another drunken party.

I would go early, stay awhile and leave before th brawl or the unpleasantness started. That is the best I could do. Iknow that they would be aware of my non drining habits just I would be aware of the fact that do drink.

Being an occasional drinker myself, I would stay home and not go and ruin anyone's party who is a non-drinker. My husband and I both drink sometimes but we stay home when we do that because there are some of our family members who do not agree with it and we accept that. We do not get drunk or act silly or anything like that but we do respect they do not drink. This is with the shoe on the other foot as an occasional drinker who doesn't get drunk.

I still live with my parents and I don't have any problems when those occasions happen.I just don't mingle with the oldies.I usually stay with the youngsters like myself.

This really isn't a problem in my family, but we do drink some and I have some friends who drink a lot. There have been times when I have joined them in drinking and then there have been times when I've decided I just don't need to drink that much. They are still my friends and they are still my family. I don't need to be drinking along with them to spend time with them. The thing about family is that we can't choose are families. What we do choose is whether or not it is worthwhile to continue making an effort to remain involved with them. That's a personal choice. With drinking, I guess it depends on exactly how "out of hand" things get, and how do they behave when they are drinking. If it's just stuff like being loud and generally goofy or obnoxious, I could deal with it. If they turn in to mean drunks, then I would probably stay away. Family doesn't always act the way we want them to act. That doesn't necessarily mean we need to walk away from them. It just depends on how badly they makes us feel when we are around them. In some cases, family is not worth fighting for, but in mose cases, I think it's worth tolerating some things in order to stay in touch with family.

Of course I would go and stay. But I would state that I can not drink much first, no one will force you to drink much. If anyone want to cheer, I would sip a little bit, not too much:)

No one in my house smokes or drinks. We just don't do those things any longer. We did try them at some point in our lives, except the smoking part for me. I never tried to smoke, my mom used to smoke a lot and the smell would always make me gag for fresh air. I have family members that do both though. I don't alienate myself from them and neither do I alienate my children from them. There are only some settings we allow our children to be exposed to that type of behavior and it is normally when we are at someone else's home. All of our family know that we don't drink or smoke and don't even attempt to pressure us into that sort of behavior. Thank fully we aren't around them except maybe 1 to 4 times a year. So the behavior isn't as bad as someone getting sloppy drunk and not knowing how to handle themselves, thus causing more harm than good. Most of the family members that do drink, only do it for special occasions and they have been drinking like that for many years. Thus they know when to stop and when to keep going.

It was actually our wedding and it was a good friend, not a family member..We had the open-bar at our wedding reception, and this good friend of mine, i knew, she somewhat had a drinking problem, even though she never admitted it...anyhow, i wasn't even sure i wanted to invite her, since i knew, she'd embarass me by getting drunk...which she did! She got in a fight with two of my dearest friends, saying their boyfriends should dump them when they can have a woman like herself instead, and when she said bye to me, she stepped on my already very sore toes, and she walked by my new hubby, bumped into him, didn't apologize and didn't even say bye to him...no need to say, he doesn't want to see her at our house..i've forgiven her, cuz since then, she resolved her drinking problem, became a mommy, got married and most importantly matured a lot.

I would still go. I may not stay long. But at least make an appearance at the beginning before things get out of hand.

Describes our family reunions to a "T"; but as one poster already mentioned: I can't swap-out drunk family members for sober ones. So to answer your question, I go to the important functions, make the rounds to see "everybody" and then leave early.

Your mention of these functions are legitimate and attendence is mandatory i.e. dad's b'day, sis's graduation. So whether I am a drinker or not I will still attend. Staying at home for such occasions just isn't me and certainly not right. I think as a host of the party one must be mindful who their guest are and preparations along with careful precautionary measures will keep drunken problems in check. Most of the time things will get out of hand is the failure to plan and control the alchohol distribution. As a host, we should be mindful that there are heavy penalties for drink driving and the hidden tragedies of such rash acts. So we must ensure that our guest would be sober enough to reach home safe and sound.

I would attend if possible, since I do not live close enough to attend most parties and reunions! I do not drink except for on rare occasions, so I might join in and have one drink or just leave early and be the driver!

If the event was important, then yes I would probably still go. Besides, I figure, there ought to be a level head at these things, otherwise the drunken people may burn the house down and forget how to dial 911. LOL I've spent many a night ushering people to the bathroom, so that they can be sick.. Sucks, but for family, I'm willing to deal with it.

If it were someone in my family that I really loved and i was basically a non drinker I would probably just go to be there because it was for someone that I Really loved and wouldn't want to hurt their feelings or let them down by just not going..I would probably make a brief appearence and just basically talk for a few minutes and then have to leave

ahhh i know what you mean too well, for me i only go in support of the family member or close friend , i hate drunk people all in my face those are the worst , hot breath full of Gin or whatever their drinking almost as if you had a lighter you could light it in by the blow of their breath and a flame would come out , i dont even drink like that , i only have like 2 cups the whole time im their , and mostly i mix it with juice i cant stand full blown liquir just disgusting to me...

This is hard because I'm really a non drinker myself and I honestly don't like being around people that are drunk off there butts. Still this my family, I would have to go because it's family. So I would suck it up and go and just stay clear of the ones that gets liquored up. There is only two types of drunks and that's happy and mad. I don't want to be near the ones that become mad drunks.

even though no one likes drunk family members, i would still go and tough it ou. only if its something important though. like a graduation.