Had a dream about a EX...Do you know what it means?

Canada
September 14, 2007 12:13pm CST
Last night, i started dreaming about the guy i am interested in now...but then the dream switched that I was on the phone with a guy I dated in 1996, but I knew for a very long time. He and I are still friends and talk sometimes, hes even on my facebook. In my dream, I accidentially called him somehow, and while I was talking to him, he was talking about getting back together. It was kind of wierd in one way, because I had tried in 1998 to get back with him and he had said no. So in my dream I was shocked, and all. However in real life, him and I share a tragic past we will never ever recover from and never forget. See I met this guy through a cousin I used to be really close with. He was like one of my very best friends in the world. And this guy was my cousins best friend, and hes the reason we had got together in the first place. Well a few months after we had broke up, he, my cousin and I were hangin out. My cousin had told us that he was going to commit suicide. I was 12 but turning 13 soon, they were both 11. My ex and I sort of laughed it off thinking he couldn't possibly be serious. A week before my birthday my cousin hung him self. My ex and I both felt like crap, because we didn't tell anyone. We stuck by each other at the parlours, and cried on the phone with each other most of the nights. My ex couldn't bring him self to go to the funeral. Well, I had support from all my family since they lost what i had. My Ex didn't have that, he began to drink alot and do drugs. In 2001 I dreamt about this guy, in the dream he was like 5. In the dream I had no Idea who he was until I woke up. I was at my nans it was in the middle of the night, I looked up at the cieling tring to go back to sleep the face of the boy haunting me. Then all of a sudden it dawned on me who it was, I don't know what made me do it but I fled off the couch and grabbed the day befores paper, and flipped it right to the courts, staring back at me was a small article, about my ex, that said he had been sent to jail for a small crime. I don't know why this had happened. The only other time I dreamt about him, was earlier this year, and I again seen his name in the courts the next day. Are these messages from my dead cousin telling me somethings wrong with my ex? Or is there more to my exes recent behavior since my cousins little sister told me that he's been single since we had broke up. Should I check the paper or message his sister?? I really am worried about this...
1 response
@maia0129 (91)
• Philippines
14 Sep 07
That's very bothersome. I really pity your ex. He must be very affected with what had happened. I would recommend that you should check with him. I believe there is nothing wrong with that especially that you had a relationship with him before and you are just concerned of him. Maybe your dream was a reminder or a real sign that someone is needing you and your help somewhere, somehow. I also felt the concern for your ex, so please do whatever you can to be of help to him. Good luck...I would be glad if you are going to update me also about him. Thanks anyway...
• Canada
14 Sep 07
Yes, I will check on him, and see if hes okay. If he doesn't sign in soon, I will PM his sister to see if everything is okay. He has stayed out of trouble, for quite a few months, but he usually does good then stops again. I know its sad, and we do try and help him alot. Unfortunately I am the only one he will talk about what actually went down. He wont talk to my cousins sister, because in his mind shes his sister and doesn't want her to hate him forever about it. Also he doesn't have the heart to tell my aunt as nither do I. As still none of them know about him telling us that. I however had alot of councelling in school and out of school. I have tried to be there for him, but its hard because well just when you think you are getting through to him, he relapses. I know hes back into it all because he has uploaded a new profile pic, to facebook, and you can tell. And yeah I will let you know as soon as I know anything.
• Philippines
14 Sep 07
Thanks a lot for the info...I understand that it's hard on your part to keep that kind of secret within you, not telling your aunt or cousin about what had happened. I think your ex must have partly blamed himself for what happened to his friend who was your cousin. I wish he can overcome that soon because he is already ruining his life...