Getting married and got some issues...  

Personally i think that you should have invited your mom, dad, and siblings. However if you have good reason not to invite either mom or dad then thats your business. Who really cares about what the extended family thinks? If your brother and sister choose not to come, thats their choice, if they dont beleive that someone isnt going to be there all you can do is tell them they wont be. It sucks that they all fight and dont wnat to be near eachother, i know it makes it hard to do much. You can only invite who you really want there and leave it up to them to decide if they're grown up enouhg to get over it and make you happy on your special day. I hope all goes well for you and that they grow up and get over it. Best of luck in your future together.

Personally I think you should have invited your parents as well as the rest of your family, however it is your decision to make. It is your wedding and you have to do as you see fit. My parents also divorced years ago and hate each other, however when my sister and I got married, they were invited and were mature enough not to cause a scene at our weddings. Don't worry about what other people think, do what you think is best and enjoy your day! Congratulations on your upcoming wedding.

Yuck! How terrible that you cannot invite your own family without fearing fights! Well, personally, I would invite my best friends and my husband to be's family and write a letter that explains the situation to the rest of them. Tell them you are sad that you feel that way, but this is your big day and YOU DO have the right to choose who is going to help you CELEBRATE and share the Good feelings weddings are supposed to have. There are few times in our lives that truly belong to us and one of those times is when we marry the person we love. Good luck and congrats on the wedding. I hope you laugh all evening and have a wonderful honeymoon!

It's a shame that your parents can't act like adults and make your special day extra special. All I have to say is, it's your wedding and you should do whatever makes you happy. You were very right in what you did. You don't want your wedding to be spoiled, and I'm with you all the way. It's their own fault that they're not being invited, and they should be told exactly that! Just ignore all the comments from both sides and enjoy your wedding day to the fullest. Congratulations!

Ok first, you family needs to GROW UP. This is your special day, so you should not feel like you have to invite one side, or the other. I'd invite both sides, and make it clear that it's your day, so no bickering or fighting or you will have your day ruined. They should KNOW that they need to be on their best behaviour.
This makes me sooo angry, because your mum and dad seem to not click that it's their daughter's wedding day, and that all their feelings and bitterness need to be put to one side and they need to either pretend like the other side is not their or at least pretend to be nice to each other just for this one day. HOW DARE YOUR MOTHER get upset that you didn't invite her. Same goes for your father's side. Who's wedding is it anyway? YOURS. Lady I don't mean to be harsh or rude, but get your courage back and do what is best for YOU, not them.

I can sympathize!

When I married my first (or as I like to say, practice) husband, I didn't invite my parents (and they were still married at the time!) and both were very hurt. I explained that it was a quick wedding during lunch hour, nothing to be excited about.

My second marriage I actually had a wedding. My parents, divorced, both came. My mom lives with me, but my dad drove up from TN to MD with my grandmother. He behaved himself, which I am surprised, and I am glad that they both got to be a part of this special day.

I think inviting both parents, and siblings, is the way to go. Just have them sit in opposite sections of your side of the church, to avoid arguments. Also, let them know that both are being invited, and as it is *YOUR* day, they'd better not do anything to disrupt it. I would assign one of the males from your guest list/wedding party the responsibility of keeping an eye on your parents, and giving them the authority to ask them to leave if it gets out of hand. We did this because my dad has a tendency to be a jerk, and I wanted to know that there was someone I trusted to deal with it so I wouldn't have to worry.

I would elope or not invite any of them and just invite your fiance's family. If your family gets upset, simply tell them that you're tired of being put in the middle and it's not fair to you. Tell them if they ever want to be a part of your life or the lives of any children you may have, they need to grow up and forget about the past. They don't all have to like each other but they don't need to fight like monkeys! Good luck to you.

I am so sorry you are going thru this, your wedding should be your happy day and everyone should put aside their differences to make you happy. I would sit down with your mom and brother and explain what you did and why. Tell them if everyone could simply get along for a few hours then they would all have the joy of seeing your married. I would even say if they keep this up, that no family will be invited. This is when your should be happy, and not stressed. I hope this works out for you. But I would talk to them and soon! Good luck!

That is a lot of stress that your family is giving you. I am very sorry dear. My advise, is to just elope with your love, and nobody will be hurt. It can be very romantic. When you get back, have an open party for anyone of your family that would want to attend. Good luck honey.

Your wedding is suppose to be the most important day in your life. I would sat down and write them a letter and let them know that this will be your day and not theres. So if they wanted to come thay would have to leave there attitudes at home. Good luck.