husbands idea of my watching Judge Shows, and Talk Shows
By suspenseful
@suspenseful (40193)
Canada
February 9, 2008 11:36am CST
When I watch Talk Shows and Judge Shows, my husband has the idea that I watch it to gloat over the poor souls on them who are getting into all sorts of trouble, not knowing the father of their baby, stupid enough to give a loan to someone who will not pay, et cetera. However I am interested in why they got pregnant in the first place and kept their baby and they were wild girls who did not sleep with five or under but a whole dozen. And I do wonder how they cannot tell the potential fathers apart.
As for the judge shows, I am interested in the penalties given for the various offences and am certainly not there to gloat.
In other words I am in it for the information. I do love cooking and fix it up shows, especially the former, but I cannot just watch shows that are full of excitement from the time they start like my husband does.
Do any one of you have this problem?
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18 responses
@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
9 Feb 08
I don't like judge shows or talk shows because I can't stand looking at people that make "train wrecks" of the lives. I can't believe they are that STUPID.
Mind you, I was ON a judge show, tho it hasn't aired. But I was the one that was sued and the person that sued me LOST. I think they filmed it just because they realized that she would lose and the ONLY thing I wanted was that she couldn't sue me or anyone else connected to the case again. So, I more than won the case, I won getting her out of my life.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
9 Feb 08
I cannot never understand why people are that dumb, but I guess if you are desperate, no one else wants you, you would do anything to keep the one you love. I was that way when I was seventeen, but these are women in their thirties and forties.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
9 Feb 08
I enjoy the judge shows myself..I also feel a person is a dummy when they do not know who their babies father is, I mean you know that unless they have been sleeping around a lot that they would know who the daddy is.What i like and what i enjoy is when the person done wrong gets judgtist,i like to see a person done wrong get their money back,or win...Do you do like my friend?She will talk to that person while watching the show...If a woman does not know who the daddy of her baby is,then my friend will say something"well Duh! if you didn't sleep with every Tom,Di$$ and Harry you would know...So since she does talk during the show then we all know how she feels....I never talk during the show,so no one knows how i feel...You husband seems to not have a high opinion of your feelings if he thinks that you are out to see them punished...
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
9 Feb 08
I like Judge Judy. She really puts them in their place and I feel that the women should have a good idea about their bsby's daddy. It is not about gloating it is seeing justice. My husband was taught that he is the only one that matters. I have been getting upset recently because unlike him, I have a good memory and can put things together, but it was not the judge shows, it was the Maury shows and seeing all those girls who could get pregnant at the drop of a hat, and they were not the nice girls that I was taught could get pregnant after they married, but the formerly bad girls like me, only they were still bad and still having babies.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
9 Feb 08
We have out Tv on 24/7 until we go to bed at night..My husband controls the flipper ..He watches the Judge shows and cops and robbers all day long or we watch crime shows..Sometimes i steal the flipper ans watch what i like,Reba,still standing,King of Queens...He likes to control the tv,thats all he can control LMAO
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
9 Feb 08
I think your hubby has a lot to learn, like he is not the king of winnipeg..Lol also i also love Judge Judy,she refuses to put up with any crap on her show.Most of those people would just take over if you give them an inch..I have read about Judge Judy and they say she is very nice in person....
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
9 Feb 08
well I do not like shows like gerry springer which are just garbage,
there are true issues out there and there are a lot of information on the net and in bona fide sociology courses and psychology courses that explain the situation.
the judge shows are okay but since I am canadian I don't want to learn american law thinking it is the same here when many times it is not.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
9 Feb 08
I hate Gerry Springer, but I like the Judge shows, and I do not mind learning American law in case we drive there again and might run into a situation. I do know that they call the police down there for any little thing and if somoene bumps your car.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
9 Feb 08
OH good to know I'm not the only one who feels this way. My husband has the TV on absolutely nothing but disaster shows and war. If I had to watch that crap I'd be so depressed I couldn't face the next day. I finally put my foot down by saying I insist on watching Biggest Looser on Tuesday evening and I watch corner gas every Monday. When those programs are on he goes down stairs and plays his guitar. He'd flip his lid if I wanted to watch a talk show. He has watched judge Judy a couple times and I won't tell you what he calls her. Not pretty that's for sure.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
9 Feb 08
I like action adventure and crime shows, plus Lost and the CSI (Love Horatio!) but I do need a bit more reality -hate Survivor - besides just cooking shows and handyman shows. My husband hates talk shows, and with him home, I cannot watdh them unless he is down fixing up the basement. Once he knows, he'll come up, change the channel, but he will not watch it.
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@elisa126 (166)
• United States
9 Feb 08
personally I like the judge show's,I find them sometimes very entertaining lol,now as for talk shows I use to watch like ricky lake, and montel williams.But jerry springer I watched liked 3 times,didnt like it cause it got so outragously stuiped,wasnt my cup of tea.lol
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
9 Feb 08
I like Judge Judy the best. I like Maury when he does the "whose the Daddy" and when he does that wild animal shows around holidays when the kids are able to watch and they bring out all the strange animals from the zoos.
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@betsyraeduke (2670)
• United States
10 Feb 08
I don't watch much tv and I don't watch judge and talk shows, those are not really my thing. But when I do watch tv, my husband does not like what I watch either. But he says everything I watch is juvenile or for 13 year olds...*rolls eyes*. Just to explain, according to my husband, any show he does not like, reguardless of what it is or what it is about, is juvenile or only for 13year olds. Your talk shows would come under that cateory for him too, as he does not care for them. I think people should be able to watch whatever they enjoy and if someone else doesn't care for the show, they should just keep their opinions to themselves. lol
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
17 Feb 08
My husband likes those shows where the car explodes, two guys are fighting each other, you are alone against a villain who is making an atomic bomb and plans to rule the world, and when the hero escapes, flames are coming from behind him and pieces of bodies, buildings, and cars are being strewn all over the place. And he berates me for watching Judge and Talk shows?
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
19 Feb 08
That sounds like one stupid show. And guys scold us for watching our shows?
@Lindalinda (4111)
• Canada
15 Feb 08
I watch the judge shows as well but not to gloat but to try and figure out why people get themselves into these predicaments. I am Canadian as well, so I don't watch them to learn about the law because it might be quite different. Some judge shows are quite astonishing. I mean Judge Judy, she can be aggressive calling people names and insulting some. My favourite is the People's Court although I have noticed Judge Lilian is getting more aggressive as well. I watch Montel from time to time but sometimes he gets on my nerves so I pass him up for a few weeks. I don't like Maury and Jerry Springer. I think they have no quality.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
19 Feb 08
My husband likes the People's Court because some of the things they sue there are about faulty construction, basements flooding, and stuff like that. Whereas in Judge Judy it is about people losing their temper, couples who are not married wanting the goods to be split in half, etc. I do not mind the aggressiveness, I think some of the litigants deserve it especially when they do not want the other person to finis. As for Maury, you know they say that us white people cannot tell one black or oriental person from another, but it seems with these women who want to know who their babies are, they cannot tell the difference between the men of their ethnic group, white, black, or whatever.
@GardenGerty (157555)
• United States
9 Feb 08
My taste is more similar to yours, rather than crime dramas, for instance. I do really like some of the story type movies on Hallmark channel, too. I like older "crime" shows, like Murder, She Wrote.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
11 Feb 08
I like Murder, She Wrote, but I cannot fathom the murderer coming to Jessica and in a quiet voice say, "Yes, I killed her. She was always showing off her new shoes and since they were from a rival shoe company --I lost my temper, so I secretly put a poisoned needle up from her sole so the doctor would get blamed" without thinking of getting rid of Jessica Fletcher herself.
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@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
9 Feb 08
Its not really a kind of problem with me since i like to watch anything but not the wrestling show..i hate it..if he is going to watch that kind of thing in the living room.. ill go to our bedroom and watch another show..no problem ..
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
10 Feb 08
We only have one Tv set. I really should get another, but I am saving for a Mac lap top.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
10 Feb 08
I love the judge shows and some of the talk shows. I only watch them for the inforamtion also. sometimes I do get a good laugh from them too. I can't stand shows like Jerry Springer. That drives me nuts. My husband gets tired of watching all of the judge shows with me too. I think he thinks they are just boring. He would much rather hold the remote in his hands and watch some dumb movie they have these days, LOL.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
11 Feb 08
Now you have to get him interested in watching TCM and American Movie Classics. I find most of the new movies terrible and some just cater to political correctness.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
11 Feb 08
Well, we don't have cable television right now. We just rent movies through Netflix. He has really changed on what movies he watches these days too though because he is sick of the dumb, vulgar and nasty ones as well. We just have basic local channels but I love my judge shows and some of the talk shows.
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
15 Feb 08
I am totally lost on here you say my husband, so I assume you are an adult and are able to watch what you want, Your husband is there to support and protect not teach and allow. so as long as you let him do this you are behaving like a helpless child and nothing will ever change.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
19 Feb 08
He sometimes gets that way. I think it is how he was raised. He was raised Mennonite and apparently they think unless their wives are perfect housekeepers, you can eat off the floor, then they are immature.
@anniepa (27955)
• United States
9 Feb 08
If my husband had his way it would be all John Wayne all the time! I used to watch Judge Judy all the time but I seem to have lost track of when she's on in my area. I love the way she puts people in their place with her famous "Shh-up". I guess I should be used to some of these dumb people but it never ceases to amaze me that they get themselves into the situations they do. I also love cooking shows. All the action and adventure stuff I can take only now and then and in small doses. I also love CSI, especially Miami. I like to try to figure out the cases myself. I'm not one to be able to take blood and gore but other than that I'd find being a CSI to be very fascinating, the way they can solve crimes but figuring out exactly where a shot came from and all that other technical stuff. If I were young again I might want to look into some of that as a career.
Annie
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
10 Feb 08
I love police shows, but they have to show intelligence. I do like some of the shows my husband likes, but not all of them, but I do not like him saying that I watch Judge and Talk shows because I like to gloat. Me? With all that has gone wrong with my life, how can I gloat? If I did everything right, got pregnant after marriage three or more times, lived in a big house with at least five rooms, and two washrooms, traveled to either Europe or the States every year or so, had my books published, was singing coloratura solos once a year or so at a great concern hall, then I would gloat.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
10 Feb 08
I used to watch those shows all the time. It surely wasn't to gloat but i did find them facinating. I am always interested in human nature and some of the real life stories on the talk shows were heartbreaking. The ones that got pregnant and did not know the fathers got old real quick...they were all the same with the mother running off stage when she found out that yet again the father was in fact not the father. Jerry springer...couldnt get into it...too staged and too dramatic. Anyway, I can relate to your loving those shows. I had given them up entirely, simply becuz they were too addicting but did catch myself watching them again while caring for my mom. She loved them too. They are human interest stories and they are interesting.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
11 Feb 08
I can understand why those baby fathers deny their children. Who wants to stick around some loud mouth b*tch who practically gets in their face. It's a wonder why when they did find out that they are the father that they don't sue for custody.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
28 Jun 08
I watched a couple of Judge Judy shows, and in one, she told the father that he can ask for custody, and in those cases, he would get it. In fact, she even pleaded with him to try. I do think that they are rather afraid of asking for custody because of the mistaken belief that the mother even if she drank all the time would always get the children.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
12 Feb 08
I get why they may not stick with the mother but as to why they neglect the kids...nope...not at all. For one thing, if the mother was so very bad...why were they sleeping with her. And if she really was that bad, then they should be fighting for custody. Many men just lamely kick back and complain that the system always gives custody to the mom and they get raked over the coals but far too many men will not even fight for their kids sake.
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@joyceshookery (2057)
• United States
10 Feb 08
People fascinate me. In comparison to some people on the judge shows, I live a sheltered life.
It's interesting to see where folks are coming from in their heads -- naivety, misplaced trust, judgmental bloopers, the whole nine yards.
I've learned from watching the judge shows. I don't always have compassion for the parties, but don't gloat, either.
I don't have a husband to share TV time with, so no problem there.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
11 Feb 08
That is how i feel. You learn from watching them what not to do and I can understand how these women get fooled, being brought up to believe that men are more important and they should give them their money -- I guess a take over from learning of their grandmothers or great grand mothers having to give the money to their fathers after working as maids (at least, that is the custom in my husband's ancestry and my father's ancestry back in Europe.)
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@cwilson26 (2735)
• United States
10 Feb 08
My husband is the one who watches these shows and it irritates me. I don't get into these kinds of shows. I would rather watch movies, soaps, sitcoms, stuff like that. My favorite kind of movies are horror, comedy and true story movies like those Lifetime movies. But he insists on watching judge shows all the time. I'm on the computer most of the time but when I find a good show or movie I want to watch, I watch it because he gets the t.v most of the time anyway. We used to have 2 t.v's but one of them broke and we can't afford another one right now. I can't wait to get a new one though so that way I can watch what I want anytime I want to.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
19 Feb 08
I like old movies, and am a CSI fan, but the writer's strike just ended. Anyway I just watch Judge Judy now and Maury sometimes, as I would rather be on myLot and write my novel unless LOST is on. We have two TVs, but the other one is in the basement and as soon as our older son buys a house, he's going to get it. We tried to palm it on on our younger since he has a house, but he said no.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
15 Feb 08
Those Judge Shows give you an idea about the system of civil court in the States, and it depends on what one you watch.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
15 Feb 08
My husband watches the military channel a lot! He can't understand why I like watching CSI or Forensic Files or Court TV. I love that stuff! I do like watching some of the Judge shows too. Not to often though. I think all husbands and wives have different tastes in television programs and we end up wondering why in the world the other person watches that! You would think that my husband is around the military all day every day that he would want to take a break from it. No, he wants to watch more shows on the military, new weapons, blah blah blah....
@newzealtralian (3930)
• Australia
12 Feb 08
Both types of shows are based around psychology. That is, they give what the audience wants. Hey, they are great if you are doing the ironing and need something to stop yourself from turning automatic.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
19 Feb 08
That reminds me when I first was married and I watched all those soap operas, then when we adopted the kids, we were watching Sesame Street and the Flintstones, then back to soap operas in the daytime. Now it is Judge Judy and sometimes Maury and a good movie when I am not on myLot.
