Would you give your companion a bite?

@shizuoka (352)
United States
April 26, 2008 8:21pm CST
Scenario: You and your date, spouse, whatever, are at a restaurant. You have each ordered something different. Your companion would like to taste your food. Will you give him/her a bite? I like to share things. If my food is really good, I'll ask my husband if he wants to taste it. Usually he refuses. If I ask him for a bite, he'll complain a little but give me one. My uncle, though, will not share a bite of his meal no matter what. My aunt always wants to try his and he always adamantly refuses. My parents will actually order two meals, divide them both in half, and each get to eat two different entres. How do you feel about sharing food?
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@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
27 Apr 08
My husband and I share food all the time! Sometimes we look over the menu and when more than one thing looks good and we can't decide which to order; I will choose one and he will get the other. Then we can share. I also share with my parents and my children. Letting my kids taste my food is a good way for them to try new things. They can order what they know they like so they don't waste a whole meal if it turns out they don't like something. I like sharing personally. Well...unless it is dessert!
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@shizuoka (352)
• United States
28 Apr 08
I don't know...they might have something even better for dessert. :)
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@SomeCowgirl (32256)
• United States
28 Apr 08
moneyandgc, that is a great idea. I don't think many people have thought of it that way. I see a lot of people ordering an entree for their children only to find out that they aren't going to eat any of it. Much easier to deal with if you order something they like and let them try something of yours so that they can decide if they like it. The only thing that comes to mind, is what if they aren't certain, you get them a new entree they thought they liked and then they didn't? Hmm.. but that doesn't seem like it could prove much of a problem. You can just take their's home later, and give them some of yours? (as long as it's something they like)
@emeraldisle (13145)
• United States
27 Apr 08
I have no problem sharing a bite or two with whomever I'm with in that type of situation. This can be a great advantage especially if you have never tried something and are curious. Now I might cut off a section and push it to the side so they can take it with their fork. That's just ground in from germs and such but I don't have a problem with sharing. I have known people who absolutely refuse to do so as well and that is their choice. My thought is if you know they refuse all the time why continue to ask? They aren't going to change and if anything continuing to ask will just cause them to get aggravated and refuse even more. It's best to honor their choice and just enjoy your own meal.
@shizuoka (352)
• United States
28 Apr 08
It just drives my aunt crazy that my uncle won't share and she has been trying to get him to for forty-some years!
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@emeraldisle (13145)
• United States
29 Apr 08
It probably drives your uncle crazy having her keep asking after all these years.
@SomeCowgirl (32256)
• United States
27 Apr 08
I usually will ask my fiance if he wants a bite of whatever I am eating, but only if it is something that I know he might try. He is very picky and I do not push it if he doesn't wish to try it. Sometimes I will ask for a bite of his but very rarely. I suppose it all depends on the atmosphere of the restaurant as to whether or not I will or wont, but we hardly in a restaurant where I feel it might offend... Do you ever feel as if it might be against policy for you to allow your husband to try a bite?
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@shizuoka (352)
• United States
28 Apr 08
Yes, you have a point there. You could probably put a piece of whatever-it-is on his plate, then he could try it without being obvious.
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@SomeCowgirl (32256)
• United States
28 Apr 08
That's a good diea, less obvious that way. Otherwise it might cause someone to come by and comment on it. I hate being confronted when it is my business whether I allow him a bite or not. I understand if it makes for a distraction or if it is during a taste-testing event, but I do feel that some people can get out of hand when it comes to those type of things. As long as it's being paid for, or been paid for, I don't see the problem.
• Philippines
27 Apr 08
hi shizuoka, i do this sometimes. taste my friend's food. lol.. and i like to share my food as well. i mean, when a friend of mine would go out and eat in a new place or a place where my friend has been to but i havent been; i like to order a different meal from my friend and a meal that he/she hasnt tasted yet. i would ask permission if i could ask some of their meal, my friend wont say no to me wanting to taste her meal. and i try to give her my meal as well but sometimes she would say no. i dont know why though. lol.. sharing is fun... :D
@shizuoka (352)
• United States
27 Apr 08
Maybe it has something to do with how someone has been raised. I'll have to ask my uncle about that sometime. Aside from being fun, tasting someone else's dish is a way to try other things without having to actually go out on a limb and order them. I'm a creature of habit and not always very adventurous about ordering. I'm afraid I'll order something I don't like and regret it. :)
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• Philippines
27 Apr 08
exactly. at least when you share a meal, its not only a way to maybe 'strengthen' your relationship with each other through sharing but you would be able to know if you liked his/her meal and maybe try it the next time you come to that restaurant.
• United States
27 Apr 08
WE share all the time! He'll offer me a taste, I'll give him a taste. Its just natural to us. We do that with the kids too. If they want to try ours, we give them some, and we'll take bits right off their plate. I share with my mom too, sips of her soda, bites of her sandwich. Its really not a big deal in my family.
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@shizuoka (352)
• United States
27 Apr 08
Your family sounds like a lot of fun.
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• United States
27 Apr 08
We try to be.
• Canada
28 Apr 08
Hubby and I always give each other a sample of our dinner. I would think it strange if he refused to share a bit of his dinner or visa versa. I have to admit if I were to order something that I really loved but rarely could afford it would be harder to give up those bits; but I would. My daughter and I make it a point to order seperate meals that we both love so we can share them. It is great going out for dinner with her because we like the same types of foods so it is like getting two dinners each (sort of). Why do you think your uncle doesn't like to share his food?
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@shizuoka (352)
• United States
28 Apr 08
I'm really not sure. I guess he figures that he ordered what he wanted and he's going to eat all of it. Or maybe he's just trying to get my aunt's goat - he does that sometimes.
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
27 Apr 08
Usually my husband will just take a bite of my food or if I'm getting full I will give him my food. I don't care if he eats off my plate just as long as he doesn't eat it all lol.
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@shizuoka (352)
• United States
28 Apr 08
Yeah, don't let him get carried away!
@lkbooi (16100)
• Malaysia
27 Apr 08
My husband, my son and I are used to share with each other, what we have ordered on the table. How pleasant and intimate sharing eating foods with our loved ones. My friends and I do like to share foods with others especially during our foreign trip. It is really interesting and joyous eating in this way. Let say if each one of the 5 of us to order one dish then we could enjoy eating 5 dishes of different flavor of food at the same time and save money as well.
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@shizuoka (352)
• United States
28 Apr 08
I agree. Chinese restaurants are great for that. They'll serve everyone rice, then bring large entrees that everyone can enjoy. I like the big, round turn-about in the middle of the table, so everyone can reach the different plates.
• India
27 Apr 08
Yeah sure i would give him a bite. Infact both of us exchage this together. He is the one to infact say to me to have a bite and c how it is, and i do the same, if mine is tasty too..
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@shizuoka (352)
• United States
28 Apr 08
You both sound very considerate. Paying attention to what your partner thinks and feels, and sharing something you like is a nice way to build a relationship.
@mistissa (1348)
• Netherlands
27 Apr 08
well it depends, I don't mind sharing my food at all. But I don't like people just picking food from my plate without asking. My children always do that and I just hate it. I do encourage my kids to learn to eat all kinds of different stuff, but not just take without asking
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@shizuoka (352)
• United States
27 Apr 08
No, I agree. I wouldn't want anyone taking food off my plate without asking either. I will usually offer it first, anyway, but my kids always ask.
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@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
27 Apr 08
Of course! My family has always made sure to order different meals when we go out together so that we can all have a taste of a number of the things on the menu and preview it in case we come back again, and be able to recommend certain dishes to other people. Not to mention, the more yummy food I get to have in one night, the better! =D
@shizuoka (352)
• United States
27 Apr 08
What a good idea. I'd like to instigate that tradition with my family.
• Philippines
27 Apr 08
I think nothing's wrong with me... My frineds and I usually do this... We order different things and we invite each other to taste each of our food to determine which is the tasty one... I think it is the embodiment of a relationship, to share something with your love ones...
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@shizuoka (352)
• United States
27 Apr 08
Yes, sharing makes it more fun. Activities and trips too. Visiting somewhere amazing, like the Grand Canyon, wouldn't be nearly as much fun if you didn't have anyone to ooh and ahh over it with.
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• United States
27 Apr 08
I love to share food! I get hurt if we don't share our food at meals. Usually it's me forcing him to taste mine, though because he's not only extremely picky but also very narrow-minded about food and I'm always wanting him to try new things. But yes, we almost always share food.
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@shizuoka (352)
• United States
27 Apr 08
I'm like that too. "This is so good! You have to try it." My husband usually just wants to eat what he ordered and doesn't want to try mine, but I love to share things that I think are wonderful. It makes them even better.
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• India
27 Apr 08
lol... you are sharing ur life with them, what's with a spoon of ice cream or salad. I would surely share and try to taste what they have ordered for themselves. It wouldn't look bad cos we are just socialising. We share food with our friends and all, what's with sharing it with a date. Although with me it depends actually. If I love something, I share only a small tiny bit of it. NOt more not less. Only a little bit. But most of the times, I just share. bourne
@shizuoka (352)
• United States
27 Apr 08
Yeah, if it's really good you don't want them to eat too much of it. LOL
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@jillhill (37379)
• United States
27 Apr 08
I would give them a taste! That's what relationships are about! Sharing! LOL...I do know some people that don't like to share though and guess it's just a matter of opinion..or their preference. But for me..it's okay if someone tastes something of mine. They might have something on their plate that I want to taste too!
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@shizuoka (352)
• United States
27 Apr 08
My thoughts exactly.
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@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
27 Apr 08
Hello shizuoka!:-) I don't know about the dates as someone can be a stranger, well kind of (I don't know about dates much) but I always took it for granted that Family, Spouse and Friends are to share. It never occurred to me that it could be any other way. Well, we learn new things every day! :-) For me, I am in habit of sharing my food stuff or drinks with all my family and close friends. Heck, we in our family or close friends don't even 'ask' before taking a bite from someone else's food, well, sometimes we do but then it's only a formality, LOL! So, when one can share with family (extended) and friends, a spouse is a very close person, how could one not share things with them? Like I said before, we normally don't even ask about taking a bite before actually taking one. We have a free permission for each other to taste anything anytime. Sometimes (well, I would like most of the time), when I and my partner are eating, we even share the same plate or bowl. I mean it has been a given for us. Only time when someone would share is when they are ill and have fear that others may get the problem too. That's about the only time when sharing is prohibited.
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@shizuoka (352)
• United States
27 Apr 08
Yes, well, I wasn't really thinking about dates. You're right - that might be a little weird. As for your family and friends, they sound like they would be fun to go to a restaurant with. Sharing a plate or bowl though...I don't know. It might be okay for popcorn, or some kind of finger food and it would cut down on the number of dishes that had to be washed, but I think I'd prefer to have my own. LOL
@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
27 Apr 08
"I always took it for granted that Family, Spouse and Friends are to share with." I thought I would make that correction! :-) LOL! You must be at some of our family reunion or Friends going out. When my friends and I go out for informal dinners or for eating together, we do not order in single, we rather order variety of things in bulk and then would share it together, though in different plates. With spouse it's little different. We share more together, though not for saving washing load! :-)
@shizuoka (352)
• United States
27 Apr 08
You're so funny! I'm off to bed as it's now 1:30am, but I wanted to tell you that I read through a couple of your discussions. I didn't leave a comment because I didn't really have anything to say...but was amuzed by the banter nevertheless. One was about cowards and the other was entitled, "What is it about men?" I was laughing and frustrated at the same time because every one of the first I don't know how many posts misunderstood the question and, without reading the previous posts, answered completely off the subject. Anyway, bon nuit (or however you spell it).
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@Darkwing (21588)
27 Apr 08
I wouldn't have any qualms but would insist that I got a bite of his back! lol. I think it makes a relationship to share this way and I love all that! Some people are squeamish about sharing eating utensils and such like, but they're so mistaken about germs, as saliva contains antiseptic properties. So that's a fallacy as far as I'm concerned. Brightest Blessings.
@Darkwing (21588)
28 Apr 08
That's very interesting... thank you, my friend.
@coffeebreak (17815)
• United States
28 Apr 08
Well if touching the fork is a concern, learn to eat like Giada de Laurentis on the Food Network show - Every Day Italian does. Clevage girl, that is what I call her as she is always wearing low cut, tight tops and leaning forward reach for things she needs (always forward, never to the side!) and always "displaying" what she has..not what I want to have to watch. Anyway, as she tastes her own food to tell you how great it is, you'll see - her lips and teeth never seem to touch the fork.
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@coffeebreak (17815)
• United States
28 Apr 08
I don't see why anyone would have a particular problem with this kind of thing. ITs a way to try something new to see if you like it. Us Moms, we eat after our kids all the time, often the only time we get to eat! And a husband/wife that won't share bites- stupid stupid. Why not? But my husband won't. He wont just not take a bite from my food, or share one with me, if I have prepared the food, he won't eat it. He thinks he has been this world reknowned chef for the past 40 years instead of a fry cook at a greasy spoon 40 years ago. He thinks I am world's worst cook. Doesn't matter what kind of food it is, if I made it, he won't eat it. Wasn't quite so bad years ago when the kids were little, but lately, I mean literally, if he knows I touched it...he won't eat it. Stupid is a stupid does I guess!
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@coffeebreak (17815)
• United States
28 Apr 08
I was also going to mention this funny - my inlaws - we used to go out to eat with them often. MIL would always say she isn't hungry and not order anything. Or she'd just order a side of rice or applesauce, saying that is all she wanted. FIL would order his meal and he'd take about 5 bites and then she'd start...just a bite here, a snag of something there, and next thing you know she was eating his meal! He'd complain to her and tell her "why didn't you order yourself a meal?" nad she'd say "I don't need all that" or something silly and then go back and he'd get another 2-3 bites and she'd start again! He'd finally just scoot the plate over to her and she'd say "Oh, no, i can't eat all that!". GOod grief this would go on till the plate was empty - more by her than him! IF it wasn't for the free meal I was getting, I would not have gone with them!
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@shizuoka (352)
• United States
28 Apr 08
How on earth does your husband eat? Does he cook his own meal every night or do you have to buy him something? That would be very difficult. As for your in-laws...how funny! Maybe someone should slyly order an extra entre just like Fil's and slide it to him when she starts.
@coffeebreak (17815)
• United States
28 Apr 08
Well, when the kids were little he'd eat it some times, other times he'd get up, throw a fit and dump it in the garbage disposal or trash can. Now that it is just the two of us, he makes his own. For a few years there, he was the one that went to the grocery store - at first it was due to my knee injury, then I think he just liked doing it so he could get what he wanted and not "deal" with my lacking abilities! But hey, although I never really had a problem gorcery shopping, if he wants to do it, fine with me! Plus, he'd give me a specific dollar amount to spend and I could only spend that. He takes the check book and spends what he wants. Again, no complaints from me! Now, he makes what he wants and I make mine. And still....no complaints from me!
• Canada
28 Apr 08
my friends and i always share...maybe not half an entree, but at least a bite so that we all can have a chance to try the new things and maybe the next time order something different than what we've had in the past and know that we are going to like it.
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@shizuoka (352)
• United States
28 Apr 08
Yes, unless you've decided to do that initially, you might not want to give up that much of something tasty. :)
@Hatley (164260)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Apr 08
not at all since my fork would have germs on it that would go into your food, and your fork would also place your salvia and germs on my plate. I would not use your toothbrush after you had brushed your teeth and I doubt that you would borrow mine after I had brushed my teeth. why give yourself a dose of someone else's germs just to share a food. order some extra plates and an unused fork then divide and share. no mouth to mouth yuck that way.
@shizuoka (352)
• United States
28 Apr 08
No, you definitely don't have to eat off of each other's plates. Cutting off a piece of something and placing it on the other person's plate is a nice, polite way to share.