He talks to his ex-wife

That's the problem, when you get with someone that has children with a former spouse, they will always have contact with each other. If he is talking to her for other reason's then there is a problem. I would talk to him and if his response does not sit well with you, then leave him. You certainly don't trust him.

It all depends on how much you trust him. It's 'normal' to be jealous but if you trust your husband to make the right decisions then everything will probably be ok. One thing you don't want to do is bug him about it too much, that may actually drive him away and to her.

they can stay as friends

Have you let him know how you feel? Maybe he doesn't realize how much this upsets you. If he has any respect for you at all he will limit his conversations with her to a time when they are in the company of others so there will be no suspicion. Does he give you any reason to think he can't be trusted? Does he lie, cheat or steal? If not, then let him know how you feel and give him the benefit of the doubt.

Since they have a child together, they are bound to talk some. You do want the child in his life. My guy doesn't get to see his child from a previous relationship, it hurts him bad. As for the ex, what do they talk about most? The child, the house? I would try to monitor the conversations some. Talk to him about his child, take an active part in the part of his life. Let him know you care. Will he be dumb and leave you for her, one never knows. But if you act all jealous and won't listen when he talks about his child and ex, you will be pushing him towards her faster. Just watch what is going on and let him know how much you love him. Good luck.

Wow! That sounds like a very hard situation to be having. I don't know that I could be in a situation like that. My fear would be that one day they would maybe have a one nighter. I am sorry to be saying this, but I would truely thinkin of getting out of this realationship. You are never going to be rid of the EX only cause of the child they share. To me, there would always be a doubt in my head on the both of them, and I don't think I could live with that. I wish you the best of luck with whatever you chose to do.

If they have children, you're right, she'll always be part of your life. He doesn't have to talk to her about anything else
though. Maybe you could tell him how you feel, but remember they are divorced and he's married to you. That should tell you something.

have you tried talking to your husband and telling him your concerns? it might make him feel good to know you feel you can talk to him about that. Its probably nothing to worry over though I completely understand how you feel.

you know its really difficult to be in that situation. there's no better way than to accept the fact that your husband and his ex wife has children and those children bind them together. coz they are the parents of those children. you cant do anything about it, but to be the supportive wife and have full trust on your husband. coz why did he marry you anyway right?

It's a difficult situation, and I can see where it would bother you. But, try not to get worked up about it until you have a reason to be worked up. They have to have an open communication line between the two of them simpley for the child they have. I think more men should be openly communicating with ex-wifes/mothers of their children.