Have you ever been in love with a bad person?

I think it's possible for people to change, but it's also pretty unlikely. Most people don't change. Please be very careful. He may be acting kindly toward you now, but if he is a violent person, that violence WILL eventually be directed toward you. Trust me, people who are violent are capable of controlling it when necessary. And from a male perspective, the dating period is often a time when they hold it in check only for it to come out later. After what I've experienced, my advice would be to pay close attention to this very bright red flag and get out. If you are determined to stay, though, please insist that you won't marry him without counseling first and make sure all your worries are addressed. After marriage, it's usually too late to do anything about it. And don't forget to listen to your head, not just your heart.

I am a strong believer that true love can change what people might consider even the worse of people. However what you have to do is keep this in mind, history can and often times does repeat itself. So although someones changed now, doesn't mean they can't or won't go back to their old ways. Some people change for the rest of their life and some go back to their old bad ways. It's really hard to say which way it could go. Also if he's getting mad and drinking alot that's not good for a healthy relationship and often can lead to lots of mental and physical abuse. I'd be very careful. Personally I wouldn't stay in a relationship with someone like that.

I think you both should sit down and talk about his reaction to you when he goes off drinking. Maybe if you let him know that it bothers you, he will change his ways. I would also tell him that you are not sure how much longer you can handle him drinking when he is mad at you. Tell him that you really want to make the relationship work out but it going to take the both of you to do so. He may change for you. If not, then I would have to say to either put up with him the way he is or get out of the relationship if you can no longer deal with it. Make sure you tell him that you do not want to marry someone with that kind of beahavior.

I guess nobody just changes because of somebody else but only when he himself wants to change. It is dangerous to have a relationship with a guy who is violent and addicted to alcohol.

I haven't been in a relationship with a "bad" person, but I watched my mom go through one when I was a teenager. The guy physically assaulted her, emotionally terrorized her, and Dale didn't drink! Her kids received the psychological and emotional residue of that failure. I am her eldest child and hence, the closest that felt this. In short, I empathize with what my mother and you are going through. Yet it kind of sounds like you may be letting him coddle you into a co-dependent relationship, in which you feel powerless to do anything for yourself. In fact, you play a role by still being there, so it is your responsibility. By posting your concerns, you show you are not helpless.

No, I've never been in love with a bad person. I dont know why but I usually fall in love with good people, intelligent and smart.
Yes, I think that in your case the best option is try to escape before he propose to you.
Bye and good luck

I don't want to be mean, but you need to wake up. If he is just doing that stuff to show you he is mad, he doesn't really love you. How old is he? Alot of people never change, especially guys. Most of them are who they are and will always be that way, no matter what you do. Who is the one suffering in the relationship, YOU! How does it make you feel when he acts like that?

My mom was married to my dad for over 50 years until he died. He was emotionally and physically abusive when he was drunk. He would always apologize after and say he wouldn't do it again but it didn't change until my brother threatened him if he ever hit my mom again he would kill him. That was in his later years and though he never hit her again he was still verbally abusive. She could never do anything good enough and she couldn't even say hello to a man and my dad would get jealous. I am sorry but you can never change someone with issues like this by loving them. They have to see themselves for who they are and want to be different. If they use the excuse you drove them to it or you made them mad then there will always be an excuse for their anger. They need to get at the root at what is causing the anger and hurt in their lives and believe me you can never do enough, love enough or give enough to change them. My mom was as close to perfect as anyone could ever be and she could never measure up to my dad's expectations. Your boyfriend has to want to quit using alcohol, find out what is causing the source of pain in his life to use it as an escape and an excuse to hurt you, get some help and only then can he truly love you. My dad looked to others to make him feel good and if they didn't he would cut them out of his life or hurt them like he did to my mom. Find someone to talk to yourself that doesn't know either of you that can help you look at this situation in a healthy way. I used to worry about what people thought of me but got some good counselling for my own issues and am learning how to be the person God meant me to be. I pray that you will find peace and freedom and that your boyfriend will get the help he needs to be a loving friend. But sometimes it takes letting go. If you keep trying and find you are becoming like the hamster on the wheel, running and running but never getting anywhere, then maybe you need to get off before you are on empty and have no more to give!

I think it's time to get out while you still can.
You can be miserable all by yourself. You do not need a man to help with that. Good luck to you, hon.

well, most the the time i fall in love with bad person because you can say that i am also a bad person in regards of guessing persons...lol... well the best part of the story is i fall in love with a girl who even dont want to talk to me just because of some missunderstandings or you can say that there is a hell of missapropriations in our relation ship