people need to think before they speak

That is unacceptable! I can't even believe that this woman would be so rude to say that. What did your friend say. I would have said something like "Yep, they all have different fathers." Then I would have waited a few minutes and said, "Oh, and by the way, they all have different mothers too, not that it is any of your business."

I hate it when people say stuff like that. Why do they even care if someone has several kids, all by different dads? When I was little, my best friend had bright red hair and blue eyes. Her sisters and brother all had brown hair. Two had brown eyes, and one had blue eyes. I had brown hair and brown eyes. I would go places with them, and some people would comment on my best friend, too. One lady once said, "Wow, you got over your first husband fast didn't you?" My friend's mom was confused. The lady said "Well, your two youngest ones are only, what? a year apart? And that little one is obviously not from the same dad." My friend's mom said "No, it's this one that isn't from the same dad, but she's not from the same mom, either. She's her best friend." And then we walked off.

That is so rude. I agree with sunshine, she should have said they had different fathers and mothers. So what if the kids were all hers and have different dads. It happens. I have 2 wonderful children with different dads, it doesn't make me or them any worse than anyone else. I can't stand people who make assumptions like that, especially wrong ones. That rude woman would have had a shock around here. There are loads of childminders about who have 3 or 4 kids at a time, there are also several "broken" families or whatever you call them now, where the kids don't have the same parents or something. And besides that, despite my kids having different dads, they are very much alike, and I know lots of kids who are nothing alike and share the same parents. So, anyway, that woman should have thunk before she spoke. Nasty person.

I know what you mean. People always judge without thinking or hurting other feelings. My sister has three daughters and two are light complexion with blond hair and the middle one is brown complexion with brown hair and that doesn't mean they are from different fathers. I know the middle one resembles our mother's side because we are brown complexion.

Oh my goodness!!!! I cannot believe anyone would say that and not in front of the children. Some people are so rude.

That is just terrible. People can be so rude. Both my children had blonde hair when they were young and both my hubby and I have brown hair. I use to always get where did they get the blonde hair from.

Some people are so clueless! I don't blame her for being angry. True or not, it was none of that woman's business to open her mouth. Especially in front of children. What was she thinking? I'm sorry they had to deal with the likes of her.

That does seem to be an off the wall comment. I don't think it was something that needed to be said. It is none of her business who the parents are of the kids. I am sorry to say but there are some people that do speak before they think. This is also another example of someone not minding their own business. I am sorry to say that this is becoming the norm. Rude people telling you what is right and wrong with what you are doing. My grandmother used to say that the reason people did this was because they could see their own faults in other but not in themselves.

oooh my, i can't believe that.that's really rude and she could've take advantage from what just happend and she could started giving a polite lesson about judging the others without right. i am feelinh terrible for her

Grrr some people! I get that all the time since my son is really light, while my husband and I have dark hair and darker eyes and darker skin. I once looked like my son but got darker as time passed. About once a week I get "he looks nothing like his daddy or you" or "it's great that your husband accepts him as your own"! One time I had a medical receptionist ask me if I'm trying to falsify documents since she didn't believe my kid was hispanic! People can be so rude sometimes!

My children have not got all the same fathers. I dont believe that makes me a bad person or anything. I just think it so wrong that someone judges you without even knowing the situation. I probably would have said something very smart mouthed back to her, but that is hard when kids are around. I think she handled herself well in the situation, and didnt stoop to her level. cheers

That's very rude! My oldest two are from my first marriage and don't look like the younger two and people have pointed that out and said "well that's because they have different dads". Well yeah, I know that, but it sounds weird for people to say it sometimes. Some people say it okay, but others say it like I am trashy or something and have 8 kids with 8 baby daddy. lol. So I just ignore it, but it's pretty rude in my opinion, I wouldn't say that ever!

Yes,as people would say,"you better shut your mouth when you're angry or else you'll say things you'd regret in the future"..

yeah,you are right ,it is necessary to think before speak.or you will perhaps hurt somebody in future.

I agree with you there pop pop. I think I would have casually responded , oh they all have different father, uh different mother too as a matter of fact. lol. Some people eh. I remember with my oldest one who is in her 30s now this old witch talking to another and saying look at that that mother (me) should be ashamed of her self, dying that child's hair. lol. My daughter actually both of them have dark blonde hair with a million different shade in it , all natural of course. I had a laugh about that one. Then my oldest was 15 when the youngest was born, of course being proud of her newest sibling she took her out for a walk in the stroller and these two old Biddy's started harping at her about having a baby so young and preaching birth control to her. She never batted an eye, just let them thing her sister was her daughter and came home laughing about it . People are rude , but really it makes a fool of them not us , doesn't it? lol

I think it's definitely wrong what that woman said, but since she was a stranger, it's possible that she might have a mental problem. I would have done what you're sister did, except I wouldn't have used a nice tone and told the woman that her comment was rude.

For the love of God, what is wrong with people! Can they not keep their noses in their own business. How terribly the child must have felt! I am proud that your friend was able to maintain some decorum. I'm not sure that I could have! Geeze!

That is mental. Imagine the "son" heard and didn't infact know he was from a different father. That's one way to make the kid feel excluded. I was at a bus stop one day and old woman was commenting on some eastern europeans and asian at the bus stop - they go to the college for english lessons. She said "look at them coming over here, draining the goverment adn spreading aids." Old woman really should learn to keep their mouths shut and their stupid opinions to theirselves.

that lady was so rude. she really should have thought about what she was going to say. i really believe that people really need to think before they speak their mind because you'll never know that your already hurting somebody. she should have just asked if he was her son or something. i'd be shocked and angry if that ever happened to me!

yes. They shoud thinking brfore speak, This is important to everyone.