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 I have friends who don't believe in spanking their children, and they are out of control and so they never take them any where afraid of how they will behave. . . I use spanking as a LAST resort, but they know it is an option. And I can take my kids anywhere with me and know that I will not have any problems.
What's your opinion on the subject?
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31.  lingli_78 (10199) | 3 years ago |  i don't actually believe in spanking... my parents never use it at me at all when i am a child... i believe in talking and reasoning with the child first and use spanking as a last resort if the child is really out of control... i still think that it is necessary especially if you are dealing with a hard-headed and rebellious child...
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| 32. retardedrugrat (3665) | 3 years ago |  I believe that spanking as a last resort is not a bad thing, but it should never be done because you're angry.
I give my kids every chance to change their behavior. If counting to three doesn't work, and time out doesn't work, they're well aware that a spanking is a possibility.
I was spanked as a child, and honestly, I respect my parents more because they did that. They taught me right from wrong, and they always said that if I had chance to change my behavior and I refused to, that a spanking would be a possibility.
I do believe though, that if you threaten a child with a spanking, you should follow through with that, otherwise they're going to start thinking that you won't really do it.
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33.  Stephanie5 (1741) | 3 years ago |  Honestly, I should spank more often...lol My children are horrible to take anywhere. I'm sure they aren't really as bad as I think they are...but they still stress me out to take them all somewhere. There are just so many... ha.
Mine don't throw screaming fits or anything, but they all just try to talk to me at once while I'm trying to concentrate on what NOT to forget, lol. And they all go different directions. I like leaving them at home....
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| 34. Stephanie5 (1741) | 3 years ago | Honestly, I should spank more often...lol My children are horrible to take anywhere. I'm sure they aren't really as bad as I think they are...but they still stress me out to take them all somewhere. There are just so many... ha.
Mine don't throw screaming fits or anything, but they all just try to talk to me at once while I'm trying to concentrate on what NOT to forget, lol. And they all go different directions. I like leaving them at home.... | |
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35.  emeraldeyes (2739) | 3 years ago | 
There other ways to discipline your children then spanking them, i definitely don't believe that someone should make their child afraid of them, when they have done something wrong such as a look. the kids that hit, punch, curse, etc have absolutely no structure in their lives, their parents are probably not very consistent with discipline, if there is any.
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| 36. 66jerseygirl (1965) | 3 years ago |  there is nothing wrong with a good old fashioned spanking as a last resort.I don't need to remind you how out of control these kids are and it's getting worse all the time.So called experts are blaming working mothers because there is no one home but that's a bunch of baloney.These kids started getting out of controlwhen those bleeding heart experts got on their high horse and started frowning on spanking.That's when it started getting bad-not because of working mothers.Nowadays the parents don't tell the kids what to do,the kids tell the parents what to do.
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| TeresaK (8081) | 3 years ago |  If it's a last resort, then what happens if spanking doesn't work? Do you just throw up your hands and stop trying, as you've exhausted your last resort? And if you say you would try something else, then I guess it wasn't REALLY your last resort, was it?
My children are 21, 17 and 14....never been spanked, and never will be.....and none of them has ever been out of control. The problem is lack of discipline, not lack of spanking.
Oh, and most studies show that 80% of parents in the United States still spank their children at least occasionally....so apparently it's not working as well as you would like to think.
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| 37. angel_690 (126) | 3 years ago |  I think you are right, I wish I would have used that as a last resort and maybe my teenager who is out of control would be more respectful than he is now. I feel that when children experience some kind of painful reminder as a consequence then maybe they will think twice about repeating the unwanted behavior especially if you have used all other options.
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| 38. angel_manders (837) | 3 years ago |  i believe that spanking a child is what children need now a days because they seem to be getting a way with alot of crap. i feel that a child who misbehaves needs a spanking once in a while to straighten them up.
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| TeresaK (8081) | 3 years ago | Children need discipline and consequences...that doesn't have to mean spanking. Children who are getting away with things have no discipline in their lives, and it doesn't take a spanking to straighten them up. It just takes knowing where the line is that they aren't allowed to cross, and knowing what will happen if they choose to cross it anyway. | |
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| all4ucnc (694) | 3 years ago | Your on the right track, but their ARE a few kids that don't respond to anything but a tap on the hand while telling them no, or a swat on the butt as a reminder that that behavior is not acceptable, but of coarse this inforsement HAS to be done while they are very young, if you wait until they are ready for school to start disaplining, You could spank, and spank and not get ANY results. I think spanking a child who is old enough for school, is a bit much. But when your child is old enough to crawl and get into things, then they are old enough to be taught "NO". | |
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| TeresaK (8081) | 3 years ago | "Your on the right track, but their ARE a few kids that don't respond to anything but a tap on the hand while telling them no, or a swat on the butt as a reminder that that behavior is not acceptable, but of coarse this inforsement HAS to be done while they are very young"
I think I'm a little more than just "on the right track." I've raised three children past the very young stage...the oldest is an adult already, and the other two are teens...and none of them have ever had to have a tap on the had or a swat on the butt, nor have any of the children I've babysat throughout my life. A very young child, say toddler age, who is getting into something can be moved away from the thing they shouldn't be bothering, and distracted with a toy. Their environment can be restricted so that they can't get into certain areas that would be dangerous to them. And then, as they develop speech skills, they can be told exactly what they were doing wrong and why they shouldn't do it again....or better yet, told about possible dangers BEFORE they get the idea to bother something.
"But when your child is old enough to crawl and get into things, then they are old enough to be taught "NO". "
Absolutely agree....but that doesn't require being hit. | |
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| all4ucnc (694) | 3 years ago | We obviously disagree...Welp to each their own, but I'll tell you what I have never had to put things up or restrict any areas, they've always known what was right and what was wrong, And if we go to someone elses house, they don't need to be restricted, or have to move their things either.
What ever works for you, you keep doing it. My kids are 2 and 5 and simply counting is enough if I need to remind them of the way they are acting. Because they were put on the right track at a younge age. | |
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| TeresaK (8081) | 3 years ago | Mine are 21, 17 and 14....and they're well mannered, respectful, caring kids who aren't any trouble to anyone.
Oh, and I never put anything away in my house or expected anyone else to, either. But I did put up a baby gate to keep them out of the kitchen while I was cooking, until they were 2 or 3 yrs old. That was for MY peace of mind as much as for their protection. | |
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| 39. dizzybot (285) | 3 years ago |  I think it depends on the child and the situation you are in. If a child is misbehaving and not listening when you tell them to stop then I believe spanking is an option. When I have children I will spank them if I feel it is necessary but I know there is a line that is not to be crossed, and I will not cross it. If you are going to hit so hard it leaves a red mark then that is out of order in my opinion. Children just need to learn discipline and to know right from wrong and they will be halfway to the little angels everyone wants them to be.:)
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| 40. michelledarcy (4382) | 3 years ago |  I think that it is ok to spank your children. Its a natural thing to do and other animals do it.
However it is never the right option when you are really angry as that when you can go too far.
For my children I rarely do it, when they are really naughty I do threaten it and occasionally have to carry it through.
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| TeresaK (8081) | 3 years ago | Other animals spank their children? Please share where you got this information......thank you. | |
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