and even get to her if it's possible, so that they can settle things once and for all, see if there's still love for each other or maybe they both needed to move on. It might be a little difficult to tell him all these but, maybe there's a gentler way of convincing him to do what is necessary for the both of them.
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
8 Jun 12
For me, long distance relationships are scary. Only few couples made it to the end and still holding each others love and trust. It is very rare nowadays and kudos to those who pass it.
Back to the topic, my uncle did try to talk to her a lot of times via online and mobile phone but she's ignore every single one of them and just imagine the pain my uncle had to face.
Me and my aunts had thought that our uncle may also thought the same thing as we have; that probable her wife is already married abroad.
@rewardsinlife (1132)
• United States
30 May 12
Maybe he should call her and ask where her life and her love has gone. If it is true that she has married someone else, he has the right to know at least that! Then he can move on with his own life to help move away from his depression.
