I just moved and I have no friends!
By Caila611
@Caila611 (992)
United States
February 27, 2007 11:45am CST
I know i'm having my own little pity party here. BUt we have one car that DH takes to work and we have lived here three months and i'm lonely. I have no friends to do things with. No playgroups to join! Maybe it's just PPD? We go to church but hubby doesn't like crowds (bipolar and anxiety disorder) so i'm all the time givingin when he doesn't want to go to sunday school. I love going because it's my chance to get to know the other mom's my age (even if none of them live in the town i live in).
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@twilight021 (2059)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I'm so sorry to hear that you are lonely. Years ago I was laid off from my job and was home all day too. Sometimes I would not see another person for 2 or 3 days...and then often the only person I saw was the mailman! Porr guy, he probably dreaded seeing "that chatty girl" in apartment #1.
While online friends are great, they aren't really a substitue for real human interaction. I'm not really sure about your situation, but I'm guess you are a stay at home mom?
Maybe you can work out a compromise with your husband about letting you socialize a little more at church? Maybe he can drop you off, and pick you up....or he can hang out and read in the car or something while you and the kids socialize for 20 minutes or so.
Are there any hobbies that you do that might have groups in town that you can join? I knit and in my area there are many knitting groups that meet for coffee, and knitting and anyone is welcome. The trick is finding them. Maybe try googling for activites in your town. The public library can also be a good source of community activities.
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
27 Feb 07
Those are some good ideas!! Hubby has seen thelight as far and needing a second car. We may be buying one once our tax refund comes in. Then it will be easier. We have had one car for three years but it's getting really old really fast. He knows it bothers me to be "stuck" at home with three kids. But he works hard and is exhausted when he gets home so he doesn't want to be bothered with the kids so i can go do somthing. Shoot i wouldn't know what to do with myself if i actually got to go out alone! LOL!
@twilight021 (2059)
• United States
27 Feb 07
Oh, I'm glad to hear that things are looking up :-)
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@krebstar5 (1266)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I agree with twilight021's comment about joining a community activity group. You can find things to do either through community education classes (but those can cost money) or even try to find a local book group to join. A book group is often a really great chance to get to know people and expand your mind by reading different books. I know there are entire websites devoted to finding book groups to join and you can also check craig's list for other activities around where you are. Another great thing to do to meet people is volunteer work. I really think that once you get that second car, you are going to find that you have a lot more options than you thought you had.
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@missybal (4489)
• United States
9 Mar 07
Why can't he drop you off so you can attend by yourself? Maybe take some walks around your neighborhood and you can meet people in your area that way. I realize you have three kids so maybe this is difficult when they are home, so why not let your husband have them for a spell and go for a nice walk for some excersice. Don't forget also about your friends you left behind and this age of technology is so great to keep in touch. You got the internet and the phone. There are countless chat sites to get to know people that are just like you, watch out for the crazy ones though. I know how you feel. I have health problems and my husband is military. I can't work outside the home and my husband is gone a lot and I don't even have a dog or a child to take care of. I started a new work at home job and I talk to people all over the U.S. and I love that and I'm into crafts and not on second could I be board enough to think of being lonely. Depending on your husband's work schedule could you every so often take him to work and have the car for the day and then pick him up when he gets off?
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
9 Mar 07
I could like today my mom has lent me her car so i'm going to attempt to take the brood to the park later today. Hubby let's me take the car every once in a while but sometimes he can't because he has to go to meetings outside his office. But it's difficult to really get out and do somthing. I need a double stroller. I have two little ones and no one to help me with them. One is three months old and the other is two and tends to wander if he's not contained. LOL! I can't push a stroller and hold a child. Just too much.
@sarah22 (3979)
• United States
24 Mar 07
dont feel blue we too have just moved and i have no friends. sometimes its very longly and others i dont mind as i have my hubbie and the kids. having friends is important and i still call the other ones and the ones that i have had for years,we email. i just want to meet a few gals to go have luch with and have achat without my kids and hubbie. have you made any yet?????????/
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@wenfri (1185)
• Canada
27 Feb 07
Hi My name is Wendy and I am pleased to meet you
I work fulltime online and love every minute of it.
I have 3 grown sons and 2 gradkids that I don't get to see much of cause live to far to visit regularly
Sorry guess I am not your age but just the same you have a friend
Wendy
@danoneism (679)
• Malaysia
27 Feb 07
well.. i suggest u to let mylot be ur friend... hehe.. its fun actually....
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@LALI200380 (467)
• Romania
27 Feb 07
dont worry wait sometime.in this time i can be your virtual friend.
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