Does your family give you grief when you spend time online?

@miamilady (4916)
United States
December 1, 2007 8:45am CST
I just typed a long discussion on this. I wasn't planning to. I just started typing and then went on a rant. The discussion, once again, didn't go through. I know the advice. type it on word first. sometimes I just don't plan on it being as long as it turns out. Anyway... You see the question in the subject line? Is this an issue in your home?
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@makatas (1101)
• Greece
1 Dec 07
Well, no-one tells me directly sth, only i get some side-whining because i dont go out often :). I sometimes don't have enough time to do so. I play an online game that requires much of my time, and it lasts for 4 months, during that period i get quite a lot of whining, but they never say anything more. After all, as a student on electronics, they understand that PC related issues will be my future work. And they also know, that spending time on PC, except that on the online game, i actually improve my qualities.
@makingpots (11916)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Welcome to myLot, makatas. I hope you like it here.
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@makatas (1101)
• Greece
2 Dec 07
Thank you, im making myself at home :)
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@Thoroughrob (11748)
• United States
1 Dec 07
They do alot of the time. I get online when they are home when they are watching tv shows that I don't care for and that aggravates them.
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• Canada
1 Dec 07
I work on the computer all day so being online isn't a problem. My problem is trying to get time away from the computer. Hubby knows I need to be on to make money so he encourages me to work. Now that he understands..... When I first started working on websites, my husband didn't understand what I was doing and he was resentful. He'd tell people I'm playing on the computer. His attitude changed when the pay started coming in. I still get trouble from some people - family and friends that either don't understand my job or don't respect my work because I work out of my home office. Just recently I had to show my mom a pay stub because she thought my internet money was in virtual dollars - not actual money. Are you getting a lot of trouble for being online?
• United Kingdom
2 Dec 07
It's like that with us too. I do some things online to earn extra money which is another reason I get upset with my partner being on the computer all the time. He does sit and play games for hours while I'm doing everything else while, all that time, I could have been earning more. I don't like to be on the computer all the time but it is frustrating when he's ignoring the entire family for a computer game while I could be earning money which I would do after the kids are inbed anyway but can't because my partner is on for so long. He'll even say he'll just be on until dinner's ready even though that means I have to be the one keeping the kids out of the kitchen while making th edinner!
@miamilady (4916)
• United States
10 Dec 07
I used to get into a lot of trouble. Now I get occassional smart alec comments about my time online. I guess everybody in the house is allowed to have outside interests except mom.
• United States
1 Dec 07
My husband can get to be a pain about it every now and then. But he doesn't mind spending the money I've made online, or using the gift cards I get from MyPoints. Or the year that his son's entire Christmas was paid for by ToysRus cards from FreeRide. He calms down once I explain that the majority of the time I'm paying bills or such online, and I'm usually only online while he's watching a tv program that I don't like. I can't see any difference in me sitting in front of a computer and him sitting in front of a tv. The only time it really came to a head was the night we got in an argument about something else, and he brought in a pick from the garage and was gonna kill my computer. Thankfully, he stopped. He felt real bad about that, and actually just bought me a whole new computer, because the one I had was really old and slow, so maybe now I won't take as long when I get online!
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@miamilady (4916)
• United States
10 Dec 07
"I can't see any difference in me sitting in front of a computer and him sitting in front of a tv. " I absolutely agree!
• United States
1 Dec 07
Sorry you lost your discussion Miami! That does really suck. It's just me and hubby, and I have about 12 hours, sometimes the whole day and night to be on here when he's working, so I surely get off line when he comes home. I don't have a problem doing that. He may think that I'm on here too much, but he has never said anything to me about it other than in a joking way. So I just make sure to get off here when he comes home. He knows I got on it when or shortly after he left, lol, and I don't like him seeing me still on it when he returns. Although there are days like that. LOL So, luckily no, I don't get any grief about spending time online or anything like it. Do you? Bay Lay Gray xx
• United States
1 Dec 07
Well, they used to when I didn't do my homework. Now they fear for my eyes.
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@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Naw... I could probably rant at my husband cause he plays poker online all night. He gets on it the minute he gets home from work and plays for several hours. Last night since it was friday he played till the wee hours of the morning. I was a little irritated but, it helps him relax. I'm on the computer in the morning till early afternoon. If we were ever able to get another PC or a laptop(neither of which we can afford) he could use the laptop at work and at night so I could spend more time on the pc especially since I would like to work online.
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@wolfie34 (26789)
• United Kingdom
1 Dec 07
Ah another good reason not to be in a relationship or having someone who nags on at you because you want some quality time on the computer! Thankfully I don't have to worry about getting grief because I am free to spend all day on the computer and all weekend if I so wish, I have no one saying you've gotta do this or that. I set quality time aside to do other jobs and it's wonderful to be on the computer all day without a word said!
@TerryZ (22082)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Sometimes my husband will say something smart to me when Ive been on the computer too long. But I just say get over it! I dont need to hear that! He is just jealous thats all. I will stay on the computer as long as I wish!
@royal52gens (5383)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Well I used to get a lot of grief about it. I just recently went on that "divorce diet" so I will be losing about 280 pounds of grief soon. I would like to know how to make a true living online to supplement my income. I do make a little money now but not nearly enough. I enjoy the friends I have made over the years online. They make me smile and laugh.
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@miamilady (4916)
• United States
10 Dec 07
lol sounds like a great diet! Good luck finding work online. I didn't have much luck when I was trying to find online work, but I do believe there are some good opportunities out there. Have you found anything promising yet?
@Lakota12 (42678)
• United States
2 Dec 07
Some times yes sometimes no. Depends on what has to be done that day
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@Adoniah (7515)
• United States
2 Dec 07
One more joy of being single. You can do what you want when you want for as long as you want. My only constraint is when to throw the cover over the bird cage or toss in some goodies to keep her happy. We both like the same music so that entertains her most of the day!!
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@liera0 (280)
• Philippines
1 Dec 07
My mom complains but it isn't new to me at all. She complains in everything. Most that complains are people I talk online. Some keeps telling me to go out. They seem to forget we don't have same time zone. There morning ..my evening.. the time I'm usually home from work and spend my time on pc and on the game I play.
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@makingpots (11916)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Yes I get a little bit of grief now and then. If I get on the computer while hubby is home he usually says "Bye" as I am heading in that direction. He acts like I am going out somewhere. I tell him all the time that he can talk and interact with me while I am on the computer. He prefers I be in the same room with him. So I told him, fine..... buy me a laptop for Christmas. Fingers crossed.
@miamilady (4916)
• United States
10 Dec 07
I do understand his desire for undivided attention sometimes. I'm just curious, what is he doing in the other room while you're online?
@chrislotz (8200)
• Canada
18 Dec 07
I don't understand what you are talking about with the discussion that was too long. Did your time run out? Don't get it? My hubby sometimes gets a little upset with me, when I'm on the computer too much. I say to him, so your laying down watching TV, and doing nothing. I am on the computer and watching TV at the same time. What's the difference. At least I'm doing something instead of laying on the couch doing nothing. He still thinks I'm on too long and that I should just sit in the chair and watch TV with him. Well I'm just on another chair instead of the livingroom chair. My computer is in the living room, just to the corner so I am still sitting in the same room with him. Oh well.
@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
18 Dec 07
Well, there are only me and my son at home, and yes he can get frustrated when he has to wait for the computer when I am Online. I make money from free money making programs, and it take a while to go through all the programs I am a member of. Therefore He has to wait until I will give in and get bored. But, on the other hand he can go to his friends and sit there, because they always sit together, so if they has to be there both, i say they can go to his friend house to enjoy them self. I am the one paying for it and also have the first thing to stay Online as long as I want.
@SViswan (12065)
• India
18 Dec 07
Oh yes they do. Earlier it was my dad because of the phone bill (we had dial-up then) and now it's my husband and son. My husband hates to see me sit in front of the computer and so I do when he is out at work.
@carmelanirel (20976)
• United States
17 Dec 07
Oh absolutely. My daughter gets on my case because she wants on and my husband hates it because he can't do all the things I can do on the computer.. (the most he does is surf MSN, he even barely checks his mail)
17 Dec 07
Don't all family's? From to time, it's nothing serious just moaning and that causes us to argue and not talk for like an hour or so and then we're back talking. It's kinda strange how some families only do arguments, It's a shame. ~Joey
@MsTickle (25136)
• Australia
8 Dec 07
I live alone and I give myself grief. I think I spend way too much time on here when there is so much to do around the house. I'm neglecting my basic chores and also several jobs that need doing outside. The thing is, this office chair of mine is the most comfy one in the house and movement is difficult for me. I do the basic basics and several times a week go the extra mile but I spend most of my time here. Don't get me wrong, I'm not lazy. I tend my 4 animals several times a day, make my bed, and keep things neat. I feel i'm making good use of my time here.