Does life knock you down..Do you get right back up?

@raydene (9871)
United States
February 10, 2008 8:57am CST
More from the discussion about "I'll believe it WHEN I see it" Me as a teen... somewhere along the way I adopted a "mind over matter" attitude but I didn't understand...because I added "I'll believe it WHEN I see it" which cancelled out most of the mind over matter concept.. Then through the years with kids being born... and the losses.Step GranPapa died in 1958 ( right in front of me....Yvonne my lovely older sister only 15 died in 1963.Cousin Bobby in 1964.Grandmother in 1965 and ...Momma in 1972..My oldest son's father in 1976...Lost 3 friends in an accident in 1978...my sister Sheila in 1985..Stepmother in 1992 and Daddy in 1993..Then sister Doris 2006 and by beloved Joanie(sister) in 2007... Finishing my first degree while working and raising kids.. Then on to the next..still struggling always against the current! Never enough time..never enough money.. Did the party plans biz..tupperware,toys Then nutrition..won't mention the but was with M and N and the products were ok byt the compensation plan was not..couldn't make any money so went back to work This nagging illness whispered in my ear and kept getting louder until June of 2000 I finally gave up and laid down..Let the illness have me ... My mind couldn't keep me upright any longer.. Time and time again I did get up but each time it took me longer.. Do you jump back up?
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@GardenGerty (157865)
• United States
10 Feb 08
I think I bounce back better now than I ever did, because I know there is hope. I also know firsthand that I am a survivor. Life unfolds more day by day. I just do not know for sure which way I am bouncing right now. Things will be getting better. I am healthier than anyone else in my family, and I believe that I will alway be healthier than they are. Of course the love around me helps me come on back to center.
@raydene (9871)
• United States
11 Feb 08
Honey, I know it helps to have the support in your home from your other half that you have....I miss that but my life is opening in a new way now and all will be great. I forsee you will get even healthier in the future... xoxoxoxoxoxxo
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
10 Feb 08
Friend, it's allright to take longer to get up, as long as you get up each time. Personally, I jump back up immediately when I was a toddler learning to walk. As life goes on, I too take a longer time to get up, the flexibility and agility decreasing with the increasing load on my back. Have faith, my friend.
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
10 Feb 08
Awww Sweets..Faith is what I DO have lots of...Haven't always had it but do now.. xoxoxoxoxoo
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
10 Feb 08
Here I will say yes I do jump back up and yes it is harder but I do it I am to stubborn lol to stay down and always have been Like you I wanted to end my Life a few years ago but 4 People saved me from that well 3 People and a little dog and I got back up and decided that I will never again waver on jumping back up no matter how many times I have to do it and no matter how hard it gets Love and Hugs xxxxxxxxxx
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
11 Feb 08
Angel I know that life is difficult for you many times and I know you have the strength to jump up..You have an inner strength..call it stubborn..that gets you through the hard times.. oxxoxoxoxoxo
@mummymo (23706)
10 Feb 08
Oh Mom no wonder the illness took over - you were exhausted! I must admit though that the light shone from you even when you were so ill - your attitude just drew (as it still does) people to you as metal to a magnet! I know things have not been easy for you but you are an inspiration to many of us! I do try to jump back up after being knocked down but sometimes I just don't have the strength! I will continue to keep trying - with you as my mentor! Your sis sends her love by the way Hugs xxxx
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@mummymo (23706)
11 Feb 08
I hope you realise that I am going to have strange dreams now too don't you! lol You are a fighter Mom and you will always bounce! xxx
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
11 Feb 08
Awwwww..I just hate not hearing from her...I miss her sooooooo much.. I once had a dream that I was inside one of those clowns that you hit,knock over and they pop right back up..I in my dream was amazed at how quick it could pop up after a hard hit..I was quite proud of my skill at it..he he he..I do have the strangest dreams,no? Hugs Doll oxxoxoxoxoxoxxo
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• Canada
11 Feb 08
This is a deep topic and one that makes me feel the weight of the world. I have to say it takes me one heck of a long time to get back up. I don't find that encouragement or anything else gets me there any faster. When it comes to seeing others down and out something in me rises up and I feel the need to do everything within my power to help them or to motivate them to get there. If anything gets me going at all it has to be my faith in God and I know he would want me to stand.
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• United States
11 Feb 08
It's interesting that you would post this discussion and I'm sorta camping here at myLot while giving my husband the silent treatment to pay him back for his sharp tone with me earlier today. (wrong and ineffective I know, the fact I'm being honest about it is progress ;) I've had this very question on my mind almost haunting me the past week or so. After suffering yet another blow to my business and another hardware failure resulting in major data loss...I'm convinced my prayer for direction and purpose has been answered with a resounding "MOVE NOW!" But for the life of me, I don't know where to go or what to do. I'm no stranger to setbacks, do-overs, smackdowns, and even a couple of knockouts that had me reeling for a while. But this is so different. Maybe its my age that I feel I have to make sense of 3 years gone in the power surge of an external hard drive. What was it for? Was it a waste? Was I supposed to learn something in that for my purpose? All these questions and doubting my abilities is keeping me from jumping for the first time in my life. So to answer your question, yes I jump back up normally. But at the moment, I can't seem to make myself move at all and being down is a really irritating and frightening place for me. Is this a test? LOL
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
12 Feb 08
You are truly an inspiration ma! I have seen how you have struggled and been dropped from a great height, hurt and yet you still get up and find time to give others your undying support, love and respect and I deeply admire you for it. I think I have learnt a lot over these last 9 years of my life that the only enemy in my life is not my ex, not the people who have wronged me, it's me, I am the enemy, for being so hard on myself and wanting others to look after me like my ex in the beginning when I am good enough, positive enough, strong enough to take care of ME! I have come through a big turnaround in my life, struggling with depression and the rest and finally I am back on the road to true recovery, I know what I want, it may take a bit of time to get there, but I know that I will get there, with each day that passes I get stronger and I move another step away from my past. The road ahead isn't as rocky as before and I can see the obstacles and the big holes which once I was willing to jump head first into, now I watch my step and use the right defences to survive.
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
11 Feb 08
Well life does keep testing us how hard we are..!!! It hit us and we get up.. it hit us and we get up again..!! But how many times?? So many times whispers come thorugh my ears . "how many times??"..!! Well I am still a teen ager here ..I have never went through this much in life as you did. But Yes so many times I got frustrated with life. Some times cause of my studies some times cause of my family...and some times cause of my friends. But I feel this is it ..this is what is called life. YOu have to keep struggling called living till the end and .... now its upto you whether you do it with a smile or with a bad face. YOu have to do it..!! YOu have to live. My teacher once told me that whenever it seems like life is pulling you back it means its getting you ready to jump for the long run... like a bow pulls an arrow back so that it can go the long way !!!! I belive its true..!! My parents are very tough ones to live with .. but that only has made me strong ... YOu have to fight from your illness and live with your whole heart. YOu need a will to live. A will to live is the most powerful medicine for every illness. Yes its a good philosophy but belive me I have seen such will to "live" in many people!!! Start living for yourself, take time out for self so that you can take care of yourself... YOu like to eat more.. then eat more! YOu like to sleep more.. then sleep more! No one is your boss..!! Its YOUR life ... then why not live it YOUR way??? These things seem small but its one of the effecive way for living happily...!!! :)
• Philippines
11 Feb 08
That's awfully a lot of loss there. I am sorry to hear that...but you see when we lose someone we have to get right back up and move on forward. We are still here up and running because our time is not yet over and that we have something else to fulfill in life. I have been through lots of ups and downs in life but I still get up and try to do what I can to get my life back on track. You should do the same and never give up.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
11 Feb 08
Life knocks me down just about every day but I get right back up and keep trying because I do not want to stay down. Something new happens every day so I have to take care of each of them as they come or the weigth of all of them will become too overbearing for me to handle all at once.
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• United States
11 Feb 08
I don't let life get me down and keep me there. I get right back up again. This is due to the way my Mom raised us kids. You always saw a smile on her face no matter what happened. She had the motto "if life gives you lemons you make lemonade." She didn't just quote this but it was a very vital part of her. I have seen her in situations that any other person would have thrown in the towel. She didn't. She always kept her chin up and kept on smiling.
@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
12 Feb 08
You sure have had a lot of knocks in the past Raydene, but the main thing is that you got up, again and again and again. Yes, sometimes it's harder to get back up, but you are proof of the pudding! You are a survivor, a positive thinker, and I admire you for striving to reach your goal. Hugs to you.