Need advice desperately....... Greatly appreciated thanks!

I think you are just being so conscious of the age gap. Age is just a number. What's important is the feelings you two have. I had a friend who was 49 and his girlfriend is 20. They are very much in love with each other that everytime they are together, it seems like the years wither away.=) I think if you really feel the same about him, you won't worry about your age compared to him. Maybe you are thinking of what other people might say, but hey, it is your life and not theirs.=)

There are lots of people who had the same situation before. They followed their hearts and look at them now. Happily together despite the age gap.=) Love isn't bound by 'age groups'. Good luck and be true to your own feelings.=)

Hope that helps!

Age shouldn't matter and you should just enjoy the time you have with him Even if in the end someone gets hurt it was still worth all the great times you had togehter.

Even if he was the same age as you there would still be the possiblility of it not working out. That just isn't something that you should worry about.

I know it is hard and maybe you subconsciouly think that you don't deserve to be happy but it is not true. Everyone deserves the chance to be happy and all you have to do is enjoy it.

Think of him in terms of how he treats you and how much he loves you and how mature he is andnot in term of his age. His age is not who he is, it is just a number.

It sounds like he really does love you and you are lucky to have him. Smile, take it all in, laugh, and love. Enjoy it.

Think of yourself as Demi Moore and just try to enjoy yourself! You could break up some day over his wanting children or some other thing, but you could break up some day with any one over anything. Try not to stress and just enjoy the moments you have together. Real love like that is rare.

There is a reason for your path and his path to have crossed. Enjoy your time together with him. Best of luck.

Hello polishprincess! Good day to you! You are so blessed to have someone who loves you that much! Why need to worry when your man assures you that he really loves you. That's very nice. Don't question your age because there is no age limit when it comes to love. God give us a heart to love. Love as long as you live. Give your love and expect nothing in return.

I have this cousin of mine who has a same situation with you. She is 42 years old single and was never married. She met this 22 year old guy in one of our churh gatherings. The guy fall in loved with her. They dated and became lovers. After some months the guy proposed her that they will get married. She was so shock and never expected the event. She keeps on laughing that why now when she is already old. My answer is God gives you someone anytime of your days. And we should be thankful.

I hope you happiness with your man. Please be happy and make him feel that you loved him too. Good luck and god bless your relationship.

Hi and welcome to mylot. I'm a 59 year old female and have gone through some of the same things that you are. I have always been with younger men than myself. When I was 31 my boyfriend was 20 and it was wonderful as you know. At this time I am semi-dating a man who is 43. We're not serious yet, just seeing each other. At first I worried because my oldest daughter is 40 but when I told her she thought it was great and said way to go mom! lolol...Evry younger man I've been with has said they don't mind the age difference and most times I don't either. In your case I'm wondering, what do you have in common to talk about? It just seems like such a huge difference. Ok, I'm 59 and look and act like a 30 year old sometimes so I'm almost equal to the guy but do you act like a 22 year old? Does he act like a 50 year old man? I don't know about this big age difference. I think I would feel funny with such a younger guy and I can't believe I'm saying that..lol...I'm very much for younger men older women but I never thought about such a younger man and a woman 30 years older than he is. Whatever you decide to do it has to be what makes YOU happy and nobody else. I'm happy that everything is going so good for the both of you right now. If you ever want to talk to me I will always be available to you just pm me and we can swap emails if you would like. I live in Boston,MA...Good Luck and Be Happy!

Are you sure he really loves you for what you are? We are about the same age but if a boy as young as 22 years old will come and treat me like I were Britney spears, then probably I'd have doubts too about his intentions. What does he want? What is he looking for? Is he looking for a mother figure or a sugar mommy? It is very difficult to say and society usually is not very tolerant about this especially if the age gap is as wide as the sea. I mean, you really to two generations Anyway, good luck, I hope you will continue to be happy with that man around. But if that happened to me, I would look at him as a big problem.

Obviously you are happy being with him!And since he is sincere,just be yourself and love him back!But dont forget that anytime,in LOVE we can be hurt unexpectedly!Just always prepare!Life is too short,forget the age!The important is the LOVE you have for each other!Enjoy what you have now and prepare to stand no matter what will happen next!God Bless and Goodluck!Have faith!

I know since he's over 18 years old he's not jail bait any more and you both are free to decide who to love. Hey, people do it, but is it really right?! I personally would have a difficulty having such a young boyfriend, especially the age of my children as well. So I believe those feelings are completely valid that you have.

To be completely straightforward with you...If I was his mother, I know I'd be dissapointed that he's with such an older woman and not giving himself a chance at finding a woman closer to his age within 5 years either way. As his mother, I'd feel he's robbing himself from the joys of having children with a youthful mother that can enjoy his children with him and enjoy their grandchildren together. Let's face it...in 20 to 30 years...will you be able to enjoy grandchildren with him? I doubt it. My other concern for my son in this situation would be why? Is he afraid of being turned down by girls his age or Does he just feel safer being with you because you provide a safe motherly image to him? At 22-years old, he may seem and feel like he's mature enough to handle the older experienced woman and that image to him alone may sound glorious...for awhile...then it will get old (so to speak). He may be extremely mature from what it sounds like, but having the hesitations you do should really be a RED light to you to stop and allow him to find love with a younger woman. I'm sure that's why you're having difficulties with it, because you wouldn't want to see your own son with such an age gap between him and his girlfriend. He's just a Young Man....with so much of life to still experience. Good luck to you...it always feels good to be flattered, cherished and treated good, but is it really fair to that young man?

Age shouldn't matter but I think you are more worried about what other's think and say about it. Does your or even his family/ children have a problem with it?

How long have you been dating him for?