Rating, the how, the why, are you being fair?
By raydene
@raydene (9871)
United States
April 19, 2008 10:31am CST
Happy Saturday
When you are clicking on the + or -
do you consider the contribution
the responder has made to your discussion?
Or do you get all childish and strike the -
because ,although they were nice enough to
take the time to respond to your discussion,
they did not say what you wanted to hear?
If you expect every response to be in agreement
then you should be lecturing instead!
I think some here do not know the
discussion vs lecture...
Looking in the dictionary it says
give and take....
When someone responds to my discussions
weather agreeing with me or no.....
if they are contributing to the conversation they get a +
if they just pop in to add a sentence that they
add to everything I don't rate them at all!
I have a hard time clicking that -.
And what do you all think?
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
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19 responses
@Grandmaof2 (7578)
• Canada
19 Apr 08
My opinion: I'm glad you're on my friends list because you have my attention and I believe that you do hit the +. We're all strangers so obviously we don't know who to trust and unfortunately we live in a hard stressful world. There have been many times I've felt upset with someone giving me a rude remark and I too just don't bother rating. If we lived in a picture perfect world then we'd all be hitting the + button, Not Going To Happen. I know for a fact that I have been hit with a - more than once for no reason. Not going to make me run from myLot though I love it here. I think even though we're strangers after awhile we develope vibes as to who we think are our favorites and who we don't trust. Take Care my dear friend and Thank You for your + ratings, Back at ya.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
19 Apr 08
I do not give a (+) rating for just being nice enough to take the time to respond to my discussion myLot does that by paying them in cash. I only give the (+) when a response contributes to the topic whether they disagree or agree. I very seldom give a (-) if I do it is because the response was rude, insulting or uncalled for and I give the rating after I have reported them.
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@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
19 Apr 08
your response and how it relates to my discussion determines if i rate you but in all sincerity i have never rated - ,if you are responding off point i will rather just reply you so i can explain the point of the discussion,i give a + for relevance and quality
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@ellie333 (21016)
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19 Apr 08
Hi Raydene, I personally rate every response to my discussions with a + and have only once reated a - and that was because the person was on a mission to get a low number rather than high and asked for me too within the discussion. I even rate the extra comments as + as they add to the discussion and can keep it flowing, just because a person doesn't agree with my views doesn't mean they get a negative at all, I respect and value other opinions, a lot of the time this is how we learn. So I think I rate fairly. I did get one really random comment once so just didn't bother and another thing I do if I see a realy good valid point made by another user within someones discussion I will plus rate that too. Ellie :D
@Remando (175)
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19 Apr 08
I realise I am very new, but my feeling is much like the others who have been here a lot longer; I have not come across any comment I have viewed as rude or nasty, and so I have never given a - , and I don't plan to; if someone has said something particularly illuminating or even if they have just replied to a discussion I will automatically go for the +. Even if I disagree with a comment, it has made me think and for that I'm grateful so I go for the +!
More positivity in the world, I say :)
@GardenGerty (169479)
• United States
19 Apr 08
Raydene, most everyone that contributes to my discussions gets a +. I think I m fair. I have used the - when it is not quite abuse but is just incredibly negative. Fortunately I do not run across that very much.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
21 Apr 08
I haven't been a child in years and I do not act like a child either. People will agree or disagree that is called a discussion. If you know anyone given people a - just because they don't agree with the post and for no other reason, let me know I don't want those people on my list just as a matter of principal.
@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
20 Apr 08
I am the same I dont like to rate negative unless it is needed. If you take the time to make a post then I rate positive whether I agree with you or not.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
20 Apr 08
I always rate everyone with a plus sign too. Sometimes I skip over some of them and do not rate them at all. I never rate anyone negatively. Everyone of us have a right to respond however we like. there are no right or wrong answers. I try to be fair to everyone here.
@anniepa (27955)
• United States
20 Apr 08
Raydene, thank you so much for explaining it so well and for telling the difference between a discussion and a lecture. You found the word I'd been searching for. I do as you do, give pluses to those who are contributing to the discussion whether I agree with them or not, skip the meaningless ones and only use the "-" very sparingly. I may have used it twice since I've been here and that was for extreme violations or offensive comments!
Annie
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@grecychunny26 (9482)
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
Me, i rate positive all the response with substance , those that enlighten me and give me answer , what i really want. There are other senseless response so i gave them the negative ratings.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Apr 08
raydene I consider how thoughtful the response was and do not ge upset if it differs from myown ideas and give them a plus as they deserve it. If its just an okay or other short sentence I do not touch anthing but it would have to be a very nasty offensive word before I would ever hit minus. I do not give out minuses at all.
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@plumwish07 (4057)
• Indonesia
19 Apr 08
happy saturday to you too dear friend.
i rarely givinng negative rate to a person in mylot so far. i will rated neagative only if the person is over offense yself and giving hars comment. most of the time i will rate someone or discussion in positive rate.
so far i never use abuse rate to anyone or in a discussion
@emeraldisle (13138)
• United States
20 Apr 08
When I respond to a discussion I rate it positively. This helps me to know that I have responded to it 
When you post a lot it's easy to find similar discussions and not remember. Now when people respond to mine I do rate them positively unless they are violating mylot guidelines and doing so blatantly, like a one word response. The only time I give a negative rating at all is when it's in violation of the guidelines. If people disagree with me go for it. I may not rate them at all then if it's in someone else's discussion but I won't give a negative. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion after all.
When you post a lot it's easy to find similar discussions and not remember. Now when people respond to mine I do rate them positively unless they are violating mylot guidelines and doing so blatantly, like a one word response. The only time I give a negative rating at all is when it's in violation of the guidelines. If people disagree with me go for it. I may not rate them at all then if it's in someone else's discussion but I won't give a negative. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion after all. 
@recycledgoth (9894)
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19 Apr 08
I always rate discussions I respond to and, to be honest, I think I have only even hit the negative only a handful of times since I started here in MyLot. I have had responses disagreeing with me but that is no excuse to rate negative, particularly as the responses do actively contribute to the discussion and point out opposite sides.
