I am Furious with my Gandson!!

i think you are over reacting! he is only a seven year old child and yes it is YOUR responsibility to look after the movies not his! so what you had to pay $20.00 maybe now you have both learnt a lesson and i think it is mean for you not to take him anymore as he probably looks forward to it! you should keep taking him but you keep hold of the dvds!

How did he get hold of the DVD? If I have movies for kids I handle the DVD and they just watch the movie. If you let him have it and he probably just thought it was a toy then it is not his fault. He is only 7 what does he know about DVDs except that they are fun to watch.

the kids and the problems they cause be cause of their carelessness.sigh!i hope you would not let him get away.he will have 2 pay in one way or the other ,either by doing some chore or by cutting a part of his pay,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

I hate to hear that Marcie. I would give him some chores to do to work off that $20.00 worth for the movie. He may find it really quick if he knows he has to do some work or chores to pay for it. How soon does it have to be paid for?

this has happened to us a million times, my 14 year old is not terribly responsible, so we now keep ALL library matierials in one spot...if they read, they take one book then when they are finished they exchange it for another (i have a basket that ALL library matierials must stay in)

I would allow him to go to the library and read things while there but not allow him to borrow anymore until he finds the movie..You might talk to the library staff and explain that you wioll pay for the movie if it's not found but you would like to give your grandson the opportunity to do what is right and find this movie. I would speak to him...I'd tell him that giving away something that is not ours is the same as stealing and giving away something..I would let him know that now that he knows it's wrong that he won't be in trouble this time but he must get it back or HE will owe the library $20..Impress on him that he may not have realized he was doing something wrong but that now that his is aware he must do the right thing..Bottom line is give him a graceful way out..he will learn something from it this way. oxoxxoxoxo

You have every right to be furious, I do hope that the movie is found. I would keep the movies at my house, I wouldn't let them take them home. If they want movies to take home, then their mom should get them from the library and then she can keep track of them.

When my kids were younger I used to always have this problem with them misplacing the movies. I find it comical, to this day they still follow the rules that I set way back then (in their own families.) My rules? When we get movies from the library (or elsewhere) they have to be kept in the same spot, I had one shelf that I kept just for library books and videos. You could take one book from the spot, and when you were done reading it, or watching the movie, that book was to be put back in our 'library storage' shelf. Another rule was that the movie, or book, couldn't leave the house, and that it couldn't be lent out to a friend or something. I've paid over my fair share over the years for missing books and videos. You might be right that he lent it to a friend or something. If it was me, I'd have him 'work off' the payment doing extra chores so that he'd learn that there is consequences to his actions...will make him think about it for next time. I would also tell him that we won't be going back to the library for movies for the next few weeks, or until the missing movie is found. At least that's how I handled it with my kids. Another thing is when you do get movies for him, he can only watch them at your house, that way the movie won't be out of your possession. That's a shame that you have to waste your money, but unless he realizes the mistake affects him personally, he probably won't learn the lesson of his actions.

I would be upset too. I get movies from the library sometimes for my son and the kids I babysit to watch. I always keep them on top of the entertainment center because I'm scared one of the kids will mess them up or either lose one. From now on, I would let him go to the library with you but just let him read and not borrow a movie since he couldn't keep up with the one you are going to have to pay for. And I might would make him do some things around the house or something to make up for you having to pay for the movie.

I know that you have already scolded him about being responsible. I would give him a deadline to come up with the movie. If he does not come up with it, let him work the money off doing little chores around the house.

I know how aggravating that can be. Did you by chance look to see if it was still in the DVD player? I'm sorry that you HAVE to pay $20.00 for the movie. If it was me, I would Have him do small task around the house, to earn money to pay for it! I hope you find it!

yes, this is an expensive lesson and it is too bad you got caught paying the bill.. i have a friend who lives in the homeless shelter next door and he borrowed a "amish cookbook" for a older female resident and now she is being taken to a nursing home..but he checked the book out in his name and he has very meager funds as it is.. just tell them in the future you wil have to limit the movies to your immediate supervision..good luck

Take a deep breath and remember that he is only 7. At that age kids are still not aware of things like keep tracking of DVDs or even school items. All you can do is try to encourage him to be more responsible, but not be disappointed when he makes a mistake.

I think that you should still take him to the library but don't get anything out for him until he can find the movie that is missing first.

it happened to me before..its just that it was misplaced or something and when we try to search it ..we found it but still got to pay the penalty for overdue ..well nexttime i will not allow him to get one and must monitor all the dvds after watching them or maybe put it in a safe place where only you can locate so that the boy cant get it...

That's exactly whagt you should do. Tell them until they become more resposible, no more movies. It seems like kids these days more than ever need to taught responsiility. h

Wow you should really relax. $20.00 is not worth scaring your grandson or making him feel like a failure. Because in case you've forgotten what it's like, a 7 year old can only remember where he put so many things at a time. You should have allowed him to pick just that one movie at a time instead of telling him to keep track of three. I personally feel that was expecting too much of such a young boy. Kids misplace things, and adults either have to find them or replace them. Such is the way of life, and this is how it will always be. It's not that big of a deal.

I am also a grand father of two kids. In modern world, they have a lot of facilities for entertainment besides lovely grand parents.The grand children develop friendship and are generous in sharing with r friends, leaving grand parents in anxiety. This type of behaviour of young kids is universal.

mama,please take it easy with the poor boy,you must have scared him off.Talk to him gently and make him realise the implication and continue search for it as well.

If it was my son I would definitley offer to pay for the missing movie first of all. Have you tried talking to his parents at all? Why arent they looking for the movie at all? Or did the movies stay at your house? If I knew that my son had lost a library movie I would be looking for it as well. I think thats the right thing to do. I think if I was you I would put the library trips on hold for awhile and make sure all of the kids understand how special it is that they are even getting to go to the library, not all children, mine included, do not get to go the library every week.