how do you get over a broken heart?

broken hearts - broken hearts, never good
United States
April 5, 2008 9:58pm CST
i recently hooked up with this really special guy. and i thought we'd be together, blah blah blah. so to make a long story short he got wasted and tried to sleep with another girl [while i was in the next room!!!!!]. we were only together for acouple weeks but it still broke my heart. i must have cried for a whole day. untill i heard that Beyonce song, irrplacable [i believe thats whats its called], and i totally got over the whole thing. so listening to that song really helped. what helps you get over a broken heart?
2 people like this
20 responses
• United States
6 Apr 08
Ouch.. men are such pigs sometimes.... I am glad you saw this before you had been in the relationship for a few months. It take me some time to get over a hurt. And I think it depends on what kind of hurt it was. After the good cry I try my best to put it out of mind until away comes open that I can put it behind me.
• United States
6 Apr 08
men are pigs! im so distugusted with them right now. yes im really gratfull that i learned how much of an a**hole is was before i serious with him. i think crying was the best thing for me. thanks for the response!
@lishiwei (1553)
• China
6 Apr 08
You needn't cry for this kind of guy.You should hit him and get him away. I also listen some music that I like or talk with my friends to get over.I think talk with friends is the better way.
• United States
6 Apr 08
well i went into the room where he was with her and through a burrito in his face. not only a burrito, but beans and rice to. then i slapped him hard across the face. talking to my friends really helped.
@maxsee212 (799)
• United States
6 Apr 08
i would not know because i never had a girfriend but what i would do if that's the case is that i would find a replacement for her. there are so many women out there waiting for a handsome guy like me. i would be so much luckier and happier to find a woman in my dreams who would not cheat on me. cheating is enevitable because you can find a lot of temptations in life. i would not blame him if i were you because its probably for the best for you both to separate and find someone else.
• United States
6 Apr 08
yeah thats what the song i was talking about, is all about. finding someone new and better. i deffentally need a replacement of some sort. im sure you'll find a special someone.
• China
6 Apr 08
i have a broken heart right now and I did not find a good way to get out of this yet so try to do something and not think about this. it will be better thanks for your discussion
• United States
6 Apr 08
aww im so sorry about your broken heart. its tough i know. i've had a few. hope your heart gets better =]
@wnbwnbwnb (427)
• China
7 Apr 08
Well,for me,I may treat myself even better if some broke my heart! I would dress up,shopping with friends,eat ice cream,and see a movie! However, if I still cannot get over someone,then I will keep him in heart,no matter what he did to me!
• India
7 Apr 08
Broken Heart eh?? Well all you can do is think that you are better off than him... that really helps.. having a bit of self respect and pride.. Luck you caught him cheating on you early.. or else if thing would have advances to the next level and you found him cheating then, you might felt much worse Just stop thinking about it... hang out with ur best friends.. not friends.. but best friends.. cos friends will always try to ask you .. " what Happened?" making you feel bad all over again.. best friends wouldn't do that.
@Darkwing (21588)
6 Apr 08
After just two weeks, I would have thought you were suffering more from injured pride than a broken heart. Be thankful that you found out about him now, and boot him out on his azz. Far too many men think they have a license to do this kind of thing, but if their partner were to do it, they'd freak out. What gives them the right? This guy is certainly not worthy of your love, or even five minutes of your time. Kick him into touch, and go find a guy who's going to be honest and faithful. Lesson learned, move onwards and upwards. Brightest Blessings.
• India
6 Apr 08
i really just want to tell u or all who have heart broken that best way to get over it is involve urself in some other things e.g i involved myself in my friends,hobbies & not give myself single moment to think abt past it is hard in beginning but easy day by dAY atleast try it
@tezovhemo (361)
6 Apr 08
just pretend they dont exist ;)
• Philippines
6 Apr 08
try to do anything or do something new. so atleast you can divert the situation.
@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
6 Apr 08
i think it really depends on the person itself. For me i took about 2 years to completely move on but that thought me a lot and make me a better person. When i finally let go of the pain and learned to forgive, it was a wonderful feeling.Like the heavy feeling inside has finally gone and it's not a burden anymore and i am ready to love again. Now i am happy with my fiance. I think things come in our life with purpose. If it's meant to be it will meant to be. In order to get over with you have to learned to forgive yourself and the person who hurt you and help yourself to move on. Time heals all wounds i believe as it happens to me. have a good day!
@itsmepinky (1301)
• India
6 Apr 08
When i am in a condition similar to yours i generally talk to my friends or keep myself busy. Listening to sad songs only hurts me more. The best way is to pamper yourself , do some shopping, relax , relax , relax and go out and have a good time with your friends. ~pinks~
@bluemars (952)
• Australia
6 Apr 08
Yes some songs can help you out a little especially when are blinded by the things we feel inside. It can be very hard to see straight and that is why we can sometimes get very caught up in an emotion that just does not feel like it is going to end. It is hard to when you feel like your heart is literally breaking and you hurt inside. I think it is great that a song can help you see reason and another perspective on life. It is important to be able to rationalise your decisions and maybe if you try to be more positive you can keep being that way because it becomes a habit even when something does not go our way we can still feel good if we allow ourselves to. Sometimes things happen for a reason too. I mean it is a good thing he did not waste anymore of your time. You have to believe you deserve better and should demand that of yourself. You did nothing wrong so act like it and be proud of yourself and who you are as good person, I would be grateful to be rid of someone like that. Don't worry about it too because people like that don't get too lucky in love as karma makes a note of what they do and so they get their three fold.
@Emma_Wang (210)
• China
6 Apr 08
it sounds that young gugs always do not cherish the lover they have already and sometimes they do not know the different between love and sexy,it is true that your boyfriend betray you,so you just discard him and be yourself,you know, you will find the Mr.right in your life,don't be sorrowful and don't cry for him.it is not worthy,you know,you can be yourself and deseave the happiness for yourself.
• Philippines
6 Apr 08
Usually, I compose songs, record them (with only the piano as my accompaniment) and give a copy to the one who broke my heart. In that way, I was able to tell him my real feelings through my songs.
6 Apr 08
personally, it's really difficult to mend a broken heart but you will as time goes by..i'm currently suffering that pain too but trying not to think much about it helps a lot..i'm just trying to divert myself to many things around me..if you try to look around you,your life doesn't end with him..you've got many things to do to satisfy yourself..your family, your friends, your studies if your still studying or work..love your life..don't waste it..GOD has given us this life to take care..just be positive..move on..live life to the fullest.k?
• Australia
6 Apr 08
The most effective way is start a new relationship with other guy.
• Malaysia
6 Apr 08
i also have problem same....i just cried for a whole day...i fill stupid girl
@Gesusdid (1681)
• United States
6 Apr 08
for me to get over a broken heart i just think of funny thoughts of her getting her heart broken too , or simply go to the next woman that comes along and treat her better than her , some songs help too but ehh not really for me
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
6 Apr 08
That has happened to me a bunch of times in the past. I would cry for days and then move on. I would be done the same way again by the next one too. I just cry for a very long time when it happens to me and then finally I pick myself up and move forward. I have been with my husband for 16 years now and he doesn't do that stuff to me.