My sister had been CHEATED by her husband
By milfea
@milfea (519)
Philippines
May 27, 2008 12:56am CST
I can still remember how it felt. Tears were flowing down my cheeks as I was on the phone listening to my sister. She had been repeating sentences for the nth time. I cried because I thought at that instant that my sister's gonna lose herself. She was so close to drifting to insanity. She said something that made my chest tighten, she made me promise to take care of her 1 year-old daughter just in case she would lose her sanity. I was only listening to her, I can't find the words to say. What is there to say? I just cried in silence, I cried with her in silence. The reason for my sister's grief is the affair of her husband with another woman who is a colleague of my brother - in - law. My Kuya(older brother) who is in New York was the first one who knew about the affair because the husband of our sister admitted it to him. Our parents confronted our brother - in - law about the affair, and he confirmed it. Our parents told him that we are getting Ate (older sister) back. He said sorry for the pain he has caused the family, he asked for another chance, and they agreed to the idea of marriage counselling. Two months later, our parents came to my sister's place to fetch her and the baby along with everything that they would need. She and her baby is already safe home with us now.
My brother - in - law never stopped screwing around. Even on the course of marraige counselling he was still seeing his other woman, how cruel and rude and disrespectful is that? I cannot believe he did that.
The day my sister arrived home, I ran to her and embraced her, and we cried together. I felt her pain, a pain that cannot be defined with words.
I guess I have never felt so much pain in my life, and it isn't really mine. Thinking about it, I cannot imagine how my sister feels, her pain must be deep and cannot be fathomed. *Deep Sigh* How I wish I could do something to make her feel better, something more than a comforting embrace.
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7 responses
@raclie (1732)
• Singapore
27 May 08
wow....
he is so rude and mean!!!
i'm so sorry for your sister...
you should tell your sister to divorce him quick...
no more second chance..
i think if even during marriage councilling he cheats, there is really no use..
i hope her wounds will heal soon...
@milfea (519)
• Philippines
29 May 08
hello raclie
my brother-in-law has become that rude, sad but true. i cannot believe it myself, having known him for quite some time already. I can't figure out what made him into an evil monster. *sigh*. yeah, i just hope my sister's woumds will heal soon. thanks.
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@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
27 May 08
The worst kind of betrayal is the one from a loved one. It takes a very long time to forgive. It sounds to me like her husband has no intention of changing. He is saying empty words from what you say he continues to do. Your sister should leave him so she can get on with the healing process. It is a hard and painful road but with the support I hear from your discussion that you and her parents will give her the road will be easier. Make sure that you are there to listen to her and give her plenty of hugs to help her heart heal.
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@milfea (519)
• Philippines
29 May 08
The worst and most painful indeed. My sister and her daughter and already home with us. Most of their things were already brought to our house when my parents fetched her. She looks better now. But she's still in so much pain. I guess the most that I can do for my sister is to just be there for her. Thanks.
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
27 May 08
It is indeed a sad thing when such things happen. I guess at this point of time, what is best for her would be give her the necessary support, encouragement and space she need. Personally, I feel the best support comes from the family since this is where she grows up comfortably.
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@milfea (519)
• Philippines
29 May 08
Hello there whyaskq. Yeah, I guess that's just what we could do for now, be there for her. And help her get through this. What I am so sad about this very instant is my niece. She will be growing up without a father. I cannot imagine life without my Dad. Everytime I get to think about this sad reality, I can't help but cry. Whenever I see my niece, I can't help but cry. *Sigh* I cry a lot too. Just like time, this too shall come to pass. I hope it would be very soon.
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@jingbautista (2456)
• Philippines
21 Sep 08
the best thing that we could offer in this world in such time as you had described is the mere presence of ourselves and the availability of our embraces. as the Bible says, wept with those who wept.. for sure, your sister is very much comforted with your presence and with your embrace.. she needed it, and you were there.. that is the best way to comfort.. words will simply be flying away when we are in deep pain.. i don't like either to be talked when i am in pain. i just want me to share it all and to know that someone is taking care of me.. and i saw that in your action.. you did your part.. let us all leave to God the rest. HE is the great comforter.. hope that i am not too late.. hehe..
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@mayka123 (17083)
• India
27 May 08
Just be a good listener for your sister. She needs to talk to someone and you try to be there as much as you can. Looks like the two of you are not staying very close. Even then whenever she phones you try and keep all work aside and listen and talk to her. I think she should ask her husband for a divorce and start life afresh. No use brooding all life. She has to think of her daughter and her depression may make her daughter also depressed.
@milfea (519)
• Philippines
29 May 08
Hello Mayka123. My sister and I are away from each other. And I'm also away from home. So I just get to visit sometimes, where sometimes is defined to be once a week. I'm thinking of ways how to get her out of her self pity state faster. She's still angry and in so much pain. I'll just listen to her. Thanks.
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@Zelmarq (12607)
• Cebu City, Philippines
9 Jun 08
Hello there my friend. This is really one of the lowest points in her life and surely family support is very important for her, her helpless state could uplift her with her loved ones around. The better half now became her bitter half, I hope soon your kuya will soon find his senses and repent and return to your ate, but we know it wont be that easy.
He is already in the bondage of the sin and there will be consequences that he will have to suffer and face in the future. I just pity your ate and the child, I saw that cute baby during service and I cant imagine him growing with out his father.
Just be there for your sister, your presence could help her with her great pain right now.
Take care and have a nice day.







