Do we know what we want in a man? Do we even know

Being a single mother of 2. I been on a lot of dates. And I just can't seem to find the perfect fit for my kids. I don't want him to be their father they already have that. Just someone they can look up to. I can take care of myself. It would be nice to meet someone I can connect to. I have a very big list Of the"type" of man I want or should have. Maybe my list is too big. Maybe I am setting my standards too high. Heck I don't care, I don't just any ol body. lol I am very picky who I want around me, I have to be attracted to him. What you think what an ideal man is? Is there such a things as a good man? The saying if he is good he is either not straight, married, or locked up.lol Is that for real??????