I wish I didn't get my tubes tied.
By queenlove
@queenlove (495)
United States
September 23, 2007 1:49am CST
I got my tubes burned cut and tied when I was 21, because I had 3 kids already. Now that I am 30, I want another baby so badly, and I can't because I cannot afford to get them untied. This was a huge mistake and if anyone out there is considering a tubal ligation, I strongly recommend that you think long and hard about it first. Don't do something you will regret.
Are there any other women out there who regret this decision?
How about anyone who has gotten pregnant after a tubal ligation?
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22 responses
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I know it may not be the answer your looking for, but have you thought of fostering or adoption? I know how you feel about making decisions earlier in life and to later wish you hadn't. I haven't had a tubal ligation done, but my husband had a vasectomy and one of my tubes ruptured during a tubal pregnancy so I only have one fallopian left. I sorely wish we could have one more child, but he has two from his previous marriage and we have our daughter from our first marriage. So, I guess that has to be enough.
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@Vixx06 (162)
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23 Sep 07
I am 39 and I have 3 kids. I really want to get my tubes tied. I think 3 kids are enough. I do get very broody at times but I know how hard it is to bring up kids. I would not change my girls for anything but I could not have any more. Would you try and foster maybe?
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@meholl (510)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I had my tubes tied after I had 4 kids, and my last very difficult pregnancy. A year and a half later I had a partial hysterectomy. Now that I have no uterus, I want more kids, but the damage done to my body by my last pregnancy was severe. I had my tubes tied because I wouldn't be able to have more children and would have to terminate any pregnancy. But to completely lose the ability to have children really makes it hard on a woman. If I could have more children now, I would. But if you wuold like, I can still have my eggs donated, because they left me with my ovaries, which are still good for a few more years.
@meholl (510)
• United States
23 Sep 07
Maybe you should consider having a child or to for the sake of some of these woman that can't have children. You probably have a perfectly healthy body capable of producing children without problems, whereas many woman would love to have children and their own bodies have betrayed them in this manner.
@tanjam420 (228)
• United States
24 Sep 07
i would like to say that i had a hysterectomy in 2001. i had cervical dyspatia amung other problems and told the doctor that i was tired of taking pain management it didnt seem to work.. i had already had two beautiful boys and i was a single mother. there father had beat it into my head that nobody would want me because i was used goods..nice man huh... well i didnt think i would ever find anyone.. i met up with one of my high school boy friends that i had fallen head over heels for (while in high school) and we were messin around nothing serious that was in april of 2001, i ended up getting pregnant then haveing a miss carrage, a month later had my hyterecomy.. then in november of 2001 we started dating very serious.. by 2003 we were married.. now i wish i could have another baby but it is completely impossible... i have been raising his son since he was 7 months old and i love him as my own. we have talked about adoption, and both agree that we would adopt an older child. i think it is great that you are willing to donate your eggs. as far as for you sacrificialclam... well you are intiled to your own opinion but i really dont think you need to be so harsh.. and if you hate kids as much as you say why the heck were you working in the system for kids?? you make the comment about all these kids that were left in the system or aged out.. why didnt you do something more for them..there would have been nothing wrong with you trying to adopt one.. just because you dont want to ruien your career or your body?? i think that is just a sad excuse..you talked about a little girl who helped you with your work after school.. well if you hate kids so much i really dont think you would have wanted her around you.. i for one would adopt a child with special needs or a child that is older they need the love and support just as much as an infant..that is all i have to say about that.. like i said you have your opinion and so do i..
@meholl (510)
• United States
24 Sep 07
Thank you for backing me up. It would be nicer if we could give more encouragement to the person that really needs it. It is a wonder as to why we were given bodies that have the ability to reproduce with so many ailments that make reproduction impossible. Sorry for your loss, but glad that things are working out well now
@meaculpa (338)
• Philippines
23 Sep 07
I have no plans in getting one. I love babies and I have 3 beautiful kids. I am wishing to have plenty of children.
You are still lucky to have 3 kids. Be happy and show your love for them.
Never regret for it will do you no good.
Focus on the future with a positive outlook together with your family.
Good luck to you!
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@momtrying2makeit (3270)
• United States
3 May 09
Hi there queenlove, I have a friend that did the same thing and the man she was with it did not work out with and now she is with another guy. He the new guy has no kids and wants some and guess what her tubes are tied. I told her not to do it because for me it is againist my regiolous beliefs, not that I am tryint o place them on you but I would never get my tubes tied. I hate surgrey and plus I have only had 2 kids and I would like to have some more but who knows. I had them really close together as well but no regrets here. I guess the best thing you can do is hope that you can have it reversed at some point and than you could have more kids, also have you ever thought of adoption or foster care? There are a lot of children without homes and even though it wont be your child I am sure you would love the child just the same. Take care and happy mylotting to you hope this helps. 
@Mare73 (1335)
• United States
13 May 08
I got my tubes cut and burned several years back and NO WAY DO I REGRET IT!!! NOPE. It was the best decision of my life :-) I love my three kids (15, 10 and 6), but if I had it my way I would have only the 15 year old.
I know here reversals start at about $5000 and that does NOT guarantee a thing. There is still the possibility of not getting pregnant.
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13 May 08
ohh dear its ok i mean u r 21years old and u r already a mother of 3 childrensn dats great.... u r very lucky.... in such a small age u became a mother of 3... u should thankful to God.. and 3 r enough... dont regret urself for anything....chill
@sammijay (1)
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14 Jul 08
hi there,
i got my tubes tied when i was 22,,my husband was older than me and he talked me into it,i thought we wud always be together and at the time agreed.
how ever we split up and now my new partner is the same age as me and has taken my 2 kids on as his own and is great with them.we are so happy together and really want to have one child together,but i priced a reversal up and its £3541 pounds plus £300 for an appointment to go talk about getting it done,what can you do? what makes it worse is he is an only child so its the only chance for his mam to become a grandma.
really think long and hard before getting a tubal tie,,the rod in your arm that you can get has a higher sucess rate to stop you from getting pregnant and if you change ya mind at least you can get that removed for free...
@yvonne2002 (1)
• United States
29 Jul 08
Yes i got a tubal im in my 40s me and husband have no kids together and we want one really bad, i know how you feel and i am trying to find a way to make it happen like really fast...and i dont know where to go because i cant afford it either...but im going to look around and see what's out there...
@deeesfamilyvalues (318)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I know this is an old discussion but, I had my tubes tied at 21 an then untied at 32. I went to Tennessee in september of 02'. I saw a doctor named John Curlin. It cost me a total of $3,500. It was the best thing I have ever done. We now have three beautiful little boys. If anyone wants info please let me know. I would love to share more info with you.
• United States
26 Feb 09
I am 25 and i had my tubes tied acouple of months of having my daughter and i was 23 at the time. When i got it done i thought i was doing the right thing, because my kids dad's are not in the picture and i didn't want to raise another baby by myself. Well acouple of months of having them tied me and my boyfriend started dating and when i got with him i knew i did the wrong thing. He wants a baby of his own and i want another one to and i don't know if im going to beable to have his baby now. I want to get my tubes untied but i just don't have the money to do that and i don't know how long my boyfriend will stay with me. If anyone can help with getting my tubes untied i would be so greatful.
@azmotherof4 (1)
• United States
30 Mar 09
I got my tubes tied when I was 27. I am not 32 almost 33 and for the last year I have really wanted a baby. Just about a month ago we took our kids to the zoo ( I have 4 already) and it was full of babies and pregnant women. I left so depressed and have had the blues for the last month. I myself cannot afford to have my tubes untied and my husband doesn't want more. I just wanted you to know that I understand. I hope this feeling goes away because I'm just do down and not much fun to be around. I love my kids and husband more than anything, but I just don't feel complete. Weird, I know!! LOL... Best of luck to you!
@hodder28 (1)
• Canada
14 Apr 09
I'm feeling really sad today, I did make the decision to have my tubes tied 4 years ago and I'm now regretting my decision!
I have 2 beautiful children but I'm now feeling the need to have another child.
I feel like at the time I made the right decision, but now not so much!
I don't have the money to have it reversed but I so wish I did!
I don't know how to get over the sadness I feel, it's just so hard and I don't know why???
If anyone has some advice it would be greatly appreciated.
@Jshean20 (14349)
• Canada
24 Sep 07
That's a tough situation, often when we're younger we regret the decisions we made and wish to take them back. I suppose that all I can advise is to save up some money to get the operation undone or consider adopting. My boyfriend and his siblings were all born in Korea and adopted into Canada, adoption can be rewarding from what I've heard.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
26 Sep 07
My neighbors great grand daughter had one done and then 10 years later ended up getting pregnant. I'm 26 and we just had our 3rd child. Before he was born we said my husband was getting a vasectomy. Now that he's born and so cute, when he smiles at us he makes us second guess our decision. We haven't had anything done yet and we can't afford another child really. but theres this what if factor. what if 5 years down the line we have more money and decide we want more? even in 10 years i'd still be young enough to have another one. but would i want one? Its easy to look at him now and say yes because who doesn't love a baby...but when are kids get to be teenagers, do I really want more? For now we are just going to exercise caution and hope that we come to a decision one way or another.
I think you should enjoy the 3 you have and enjoy your life. Kids are wonderful. This way, you can go do things you want to do after the kids are out of the house. Think of it this way. If you had a baby now, you'd be 50 till you final had an empty nest.
@Dee351972 (743)
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24 Sep 07
hi, i got my tubes tied after my last child. I had 2 boys and then i got my gril so we figured we should stop after all 3 is a handfull and kids take lots of money. I did not regret this intill like a year or so ago. zThis was after i had lost my 7 year old daughter few u before. Now bothmy husband and i kind of wish we could have antoher girl. I do have a 5 year old now that i adoptive(my real nephew). I alos may have 2 twin girls (my sister just had them) and if they are taken away they should go to me. Anyway i just gald for the kids i have and am waiting to see if i get them, if its meant to be we will get them.
@asawanialvin0611 (1877)
• Philippines
11 May 08
ask an infertility expert if she can reanastomose the tubes.It can be done now
@snipergrunge (1)
• United States
3 Apr 08
Try tubal ligation reversal. This simple surgery can help to get pregnant again. There are several clinics in US which can offer this type of surgery. The biggest one is Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center in North Carolina. Their website www.tubal-reversal.net and you can apply there.
