Spanking or no spanking?

hmmm

of course you should spank them so that they will behave better next time and they will know that if they do something wrong they will get a punishment for behaving bad and you dont have to yell out loud at them until you get very tired and depressed so yes should spank them
i know a family woman who used to spoil her children and then they demanded lots of things and never-ending fighting between the others until finally the mother one day spanked the kid so all his brothers were afraid and changed to be better than before

Age appropriate spanking, NOT beatings -- but a mere swat on the bottom -- done with calm rather than anger, along with a simple admonition of the offending behavior and an admission from the child about the behavior with remorse does wonders. Spanking becomes less necessary as consequences for misbehavior become clear to the child -- that only happens with consistency and when the parents are in absolute control of their emotions when they administer the discipline.

To say that a one-year old, two-year old or three year old has no comprehension of discipline is to show a complete lack of understanding of children. Limits must be set and set early or the little darlings will take over the house and run their parents into the ground. They will bargain and negotiate and try "time outs" and generally raise kids no one will want to be around.

You see parents hand their children their car keys or wallets in a grocery store to play with and then they wonder why their children scream bloody murder when Mommy needs her wallet or keys and takes them away. They think it is cute that little Johnny gets hold of the remote control to the television then curse the world when little Johnny loses it, hides it or thinks it is now his property. You see parents allow the worst sort of talking back, defiance and general testing of limits....and yet these extremely well-educated, otherwise competent people start negotiating with toddlers like Donald Trump in "The Art of the Deal." And the line of acceptable behavior slips farther and farther out of view.

Pretty soon, parents are prisoners in the home, wanting to go nowhere for fear of their children's behavior -- or worse still, they accept it, chalking it up to "kids will be kids". Today, they are defiant in giving back the remote control, down the road, they will take the car without hesitation or fear.

It is tragic to see the level to which even good conservatives buy into this liberal garbage about child-rearing. Unbelievably tragic for the children, who crave limits, are in their comfort zone with schedules and do far better in a disciplined environment where the rules and lines of acceptable behavior aren't constantly shifting.

My children rarely need what we call "discipline" (spankings) now because they already know if they "do not obey first time..." there will be consequences. All I have to do when we are out someplace is raise an eyebrow and they straighten up right away. And I can take them anywhere and hear rave reviews on their behavior from weary parents who then beg for the secret of how we do it....:)

"Sometimes I would do the weirdest things and I would get in trouble," she said. "But I don't think (spanking) had an effect on me. I didn't learn from it very well. I just felt like I was a bad person."

Drs. T. Berry Brazelton, Penelope Leach, and Benjamin Spock, probably the most influential child psychologists and pediatricians in recent times, have opposed spanking. So do the American Psychological Association and the National Association of Social Workers. Even though many experts are against spanking, this form of discipline is still in use.

In the past, spanking was more common. Surveys show that over 90 percent of parents spanked their children in the 1930's.

"I think that it was normal then," said Brianna, 9, of Ishpeming, "but now parents understand that it doesn't (always) work."

A Shift in Discipline?
Mike Morin, child welfare supervisor for the Marquette County Family Independence Agency (FIA), has seen a shift to other forms of discipline. The FIA is a state agency with the authority to investigate child abuse and neglect.

"I think, in general, society has really moved away from spanking," he said. "I think in some respects, society has learned more effective means of disciplining kids. (But) there are still people out there that we run into that are very strong believers in corporal punishment. There's a divergent opinion, it seems to me."

A recent survey by the American Academy of Pediatrics shows differing opinions on the part of pediatricians. The academy officially opposes spanking, but members' responses to the survey show that opinions could not be summed up as simply "for" or "against" spanking


Regards,
Sam

I tend to hit very hard so decided not to smack my children. however, on a couple of occasions I have tried it as nothing else seemed to work but it didn't work either. So I do not smack them but at the moment i am happy with their behaviour and am not embarrased to take them anywhere.

I'm not a parent so I'm not sure how much my opinion will matter....but...

I think spanking is a very valuable form of punishment. You have to do something to the kid when they do something wrong that they will not like. SPanking happens to be the #1 item. Sitting in the corner is generally also effective, but that's harder to do at the grocery store. If parents use no form of punishment on their kids then they will grow up thinknig they can do whatever they want. THis will then lead them to be very rebelous and generally leads to adult criminals.

Well it depends on the type of kids you have, my mom never spanked me but some of my brothers and sisters she use to spank. She used to tell me that it depends on the person as some will listen only when spanked and some can the corrected by praising them...etc. So it depends but i'll never spank my kids when i have some hehehe

By all means, go against the Bible, don't spank your kids, let them run wild, and over you. When they grow up, let the police get a hold of them and beat the crap out of them and toss them in jail. You will be so proud of a job well done and your children will thank you for it. Or better yet, beg them to do the right thing, that will show them who the real parents are. NOOOOOOOOOOT!

I personaly believe that spanking doesnt teach your children anything but violence! I do not belive spanking is the thing to do not even as a last resort. Children will misbehave it is there way of seeing what you allow them to do. They test you constantly By telling them no and being consistent with no giving in is the best way to teach them from wrong to right. I know it can get embarrasing if they misbehave in the public but thats what every child do.

I think parents need to decide on the best treatment for THEIR children. I was spanked as a child and turned out fine. My best friend was never spanked as a child and he turned out fine. Every child is different. Once my sister spanked her son in a parking lot and a woman gave her a dirty look and shook her head. My sister just looked at her and said "Keep giving me that look and you're next." That really made me laugh.

Seriously though, I think it's wrong for people, and especially the government, to dictate how someone disciplines their child. A spanking does not cause serious or permanent injury. I'm not saying children should be spanked all the time, but parents deserve to have that option.

definitely i say NO to SPANKING


ive always wondered why some parents resort to spanking (well my parents did too) wish they hadnt since i believe the best way to learn things you should or should not do is through a good explanation... since what good does it do if a kid doesnt do the things he shouldnt do only because she's scared of being spanked?

dont you think its better for the kid to know the reason behind why she shouldnt do it?

plus it only teaches the kid that its ok to be violent... since she gets spanked everytime she does something wrong...

and to top that when you spank your kids you're instilling FEAR on them...

and the worst part is it creates a distance between the kid and their parents...

being spanked as a kid myself i know how it feels... and i know my view on spanking is something not everyone shares...
but hopefully this helps in enlightening some parents

and let me make my choice clear: IM AGAINST SPANKING

=)

As a rule I don't believe in spanking, but like you said as a last resort . I prefer to count and that works pretty effectively in our house hold but feel that what works for one will not always work for someone else . Like you I would prefer to take my children out and have them behave then be embarassed to take them anywhere . It is very rare that I ever make it to three and if I do all my children of all ages realize that there will be a consequence of losing something that they like or want to do .