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myLot reputation of 99/100. brendalee (5064) 6 years ago

What would you do? Remember that question because I am looking for advice not sympathy. This story may be long and sad but I need to get it off my chest and I would really appreciate any advice. Thank you in advance.
Its after midnight here, so it is January 4th 2007. Today would have been Charlie's 3rd birthday and also its been three years since my father died. Let me tell you a little about Charlie. The day he was born I was up at the hospital with my dad who was dying. I had called home because my dog Jessica was about to give birth. I was told that she had one pup in the driveway, but it was brought into the house and it was okay. I then went to my dad's room. He seemed in great distress although he was in a coma. I knew it was the end. I held his hand and told him it was okay to go and that I loved him. A tear formed in his eye and he took his last breath. So after I returned home, I wanted to know about the dog that was born first. He was black with a small white patch of fur on his chest that looked like a cross. I considered him a gift from my father. I loved that dog.Charlie was an inside dog. He went out into a fenced in area to do his duties. He hardly ever left my side. He followed me everywhere. I couldn't even go to the bathroom without him scratching at the door. When I ate dinner he would lay his head on my lap and just stare off into space,probably hoping that I would share my food with him. I would do the dishes and he would lay behind me as if to keep me company. That dog meant the world to me. We also kept three other pups from that liter. Well, it was Friday the 13th of October. it was kind of a windy day. My boyfriends son went to school that morning but he didn't close the door tight and the wind blew it open. All five of the dogs got out. I awoke to a state trooper yelling in my house. Luckily a neighbor had called them thinking something was wrong. I managed to get three of the dogs back in. Charlie was missing and so was Lily,his sister. I did everything I could. I walked up and down the road and through the fields. I called the dog warden. We drove around a few blocks over and over,day and night. The police had our name and number.Neighbors did too. I put an ad in the paper. Lily came back around 4:30 the next morning but no Charlie. I had recieved many calls about him being spotted but I was never able to find him. Then on the morning of October 18th I got a call from the sherrifs department and they said a black dog had been spotted on the New York State Thruway. For those of you that don't know what that is, it is a very very busy toll road. The speed limit is 65mph but people go much faster. My heart sank. I have seen what happens to deer when they get out there. But I didn't think it was him. I live a few miles from there but I didn't think he would cross into there. Besides I had reports of him being elsewhere. But the thruway people had my name and number and said they would call if they saw him again. So we went out looking again. It was late afternoon when we got a call from someone who had been out on the thruway and saw a dog that looked like mine. We immediately drove to the toll booth,we were only a few minutes away. A state trooper was there and he told us that he saw him 2 hours before. Why didn't they call me? So he starts yelling at us..."He's part rot isn't he" over and over. He told us that he almost had to shoot him because he tried to attack him. Then he chased him almost a mile down the road. We asked if they had to shoot him if they could just try to injure him but they said no and I totally understand their reasoning. So we asked about calling in a dog catcher, maybe someone could shoot him with a tranquilizer gun. To me, any dog on the thruway seems like a serious matter that should be taken care of quickly. Many lives are at stake out there. We were told that they couldn't call anyone until they had seen the dog at the same area several times. They didn't want the dog warden to have to sit out there and wait, possible for nothing. We were also told that we couldn't go out and look, we could drive around the roads that went near the thruway. We gave them our name and phone number again. All I could do was wait and hope. Then on Thurday morning, October 19th I got a call from the thruway informing me that a dog had been hit and killed. I had to go identify him. He was seven miles away from home. I didn't think it was him. One reason is because when they called me the guy kept asking me if I was so and so or if I knew her. They didn't even have my name right. Then he tells me that they have been chasing this dog for almost a week out there. Why the hell didn't anyone do anything about it? So then he tells me that they have the dog at the Weedsport toll booth maintenence building. We get there and they have Charlie in a bag out by the damn road. I'm sorry but he deserved better than that. I know, to them he was just something they had to clean up but to me he was the world. My buddy, my best friend, My Charlie. I talked to a dog warden who used to work in an area by the thruway and she told me the only safe way to catch a dog out there is with humane traps. Charlie had to have been hungry,tired,scared, and missing his family. Of course he was going to attack and run. I think if someone had been out there who was trained in catching animals, maybe Charlie would be alive today.So now my goal is to help make sure this doesn't happen to anyone else. If anyone can give me some ideas on where to start, I'd appreciate it. I'm not out to cause trouble or place blame, I just want to make it better for someone else. Thank you for taking the time to read this. So my question is, if this was you, would you just let it go or would you try to make a difference?


Happy Birthday Charlie!


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1. myLot reputation of 96/100. Penguinsangel (2785)   6 years ago

I have just glanced through this right now sweetie, but I will come back tomorrow and comment more on it. For now...*big big hugs*


myLot reputation of 99/100. brendalee (5064)  6 years ago

Thanks, I will look forward to your response.

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2. myLot reputation of 93/100. enchantedemerald (397)   6 years ago

My heart goes out to you. I read your entire post and could feel your frustration. I would try to make a difference in Charlie's Memory. Call every animal shelter,animal warden, and animal control in your area to find out what their procedures are for an animal that is running loose near a busy roadway. Then I would start researching what The Humane Society,Best Friends, and other animal rescue suggests in a situation like this. Start networking where you live to find other animal lovers and brainstorm with them. Use the internet to help you do some of this research. Look into learning how to humanely trap an animal. The best thing would have been if someone would have taken the time to try to trap Charlie in the first place instead of letting him run free. This project is going to take some time to organize and to get your name out there as someone who is trying to prevent this tradgedy from happening to someone else. Remember this is going to be difficult but keep the end goal in mind- a rescue operation for animals that are near busy roadways.


myLot reputation of 99/100. brendalee (5064)  6 years ago

Wow, what a great bunch of ideas. Thank you very much. I already had a list of places started but I sort of lost motivation. I knew today was going to be one of the hardest for me. But I decided that from today onward I'm going to take a new direction and try to make things right. Thanks again.


myLot reputation of 93/100. enchantedemerald (397)  6 years ago

Glad I could give you some ideas. Of course today is a toughie-it's part of the grief process. Good luck to you and keep us posted on your progress.


myLot reputation of 99/100. sigma77 (4282)  6 years ago

It is never easy to lose a cherished pet. I completely agree with the poster on this. You have to find out what exactly the current procedures are before you can try to make changes. Perhaps you could enlist a few others in the area to help you in your crusade. Take it one step at a time and stick to your purpose. Never give up. You will discover ways to improve the current procedures.

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3. myLot reputation of 89/100. soldenski (1652)   6 years ago

Oh my, this is a sad story. I love dog's so much and reading about what happened to Charlie make's me upset. I really don't know what can be done, if it was me, I would have demanded the tranquilizer gun but they would have probably made you pay for it, and I know you would have done everything for Charlie, it would have been expensive. You can start a petition to change the way they get animal's off the thruway. Happy Birthday to Charlie. Thanks for sharing Charlie with us.


myLot reputation of 99/100. brendalee (5064)  6 years ago

The cop was a real jerk but I would have paid anything to help him. I would have sold my house if I had to. thank you for your kind words.

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4. myLot reputation of 99/100. 14missy (1896)   6 years ago

Firstly, I'm so sorry about Charlie. They can be your babies and I know he would have beeen extra special because of the connection with your Dad. I am in Australia so don't really know what the proceedures are like over in the States but it seems like Emerald has a good point in that you have to get the word out that it is not acceptable for this to happen again. Good luck in your endevour I hope it is successful and will help you get thru your grieving process by doing something positive.


myLot reputation of 99/100. brendalee (5064)  6 years ago

Thank you for your kind words and yes, I think he will help the grieving process.

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5. Tanya925 (8)   6 years ago

I'm so sorry to hear about Charlie that is so sad. I would try and make a change so other dogs didn't get killed out there.


myLot reputation of 99/100. brendalee (5064)  6 years ago

Thanks and it would help keep the thruway safer for the people driving out there too.

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6. myLot reputation of 24/100. mangmamani (135)   6 years ago

I am very sory about your Charlie. But I know that Charlie is happy wherever he is. and you should too. Charlie has a sister Charlie would like you to take care of her as you take good care of him.


myLot reputation of 99/100. brendalee (5064)  6 years ago

Yes, I have two of his sisters here and a brother plus their mom. And I will take care of them just as good as I took care of him. They are more spoiled now because i realize that I could have lost them all that day. Thank you.

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7. myLot reputation of 74/100. Bevsue (229)   6 years ago

Gosh! The New York troopers sure spend a lot of time and energy dealing with lost dogs. Don't they have any humans to watch out for?


myLot reputation of 99/100. brendalee (5064)  6 years ago

Actually they didn't spend that much time at all looking for him. They were just keeping a watch out for him as they patroled the thruway.

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8. myLot reputation of 72/100. Willowlady (8976)   6 years ago

Our animals are a part of our lives. What you went through shows you the indifference some people have for animals. We agonize when death happens in a bad manner that ooh they must have suffered. He did know that you loved him and he must have gotten lost! Not surprising if people where chasing him or threatening him in some way. He did not experience that with you. You must let go and honor him. Then you can get busy and try to do something that will make a difference the next time a pet gets loose. I understand what you go through since our canine friends got loose and ran for a day. So worrysome and your imagination can run wild, just as they do while gone. Fortunagely I got my boys back. I pray it never happens to you again. And for it not to happen to anyone who loves their pets.


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myLot reputation of 99/100. brendalee (5064)  6 years ago

Thank you for your comments. One of the things I would like to do is organise a team of volunteers that will help people find their lost animals. I think it would be a great idea.

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9. rommelramos (74)   6 years ago

make a difference...


myLot reputation of 99/100. brendalee (5064)  6 years ago

Even though your answer was short and sweet, it shows me that you took the time to read my discussion and for that I thank you.

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10. catsk123 (45)   6 years ago

I'm so sorry that Charlie died this way. It makes it worse that you worry about how he felt while he was lost, scared and hungry. I wish that the state people had helped you find him or call the warden. You have my sympathy. I hope your dad and Charlie look down soon and send another friend to love.


myLot reputation of 99/100. brendalee (5064)  6 years ago

Thank you. I had called the dog warden myself but once he got out onto the thruway the troopers had to do it. There was really nothing I could do.

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