fake jewellery

@winterose (39887)
Canada
February 24, 2008 12:44pm CST
your future husband loves you dearly but cannot afford a diamond ring, he buys you a zirconia and you are happy with it. After all it looks like a real diamond. Everyone comments on your beautiful diamond, do you tell them the truth? why or why not? would you even consider getting married if he couldn't afford a real diamond, why or why not?
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25 responses
• Bahamas
12 Mar 08
I would be estatic girlfriend...it doesn't matter if he made a ring out of a tree bark or paper, because he loves me. I knew he wasn't able to buy the ring before so it doesn't matter...the real thing would be....do u love him/do i love him? LOL...I mean the world now is based on material things, but the real and wonderful aspect of marriage is LOVE....he loving you and you loving him. I would tell my friends the truth....real friends celebrate with you whether you have a diamond or not!!! Yes I would marry him....why because it's him i want not the diamond...love can't be bought friend!!!
• Philippines
12 Mar 08
Hmm... if my future husband gave me a ring that wasn't the real thing, I wouldn't mind at all. I believe that it's the thought that counts. Him being able to think of actually getting me one is more worth the material thing itself. Now, would I reveal to everyone who thinks it real the truth? I guess I just wouldn't comment on it. I'm not good in lying. I'd probably try to divert the subject to something else, than lie. :) Of course, I would consider marrying him even if he couldn't afford a real diamond! It's the love that's more important than the material things that he could provide me with. Marriage is all about love and nothing else. :)
@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
Actually, this is what happened with us LOL Hubby couldn't afford a diamond ring, and i wouldn't have wanted him to be broke or be in debt just i could have a diamond ring! So he got me a zirconia, which shines even more than some of my friends' diamond rings!! My ring is gorgeous and i wouldn't change it for the world. And besides, it's not about the ring, it's about what the ring symbolizes, the love you feel for one another, the promise of a lifetime together, through good times and bad times. Wether it's a zirconia or diamond, the symbol is the same, exept, some of us saved a lot of money at the same time!! LOL
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• India
6 Mar 08
Hi friend, I would be very happy if he gives me a gift.I will see the love in it and not the gift he gave.I will never reveal it have a nice day
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@shypoet80 (112)
• United States
25 Feb 08
I wouldn't even care if it was an onion ring, as long as he ment it in his heart. That's what really matters
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25 Feb 08
I wouldnt care if the ring only cost £1 it is the thought at the end of the day. If they asked then I would say it wasnt real but if they were truly my friends then they wouldnt judge and people should really only be happy that they are obviously in love and he cares for her and wants to marry her not on the size of the ring thats no measure of anything just cash and that doesnt really equally happiness now does it so if you do care about the size or if the diamonds are real then you are very materialistic and thats fine just I dont feel that material things can really make you happy.
@Lindalinda (4111)
• Canada
19 Mar 08
I do not like diamonds and never wanted any. There is so much blood and human suffering that clings to them. The only diamond I would ever accept would be a Canadian diamond from the Arctic. They are mined under humane conditions and they are marked with a tinsy polar bear. Of course I could not afford one. Taking the hypothetical case that I was getting married again and my future husband would get me a zirconia ring I would be delighted. All diamonds are carbon. The carbon atoms are arranged in patterns under very high pressure and originate from the mantle of the earth. The lead in a pencil is also carbon, only its atoms are arranged differently. The only difference between a diamond and a zirconia is that one is dug out of the ground and can contain other trace elements to give it a bit of colour and the other is man made in a lab from another element -Zircon- Diamonds are harder than Zirconia. Would I tell anyone that it is not a diamond dug out of the ground? No I would not. Anyway, that is only my opinion and I am sure tons of people would disagree with me.
@GardenGerty (157629)
• United States
24 Feb 08
If he does not try to fool me with it, I am okay with it. We have only had silver bands so far. We are still married. I would just tell people "Thank you" if they comment on it. I could also say , if asked about the cost, that it cost him enough. Real friends do not care what something like that costs, and nosy people do not need to be informed.
@chertsy (3798)
• United States
24 Feb 08
It doesn't matter to me what I get actually. I'm not a huge fan on jewerly anyway. I grew up with not having any so it's nothing special to me. If my husband gave me a diamond ring and it was fake, oh well, it's no big deal. I think the thought that counts is worth more than the value of my ring. If anyone tells me how beautiful of my ring is, I would just simply say thank you and carry on. I don't think it's any of there business if it's real or not.
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@punlonnjack (1308)
• United States
25 Feb 08
i would tell the truth.its the thought that counts.i wouldnt be ashamed as long as its pretty and looked real.before i got married my husband said"we cant get married till i can afford a nice ring"well i could wait for him to buy me a nice ring.i paid for it myself and bought his ring.then he had no excuse for not marring me.lol keep smiling:)
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@crazed_moma (1054)
• United States
13 Mar 08
I had a cubic Zarconia the first 3 months I was married. :) It's not about the financial ability it's about the feeling behind it.
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• Australia
19 Mar 08
I dont know i think it would depend on who i was talking too. If it was someone i was close with and i knew they wouldn't care then yes. I wouldn't like to make them feel any worse with all their friend bagging him for being cheap. lol i think i would still say yes if i was inlove and someone asked me to marry them with a dud ring. I secretly want a huge ring, i think it makes it easier to commit to a life sentence with someone when they do something awsome like buy you diamonds!!
• United States
24 Feb 08
I would! I do not have an engagement ring and i've been married now for 5 years I do not see the sense in spending that kinda money on jewlery
@ruby222 (4847)
19 Mar 08
Well Rose..ive just posted on this subject!! I cant see the fascination of diamonds!! Why not cubic zirconiums???? As for me..lol..id say...2 oh its just a fake!!...good tho isnt it??!!" No diamonds ...no marriage...no way!!!!!
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• Canada
24 Feb 08
If my husband and I discussed it ahead of time, and we agreed on it, that would be fine. Were he to lie to me and NOT tell me it's not real, I'd be upset that he wasn't honest. As for the people I know, they'd just look and say "what a beautiful ring." No need to say more after that. If they were to ask "is it real?" I'd tell them the truth, but I'd make sure they know that if it's not "real" it doesn't mean I like the ring any less.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
25 Feb 08
I wouldn't say anything unless they made a big deal out of it. It would not matter to me if it was fake or not because it is the thought that counts. I would marry him if I loved him whether he bought me a diamond or not. I'm not much into jewelry anyway.
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
24 Feb 08
Diamonds mean nothing to me..I've had 2 great big fat ones that didn't make the marriage work..It's the heart that would concern me more. xoxoxoxoxo
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@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
25 Feb 08
Yes, Diamonds they say it is forever. But is the heart have a Forever word on it??? Diamonds are just materials things. It can even tore you apart.. But if he really loves you more than anything any diamond carat ring in this world nothing will ever go wrong
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@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
24 Feb 08
Yes I would consider marrying someone who couldn't afford a real diamond.(i AM MARRIED, AND HAVE A REAL DIAMOND)I don't think that is the important thing though. It should be about can we build a happy life together. If someone commented on the ring, I would just say thank you. unless they asked if it was real. I would be proud of my marriage and ring. And I would tell the truth.
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@m3mema5 (90)
• United States
24 Feb 08
To me it wouldnt matter because it isnt the cost or the ring it is the symboe of love for you husband to be.Thats all that really counts not the price of the ring at all. The same feelings would be there if he got it from one of those play coin machines . It is the thought and the Love that stands behind it not the money value.