Chatting with other girls...
By earth2jacq
@earth2jacq (1498)
Philippines
February 22, 2007 10:19pm CST
My partner (we are not married) have this habit of chatting other girls in this certain chatroom. He would ask for their friendster account so he can see them, ask their age, their locations, or if they could meet up. Sometimes I get angry when he does this, but he does not hide it from me either. Sometimes I can see the girls he chats with. He tells me its just to past the time and he does not have any plans of meeting them at all. I am bothered sometimes because some of these girls will send him SMS in his cellphone or call our apartment.But he will always assure me that he is not interested. I don't want to act too tight either as this may drive him to hide secrets from me. I always tell him that if he wants to screw other girls it is better that we split first before he does what he wants to do. That way I will not be bothered if he screws more girls any time. If you were in my position is this ok with you?
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@samtaylorskykierajen (7976)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
I wouldn't feel comfortable with this as I would ask why the need to talk to other girls when he has you and if it is really just to pass the time then I am sure he could make some guy friends that he could talk to and pass the time .
I would feel somehow that he was still looking for someone else and would probably let him know that I was not comfortable with it and would prefer that he stop , I wouldn't tell him that he has to , just that I would hope he would understand where I was coming from and let him know that if the situation were reversed , then I would respect his wishes in this matter . If he did it behind your back then it would show that he can't be trusted in other matter that may become more important to you later on .
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@earth2jacq (1498)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
I did let him know a lot of times. I think now he has taken the habit of doing it to annoy me because he knows I am pissed when I see different friendster windows open and they are all girls! Sometimes he would deliberately leave his chats open for me to read.....
@danishcanadian (28954)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
Keep in mind that Chat is one letter away from CHEAT!! Your partner is just using them, and that's not healthy for anyone involved!!! I don't blame you for being upset.
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@earth2jacq (1498)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
Hey that's a good analysis....I never thought about that.
@green_lightning (130)
• United States
23 Feb 07
i cant say that i would be to happy, i would tell my gf that she needs to stop and if she wants to so much pass the time talking to other guys instead of hanging out w/me then she should go and do that and at the same time forget about us... i mean ok chatting sometimes on the internet ok but then phone calls mmm thats a little much u know.
