bully

Philippines
March 8, 2007 9:08pm CST
I recently found out that my 9 year old son and three of his school friends took a bike belonging to another 8 year old boy (with whom they have been bickering over a period of a few weeks) and smashed it to pieces. My son was on a 3 day school trip when I was told so I spent 3 days in disbelief that he would be involved in such a thing. I questioned him on his return and he confessed all (as have the other 3). I was devastated. He's a very bright kid (1 - 2 years above average in all subjects) and is generally a very happy boy. We have approached this with the attitude of making him see how he has let us down and taking away the things that are precious to him. Are we being to hard? Too lenient? Is he becoming a bully?
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cripfemme
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
13 Feb 08
All kids bully sometimes, don't worry as long as it doesn't become a regular thing. I think taking away privledges is a good tactic, but only for a week or two, just long enough for him to remember it, but not resent as unfair or overkill. That causes them to lose the lesson and feel oppressed instead.
judyt00
@judyt00 (3496)
• Canada
9 Mar 07
I hope those 4 boys are made to buy the smaller boy a new, better bike out of their savings. Until then, your son should be grounded, not allowed to talk to the other boys, and have his bike removed. make him pay as if he was an adult. if none of the other parents want to make their kids help, you should make your son pay for the whole bike. The only he is going to learn is to suffer himself. And when he presentsthe new bike, make him appologise to the boy AND his parents