Mommy advice anyone?  

OK I am a mommy and had a daughter leave for college a few months ago, so here is some good advice, and also welcome to mylot,sweetie!
She is probably very emotional by your leaving for college,losing her job and also the split with your dad. She sounds very stressed and doesnt seem that she knows how to deal with it. I would send an email or letter and let her know you love her,miss her and understand she is under stress,and that you miss the closeness and communication. I hope this helps sweetie! and btw, welcome to mylot, I hope you enjouy it here.

I thing I can explain with your situation is that YOUR MOM MISSES YOU! Plus she has a lot of things in mind. Imagine being alone. Your dad is not there for emotional support and since you've been that close to each other, your presence could mean everything to her. What your mom needs right now is understanding and a support group whom she can discuss things. Your grandma can also help by talking to her and simply understanding her tantrums.

If you love your mom, understand her situation and pray for more patience. Maybe you can give her a Bible as a gift so she can be reminded of God's love.

Your mom is going through the empty nest period. Doesn't help that she doesn't have a job and that her and your dad seperated. What she needs to do is either look for another job. Something to keep her busy with the bonus of money.

But honestly if she keeps this up with her, be blunt with her. Tell her hey mom this is hard for me as well. But I'm tired of being your punching bag. And if you want to keep fighting with me, I just won't come home. Let her know that your also under stress. Freshman in college isn't a walk in the park, the news of your parents split isn't helping either. So you two have to find somewhere to meet in the middle.

I think because of the yelling, start out by writing a letter, first explaining how much you love her. But at the same time the fighting is killing you. That you want things to be back the way it used to be.

Good Luck, I hope you and your mom can work things out.

Think about it for a minute. She has the right to be upset. First she has lost, as she sees it, her little girl that was her pride and job. Mothers sees going to college as the leaving home step and it is hard to accept especially since you and mother are close. Second she lost her soul mate that she has had for years. Not only all of that she has no job for income. What would you do if the situtation was turned around? She is just overwhelmed at this time and needs someone to comfort her. Don't be too hard on her as things will get better. She needs time to get accustomed to all the changes. Good luck to you and your mother.

Try to understand your mom more with the situation or stage that she is going through right now. With all the negative things happening to her now with her work and your dad, im sure she is really stressed and depressed about it. To top it off, you are not by her side to support her because you have to leave for college. As a result, your mom vents out her anger and frustration by yelling and it happens to be you. Try to understand her and dont yell back when she yells at you. Dont be tired of making her feel that despite the things she's undergoing now, you are still there for her and that you love and care for her. Give her time, im sure that once she has finally put herself back together, things would be better. Good luck to you and your mom.

At this time, she has just splitted up from her husband, so she fears another rejection from you. She fears that now you are in college, have a big adventure, have a your own life, maybe you dont want her anymore, She is afraid of this. She is trying to maintain that closeness you guys have before, although I gotta admit that she is doing it the wrong way. What she needs most now is of course you and your love. Stand by her, support her emotionally. Say that you are sorry you lied to her, and that you dont mean to be disrespectful to her, tell her that you loves her and wants to spend this holidays doing joyful things with her. Let her know that you will always be there for her no matter what. Also, get her to open up about her feelings, Im sure she must be feeling very depressed, angry, disappointed, alone, rejected and many other things because of the divorce. Tell her that you want to help her, and for her not to push you away. If it helps, maybe you could take her to a consultant or something with you there. Pray for her so that she gets back that cheerful feeling, gets back the happiness, and so that she realize she still have you. Be strong, and stay there for her. No matter when she yells at you or anything, just act your love to her, hold her when she cries. That sort of things.
I hope this will help your relationship with your mom. Good luck

Mumy advice is always good in every where.

Hey Angeleyez, welcome to myLot, hope you will enjoy here and will find some really good solution for your concern.
What i understand from your note is your mom is going through tough time as there is no one who is able to understand her. You were close in past, but now you away from her only phone contacts. Her husband split so may be bcos of that she is completely broken now. Try and understand her problem dear, try to contact her through mails or may be by letters she may be calm when she is reading it. Im sure she loves you very much thats why she is taking all her frustration on you. Obviously she cannot yell on any strangers right?? so try to be in her shoes and think again and you try to be calm alrite. Take care

i think if your mother is still mad you must give her a time to think and to be calm first and then afterwards you can talk to her and explain whats going on. when your mother and you fought just explain and if shes not listening to your explanation then you should listen to her then afterwards if shes calm you talk to her and try to explain.

My dear try to understand her feelings, someday you will become a mother too, and you realize all mothers on earth has the same attitude which is over protective to their children because of their unconditional love. Maybe she just miss you, even thou ur far apart make a way to keep on calling her, leave a sweet message, or send her a card those litlle things will make her happy. Remember we only have one mother on earth, keep on loving them for as long as they are live.
Remember what the Bible said in
Exo 20:12 Honour thy father & thy mother that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy giveth thee.
John 16:21 A woman when she is travail hath sorrow,because her hour is come but as soon as she delivered of the child, she remembereth no more the anguish, for joy that a man is born into the world.

LOVE YOUR MOTHER