If raped/molested as child, did you tell anyone?  |
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 I was molested when I was a little girl, by some boys (around my age and older) that lived on my block. I never told my parents (until I was much older), because I pretty much guessed their reactions. My dad would want to find the guys (one in particular) and kill them. My mom would pretty much call me a liar. It wasn't until my entire family ended up in group counseling that I decided to break my silence (although my sister already knew). I had it written down to make it easier (so I wouldn't have to look anybody in the eye), and I could hear my sister cry, I could see my dad get pissed, and see that my mom seemed indifferent. One of the counselors asked what she had to say about it, and she said nothing. I went on to individual counseling (which I don't think helped any), but I think finally getting it out made it easier to talk about. It's not such a dirty little secret.
Unfortunately, things like this happen all the time. And when people don't tell, it can lead to other kids being hurt. (I found out from my sister that the older guy had raped somebody and that she was supposed to testify against him, but she couldn't go through with it. I didn't live anywhere near there at the time, but you know I wish I could have been of some support to get this guy off the streets).
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| 1. mntcmn (32) | 2 years ago |  Wasn't molested as a child except that an old maid lady (that's what we called them then) that lived on a farm we rented made sure my hand and arm massaged her breasts as she applied a bandage to a burn on my forearm from a hot tractor exhaust. BUT, two nieces of my wife were terribly abused and have struggled mightily. Also, we volunteer at a children's home where every child has been abused in one way or another. I also correspond with a couple of individuals who were abused. I'd be interested in your story if you care to respond.
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2.  bkwiatv1 (537) | 2 years ago |  my friend was molested as a child n she has only told like 3 people. and im gald to be one of the people she has told. and i do not know what to do. can anyone help
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| nevsaynev131420 (46) | 2 years ago | forget about it,maybe the best thing you should do is to forget about it, | |
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 sylviekitty (1047) | 2 years ago | to the other person commenting on this- Why is forgetting about it a good thing to do? It's not like it's something this person is ever going to forget what happened to her. This kind of thing affects you for the rest of your life, often in ways you don't even know about. You don't have to ever bring it up, but if she brings it up, be willing to listen.:) | |
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3.  cowboyzfan (674) | 2 years ago |  I was never raped/molested as a child, but if I was I'd be so embarrassed! I don't know if I would tell anyone or not.
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4.  mytwo_daughters (1325) | 2 years ago | personally, I think your mom should be shot! what is wrong with her, and if you ask me she is the one who needs counseling! I'm sorry that happened to you. Why wouldn't your mom believe you, or be indifferent. If you ever want to talk you can email me if you like. I'm not that much older than you, although old. I've never been molested or raped, but I'm a great listener. | |
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| 5. mummy2jake (343) | 2 years ago |  i was & as a result i was a pretty depressed teenager.BUT i did councilling & yes it helped me alot. I went to the police, made a statemtnt did the whole court process, had to testify 3 times & there was a hung jury(they couldn't agree on a verdict) & although he wasn't convicted i was happy, coz i faced him, i ade sure he knew i knew what he did was wrong & i wasn't going to let it overpower my life. Facing him did so much for me 7 i don't regret going to the police for even a second!!!
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| sylviekitty (1047) | 2 years ago | I agree- congrats to you for testifying against this person. You are very brave!! You have more courage than I ever had.:) | |
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| mummy2jake (343) | 2 years ago | thankyou, it was without a doubt the hardest thing ive ever done, but the most empowering. I wrote a book of poetry about my experience-writing was an amzing healer 4 me.From what i heard he suffered depression as a result if it. He was living in a small town where i have quite abit of family & they told all the locals, who in turn told everyone else. Which obviosly made him very unwelcome there.I said all i wanted was 4 him to know what he did hurt me & how it made me feel.He got depressed(i did) he starved himseld, prob due to drugs(i did the starving bit, not from drugs) so in a way i got my day, coz he might not realise it, but ive caused him to go through what i did, because i stood up to him.I know it will make me protive of my son & future children im blessed with.i forgave him so i could have my own lufe & i never stop smiling-he hates happy people, so ive got the very thing he didn't want me to.I toook my fiance with me to court hearings & it was obvious he hated id gotten on with my life.He tried staring down my fiance, who stared him down longer & made him intimidated. | |
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6.  reeseyj (638) | 2 years ago |  This happened to me when I was 5. My body shut down and I ended up in the hospital when I could no longer walk. Now I have a chemical imbalance because of it. When it happened I told the next day and I don't think its the molestation that got me sick it was the way people treated me.
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| sylviekitty (1047) | 2 years ago | I'm so sorry. This is really a scary thing to have happen at any age, but especially when you're little. And to have people treat you in any way OTHER than with understanding and compassion would be disgraceful. I'm sorry you went through that. | |
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| TigerPower (55) | 11 months ago | I think it is terrible how the victims always get put on trial. We get treated like we did something wrong half the time. What people don't realize is...We did nothing wrong, wrong was done to us.
This makes me so made and especially when someone questions why we didn't speak out earlier...It's because of how we get treated. It's abuse all over again. | |
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| 7. margaretz (75) | 2 years ago |  I suppose that gals tend to keep this a secret and carry it on...but i beleive most of them are scared to admit...
well things gotta change out here...
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| 8. lovespecialangel (2560) | 2 years ago |  well i have never been raped or molested well in some ways maybe but im a guy so its different i wanted it but i have 4 girls and if there is someone on the street that is a rapest and some unfortunate person was raped then i would hope that they would do the right thing and turn then in to keep anyone else from going thru what they did. i know its hard to say without experiencing it but i would beacuse of revenge.
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| 9. gorgeousdreamer (809) | 2 years ago |  the best thing to do is to tell it to your parents if you were molested or raped. and then seek advice from a counselor on what to do. the most important thing in this situation is the support coming from your friends and family.
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10.  198112 (316) | 2 years ago |  My first cousin attempted to molest me one day when he slept over my house one night. The next day morning soon as he walked out the door I immediately told my family. When they thought he was home they called a confronted him and my aunt. He denied it and to my surprise my family suddenly didn't believe me but they believed him.
That really brought down my trust I had for the people that claimed they love and care for me.
Millions of children is in this same situation or worst everyday. I just hope they get the help they need. Its a horrible thing when a child is violated.
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| sylviekitty (1047) | 2 years ago | It's hard to believe that somebody you love (as your family no doubt loves your cousin) has done something inappropriate to another person. It's very sad, but when two family members are now in this situation, it can split up the family. It shouldn't, but it does. I'm just sorry that nobody believed you enough to confront him- at least that you know of. It's quite possible that somebody isn't at all surprised he would be accused of such a thing. And it wouldn't be surprising if he tries something like that again in the future. | |
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