I want to learn to keep my mouth shut
By mamacathie
@mamacathie (3928)
United States
February 24, 2007 3:14pm CST
I have such a problem with spouting off before I think what I should say. Now I know I am not the only one in this world with this problem. When these words come out of my mouth, there is no way to take them back. All the "I'm Sorry"'s in the world cannot erase what just came out of my mouth. This is so wrong. I know the Bible says we cannot tame our tongue, so we have to work really hard at thinking before speaking. I even have trouble with, sometimes, just what comes out of my mouth is totally wrong. I hope there are others that are wanting to work on this too.
4 responses
@moomincat (321)
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24 Feb 07
I find I often fall into the same trap. It can be that we are thinking out loud. Ive found if the dicussion is something I feel very emotive about its better to sleep on it. Wait twenty four hours to reply. People usually accept that its reasonable to give a matter some thought.
@mamacathie (3928)
• United States
24 Feb 07
You are absolutely right. Yes, we do think out loud so much of the time. My daddy always would say let me sleep on it before he made a big decision. WE need to do this more often don't we? That is very good advice.
@moomincat (321)
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5 May 07
Dont lose self worth. An opinion shows you care. People who dont worry about others are very impoverished. Its just knowing the right time and circumstance to have input.
@mamacathie (3928)
• United States
4 May 07
This is 3 months later than when I started this discussion and I am still working on keeping my mouth closed and only talking when it is the right time. I want to stop and think before I speak because a lot of time I speak and then think and what I just said sounds so "not important." Do any of you feel this way?
@bettyrose20 (997)
• Philippines
5 May 07
We have the same problem. I too sometimes just let out words in my mind that i didnt know hurts someone. Sometimes i pray that i should think first before talking to spare me from hurting someone. That is especially when i am angry, angry and hurtful words come out of my mouth that its too late to retract.
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@mamacathie (3928)
• United States
5 May 07
You are exactly right. Once these words leave our mouths we cannot take them back. The damage has already been done even though we ask forgiveness. And then to be on the other side of the harsh words, they cut so deep. Yes, I will pray that we can work on this and allow God to direct our tongues. Thanks for the comment.
@sunita64 (6468)
• India
24 Feb 07
You need immense will power to curb this tendency, But there is no habit a person cannot change if he or she decides, Even I faced this problem but everyday I remind myself think before you speak, write it ten times somewhere and read it everyday, I assure you tricks work for me and will work for you too.
@mamacathie (3928)
• United States
24 Feb 07
Yes I know we want to change something bad enough we will makes changes to our life but we have to want to do it. We have to have determination and self-control to make ourselves stop and think before we blurt out something. I think each one of us need to lift one another up in prayer to be encouragement to one another.
@mamacathie (3928)
• United States
5 May 07
That is good advice. I really want myself to STOP and somehow say to myself what I am going to say before I say it outloud but I have a tendency to just blurt it out. Not really good, but with prayer and depending on God, we will do this. Thanks for the comments and encouragement.
