Can you dance? How did you learn?

@anawar (2406)
United States
May 26, 2008 8:13pm CST
I'll admit right now that I can't dance. I envy people who can dance, I think it's a beautiful way to express creativity. A dance instructor tried to teach my husband and I how to do 'The Hustle' on our honeymoom. He came over to watch us and complimented my husband on how quickly he picked up the steps. He watched my steps and said 'That's a great fake job you've got going there.' Can you dance and how did you learn? Where do you like to dance? In a club? Any advice for people like me who can't dance, other than stay off the floor?
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18 responses
@getnbuy (1314)
• United States
31 May 08
I loved to dance as a teenager. I dated boys who were good dancers, whenever possible. I will never forget dancing on the steamboat at Disnyland, while a jazz band played. It was really fun. But, now I have arthritis, weigh too much, and have heart problems so I don't dance any more. Sigh! Getting old is the pits!
@sk66rc (4257)
• United States
31 May 08
That's one of the things I've never tried, Jazz... I know there's a dance for that like tango & salsa & everything else... I'd love to experiment with that... I am sorry to hear you're having problems... As insensitive as this may come across, I actually have seen a person on wheel chair doing tango... Slow, fluent movements, it was very nice... May be you can find a way to do the same... Find a way to enjoy the things you love to do... Best of the wishes...
@getnbuy (1314)
• United States
31 May 08
As I recall we did sort of our own version of an old dance called the Lindy. Its fun to reminisce. I didn't mean to gripe, though. I have found plenty of things to do instead. I love to swim. And, ofcourse, the computer is all absorbing. What a great thing that is to have in our lives!
@anawar (2406)
• United States
1 Jun 08
getnbuy_ the Lindy? Oh boy! How romantic it sounds, dancing on a steamboat at Disney. It plays like a movie in my head. If you keep that image in your mind, maybe you can slow down your arthritis.
• China
31 May 08
I would say just join! The more you practice, the better you can do. I did't like dance in the past. I run away from the dance team whick was taught by a teacher when i was in kingergarden, because i could't bear failing to follow others. But now I love belly dance,a dance from India. Hip circle, shake arms and chest lifting and dropping all express female charming. That's wonderful feeling. So, just love it and follow.
@anawar (2406)
• United States
1 Jun 08
I only saw belly dancing once in a Greek restaurant. I saw what's involved, and trust me, my body can't move like that. It is a beautiful dance, especailly the way you describe it. You must look lovely.
@getnbuy (1314)
• United States
1 Jun 08
My sister is a belly dancer. she got interested in it because her son married a girl from Dubai. Now she has a collection of snakes and dances with them! Not my cup of tea, but then, to each his own!
@anawar (2406)
• United States
2 Jun 08
getnbuy_ Snakes? My son had a ball python named Chanpion and he was gentle and easy to handle. It still felt a bit creepy to have him wrapped my shoulders!
• Philippines
27 May 08
hello, anawar :D, hmmm, when I was in school grade, my parents sent me to a small ballet class, hoping it would help to at least minimize my shyness and to socialize more with the kids at my age. Since then, I always dancing, sometimes to performed in our school programs or small party that we - chosen ballet dancer in our class - were invited to dance. Even after I quit attending the ballet class - I think that was when I was in fifth grade to joined a dance group in our school and also due to my class schedule - I am still dancing until college. So now, I only dance sometimes like when I'm in the mood :D Anyways, I suggest to keep on practicing on dancing and don't give up on it. Practicing really help to improve your dancing skill. To tell you the truth, I don't know how to dance and my dancing skill is very poor when I first attend in the ballet class. But because I really want to dance and performed, I keep on practicing even though my body really hurts after every class. :D So keep on practicing on it and you never knew you might be a good dancer someday. :D
@anawar (2406)
• United States
27 May 08
kylie_ I took ballet lessons when I was a young girl as well. I enjoyed my time there, but I didn't excel. Props to you for your accomplishments and efforts to contine dancing. I can't practice because I don't dance at all! :) Can I ask you what :D means?
• Philippines
28 May 08
ohh, I'm sorry, you see, I don't know how to insert emoticons in my comments, and since I can't paste messages yet, I'm using it as alternative. It means smile or something expressing happiness,I think we often used it in text messages here in our country nowadays. I'm really sorry for this, I think I'll stop using it, to avoid further confusion, hehe. wow, so you took ballet also! it's really enjoyable isn't it?!
@anawar (2406)
• United States
29 May 08
No, you don't have to apologize or stop using it on my account! I've seen lots of people using it. I'm probably the only one on the planet who doesn't know what it means! If you put one bracket [ then type in em and close the bracket ] then type in the word happy. Next type a bracket after the word happy [ and type a / mark and then close the bracket ] you'll get a smiley face. I just figured it out today. I know there's other words you can put inside the brackets, but I only know happy. Like this Yes, I loved ballet, especially the_ I have no idea how to spell that move where you lift off one foot,and stretch your arm, looking towards the outstretched hand_ ? it sounds like ara-beske. Do you know what I mean? Wow, I sound incredibly dumb. Please save me and tell me you know what I'm talking about!
@SViswan (12065)
• India
2 Jun 08
I can dance but it's mostly Indian stuff. But I don't think learning any other dance form would be a problem because I don't have a problem with getting the rythm. I started dancing when I was very young and used to perform on stage till I was married (almost 9 years back). But my husband can't dance. My younger one seems to be a dancer and he started moving his body to a beat before he started walking. Now he's 18 months...and dances when he hears any peppy number.
@anawar (2406)
• United States
2 Jun 08
SViswan_ It sounds to me like you have another dancer in your family. Where did you perform? Do you miss it?
@SViswan (12065)
• India
31 Aug 08
I used to perform at school and college functions and also at various stages in the Middle East....and at a few temples in South India. I certainly miss the performances....but now that I am a kindergarten teacher, I get to enjoy with the kids and also plan their shows at school.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
28 May 08
haha.. same here.. I cant dance too, my body just dun have the beat and rythm to dance.. lOL.. BUt i do like to see ple dance, i just find it fascinating and sexy.. ALl their dances moves seem so smooth and with so many different styles.. I do like all kinds of dances, because each type of dance is special and appealing in their own unique ways ^_^ hehe
@anawar (2406)
• United States
29 May 08
I like free form dance the best as well. The body speaks as the music and rhythm command. Each to his own, we all hear something different. The Dance of Life is beautiful. note: to the best of my knowledge, the expression 'The Dance of Life' is not my original thinking. Just in case someone is checking for plagiarism.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
29 May 08
The dance of life.. It's good.. hehe
@as2006 (5041)
• Israel
27 May 08
I can dance I love dance and I'm dancing.I did learn as a very young boy in dancing paties that we had in that time everytime in another house of my friends, we were very young in school thous days. So I dance twist,cha cha cha,tango,pssadoble,valse etc'.
@anawar (2406)
• United States
27 May 08
Very impressive. Where do you dance now? I remember my mom and dad practicing the cha-cha-cha before they went to the country club to dance. I can still hear my mom saying 'one, two, cha, cha, cha. My dad needed extra help. Do you ballroom dance with a partner?
@as2006 (5041)
• Israel
29 May 08
Once I have been in a club but now I'm dancing in parties of friends.
@ladym33 (10990)
• United States
10 Jun 08
I like to think I can. I probably don't dance as well as I used to. I started taking ballet at 4 years of age, tap at 5, jazz at 6, I danced with a dance company for a year when I was 20 years old. Of course that was was half of my life ago, I can't do half of what I used to do. I still like dancing at weddings, and things like that though.
@anawar (2406)
• United States
10 Jun 08
ladym_ That's a very good way to describe talents. "I like to think I can." It's funny and humble. Who can argue with that? I hate weddings. (kidding) Everyone always looks so pretty when they dance and I sit there and admire the dinnner napkin.
• China
6 Jun 08
I can't dance also. Everytime I join in our company's seasonal party, I envy the colleagues who dance very well. Though I am eager to learn it, I never take it into action for I'm afraid to be depised because of my clumsiness. In fact, I met my boyfriend in one ballroom near our unversity. That day I made a big decision to learn dancing. When I went to the ballroom with my roomates, my boyfriend and his roomates were also learning there. Then my boyfriend was my partner, and his roomate was the partner of my roomate. Strangely, we never changed partner from the beginning to the end thougn we danced so terribly. That was the first time and also the last time to learn dancing. I never went there because my boyfriend told me I was born not a dancere after that. In fact,I thought the same for his. haha... The result is we became lover two years later, my roommate and his roommate bacame one pair some days later. hahah, they must belong to the kind of first sight love, but we, definitely not.hahah...
@anawar (2406)
• United States
6 Jun 08
How unusual for both couples to end up together, even if you didn't fall in love until two years later. The dancing lesson was the catalyst that brought the four of you together. Imagine if you never went to the dance! I don't think your colleagues will despise you because you can't dance. They might laugh at you, hopefully in good fun, not ridicule. It's hard not to envy people when they dance so well. I'm sure we make up for it in other areas! We all have our strengths and weaknesses.
@jashley1 (746)
• United States
30 May 08
I love to dance but I cannot dance "professionally" like those in "So You Think You Can Dance" do. I love that show! The way they are able to move their bodies to music is absolutely beautiful! My husband and I were just thinking on this and agreed that if ever we get some real extra time in our lives, it would be so fun to take a dance class together. We may do so in the future!
@sk66rc (4257)
• United States
30 May 08
If you're interested, try Salsa... There's a lot of fast pace movement in it that, as in dancing generally is, it's a great excersise... Also, it could be very sensual as well... Everybody has their own tastes in "dancing" type but I've always liked salsa & argentine tango... I found that movements in both are very relaxing, fluent, yet exciting & fun...
@Fishmomma (11362)
• United States
29 May 08
I was in a dance class in grade school, which was required for all students. I'll admit the class was quite challenging; however, did learn how to dance. I did become quite good at line dancing.
@anawar (2406)
• United States
29 May 08
I tried line dancing one time. Everytime they went right, I went left. If it was forwards, I went backwards. I had to get out before someone tripped over me. I also tried jazzersize with the same results. Some of us have to accept our limitations. I accept the fact that I can't dance. But I can write!
@bestie (3203)
• Philippines
28 May 08
I can dance,I love dancing...It's my passion.I guess it's my inborn talent.... .practice and practice until you learn,try to put passion in dancing,feel it!enjoy! despite the fact that you are not that good coz it will help you,If you really have the will and determination to learn how to dance you will be able to do it.
@anawar (2406)
• United States
29 May 08
It's possible that my determination willed me into stopping my efforts. I can sway to the slow music_ I do dance when no one is looking.
@dragon54u (31628)
• United States
27 May 08
I can't dance. I have two left feet and NO sense of rhythm. And I feel stupid. The only dancing I can do is slow stuff, you know the romantic close dances.
@anawar (2406)
• United States
27 May 08
dragon_ I know all about the slow stuff. You hold onto someone and sway. That's my best dance as well.
@KATRINKA (1658)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I used to be able to dance. I took dance lessons for about ten years. Mostly ballet. When I got old enough to go club hopping, I was one of the first on the dance floor and one of the last off. I guess I thought I could dance back then. I had a blast and just let go. Looking back, I probably looked ridiculous, though I never had a shortage of dance partners. Now I don't dance unless I'm home alone. I would like to take ballroom and swing dance lessons.
@iamnes (325)
• Philippines
26 Sep 08
i also cannot dance but i still want to learn, dancing is actually one of my frustrations. i agree that it a great way to show creativity and emotions, i prefer to learn ballroom dancing and modern dance as well if given the chance. my advice to you is stay persistent and work hard to learn. everything can be learned and achieved through practice!
@skydancer (2109)
• United States
3 Aug 08
I learned dance (ballet/pointe, jazz, tap, lyrical, and modern) at a private studio that specialized mostly in classical ballet and also at my college whose program was generally modern-based. I developped a classical ballet foundation because it transfers over into pretty much any dance form quite nicely and smoothly - it is the basis of all dance forms, and a great way to develop strong basics in your overall dance technique. I do not know much about club dancing or the "Hustle, so whatever advice I give you there may wind up being quite limited, so sorry if this is an inadequate or unacceptable response. First of all, I am not one of those people who believes that dance (or any art form) is merely a gift God-given only to a chosen few. I think those who believe that are mistaken, and I would not be saying this if I myself had not witnessed such dramatic transformations of people who seemingly had no talent at first who went on to become amazing performers over the course of my years as an artist. If there is a studio in your area that offers adult classes then that might be a good place to start. Just a basic ballet class will help you develop a solid foundation. When you start out, it is a good idea to have a professional evaluate your movement and technique, and they will be able to guide you in the right direction as far as the dance movement goes. Videos and books that cover the dance forms you would like to learn are also good resources. When you get the hang of it, I think you'll learn that it is not all about your body - it's also a mental thing as well (and for me, it doesn't hurt to have your spirit play a major role in it as well!). If you train your steps repetitively enough, it will start to come more and more naturally to you (in dance well call it getting it into our muscle memory - a theory that your muscles take in and remember movement in the same way that your brain takes in and remembers information). Don't push yourself too hard though as that has been known to cause injuries. Most importantly, though, have fun with it! Do it with your friends to your favorite music if that's what it takes. If you get too worked up in the "I can't dance" attitude, then it will make it more of a stressful than a fun process and that will only make it harder on yourself. What I would suggest is to set small, reasonable goals for yourself and gradually work my way up towards meeting them... just take it one step at a time. Best of luck to you and your dancing!! Have fun!!
• Canada
9 Jun 08
no i can not dance but in the near future i have a plan to learn dancing that is for sure
• India
2 Jun 08
i beleive everythin is possible if u put ur heart n soul into it.. first try practicing simple steps.. increase ur standards as u grow in confidence and after u feel u can do tht step with no effort... All u need to do is practice.. the more u practice the better u get.. All the very best
@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
27 May 08
Okay well I can't really dance either... but I did one time learn a few moves from a person at club... It was kind of fun. I can't really say the type of dance it was, but it was at a latino club... the woman was very nice..