Could you chose a surrogate mother?

If I was a single mom, I would do that. Otherwise, he would have a dad to take care of him. Parents die someday, sometimes too soon. It's a part of life.

i couldn't imagine having to do that,but i guess i would want someone i know and trust to take care of my children when i was gone, rather then them just go into the system if for some reason their father was not able to take care of them, or if he had passed away.

yes of course I could choose because I will always be a mother and a mother does what is best for her children, in my case there was my mother or sisters to take care of my son should I have gotten ill, I did not trust any of my friends at the time he was growing up to take on that responsibility, they would have flatly said no.

I would so want someone not so much to take my place, but to love and care my children. a person to show them the ways of life. teach them valuable life lessons. I think it is a wonderful Idea. good for her

Woouldn't that just be heartbreakinjg but so essential if you knew you were going to die - it is must better than just leaving off making decisions and the child who would already be in turmoil and pain from losing their mother feeling they didn't belong anywhere and not knowing what would happen to them! Well my kids would still have my other half but it is widely understood that I would want my sister heavily involved in their lives as I respect the way she raises and treats her children and foster children, she helped to raise me too and I know she would be someone who would understand my children and be a stable influence in their lives! The bonus is that they are used to spending weekends and longer periods at my sisters during school holidays so there would be no need for me to lose them before I went unless I were very weak and it would upset them too much! xxx

This is so sad and i can't imagine what this mother must be feeling..but since she wanted to make sure her children would be in a safe and loving home, then i'm sure she must be very releived (sp) to know they will be!

I think that if I wanted a child badly enough, I could probably choose a surrogate mother. I think that when a person truly wants to have a child, hey will go hrough any length to get that child.

Didn't you see the movie "StepMom" with Julia Roberts? That was what part of the story was about. I think if you were going to die... finding a surrogate mother for your child would have to be the most important last thing you did before dying. But most children have a father to fall back on.

I know I could if I had to. It's like choosing a God Parent for your children and I would know immediately who I would want to have raise my son. That would be my twin sister. But since I have a hubby, it will fall back on him. He also has two sisters that I am close with and trust fully. So those would be my options if something like this happened.

I think that I would do this it's not a matter of how i would feel about it if I was in the situation it's a matter of what is best for that child in that situation. So I think I would make myself do it with a smile while hurting slightly. Only becuase I would know my time is limited with those I love. But I would definitely do it for the benefit of the child.

Fortunately our daughter has made adulthood without us needing a surrogate mother for her. However, when she was born we made our wills just in case. We asked my sister in law beforehand if she would be willing to have our daughter if anything happened and she said yes, to our great relief. In fact our daughter is very close to her uncle and aunt, who have sons, and I sometimes think that they do view her as the daughter that they never had. She certainly views her cousins as if they are brothers. For some reason the film Beaches has just sprung to mind.

I have never thought about this in too much detail to be honest with you, but my sister in law brought this very subject up once a few years ago. Her ex and father of her two children was a total, you know what, and he was always giving her trouble, he was no good and was not interested in his two daughters. I think the main target was his ex,he just wanted to make her life as miserable as possible. Anyway she wanted to know that if anything happened to her, that me and my hubby (her brother) would make sure that nothing happened to the girls and that their father would not get custody of them, she wanted to make us their legal guardians. We agreed but told her she needed to make it official. As luck would have it, and I am not being horrible, but this man was a menace, he killed himself. A very long and complicated story, but this solved her problem and she never made us legal guardians. However I would probably choose her to take guardianship of my children should anything happen to us because I know that she would take them in, even though she now has 4 of her own and she would love them as her own.

I think it would be very hard and extremely emotional but, I would do it. Not that I could. I think "could" is hard to imagine unless you are in that situation. And, a lot of people do things that they have to do simply because, not to do it isn't an option. So, they don't do it because they "can" only because they absolutely have to. Does that make sense? I am having a really hard time figuring out how to put it into words. Anyway, I would do it and it would be really hard and, there would be a lot of tears shed in the process.

I would be able to. Because after I'm gone as when I'm here I only strive for whats best for the kids. I would know that after I leave this world they are still going to need a mother figure and someone to help guide them through life. It would be hard watching them bond with someone else, but being a parant is all about sacrafices. I don't know if I Could watch. But there is one person I know who take my place in the best way. And they only thing I could do is hope that I would not be erased or forgotten.

I would hate to have any part of this also because you can get so attached to a child and then you have to let it go. I cannot have any more children and do not want any more at this time anyway because it is so hard to raise them now. I do have one daughter though and she will be 17 on her next birthday. I am hoping that if she wants to have children, she can have them herself and then I will be grandma.

kbourgerie this is a good discussion and I am thinking. Back when my kids were very young my hubby and Ihad asked my mom to take my place if anything happen to me and my husband because I really did not know anyone in Tempe that well' that I would have trusted with my two. of course she was tickled since she had wanted to be a grandmother for so long and i did not get married until I was thirty so when I had two kids she was beside her self.. If I had had aids it would havebeen hard to give up mykids even to my mom,god bless her. but I always knew she should be the one and my kids both adored her.infact she would have spoiled them rotten.lol