Why can't you be on time?

United States
July 13, 2008 6:56pm CST
I hate people who tell you they are going to get you, or meet up with you at say 3 pm, and then it takes them until 6 to get there! I have just wasted most of my waiting, and trying not to get started on too much because I hate being in the middle of my work and getting interrupted. Well, needless to say, I'm still waiting! I'm always on time.. why can't you be! Do you know people like this? Or are you one of these people?
8 people like this
36 responses
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
I have experienced this several times already. Normally, I get to experience this with people who really never come on time. I always make it a point to be on time and it really annoys me when the other party comes several minutes (or even several hours)later. For quite a while now, I made it a point to wait for only a few minutes. I would call them and ask them how long will it still take them before they show up. After 30 minutes (or 1 hour at the most), I would leave. Of course, I would inform them that I can't wait any longer.
2 people like this
• United States
17 Jul 08
Normally, I don't bother waiting. I hate depending on other people. This situation though was unavoidable. They wanted me to spend the weekend with them. So I did. They were late picking me up, by several hours. I had a research paper to finish, and ended up finishing it in the car. They also said they would take me home. They told me the first time they would take me home by 1, then 4, then 6. They didn't get back to the house until 8:30, and then asked someone else to take me home. (And I had just spent all day with the people that took me home) They could have called hours in advance and told me to see if someone else could take me. I didn't get home until after 10 oclock. I will know in the future that this person is very very undependable.
@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
I really hate people who are always late. There is a saying that goes "There's no use in running fast when you're late because you have to be on time. So what I do is that to make sure that I plan out my entire appointment from departure time, the possibility of a traffic jam etc. In other words I leave early to avoid any untoward incidents that might make me late. If it events as such are unavoidable, I do my best to inform the person that I'll be late and I tell the reason why.
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• United States
16 Jul 08
I normally always leave early, and make time to be there 15 minutes early. I start to get anxious is I'm going to be late for something! And even if I am going to be 5 minutes late, I still call ahead.
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Not me! I prefer being punctual to the point that I am early I don't know what is so hard about telling the time. Do these people not own a watch, a clock, a cell phone? You waited a long time, my friend!
• United States
14 Jul 08
It's really annoying to always be on time and early, and everytime I depend on these particular people, it just ruins my day. And on top of that, they didn't bother to call and tell me they were going to be late. Ugh!
@lilaclady (28226)
• Australia
13 Jul 08
yeh I know what you mean they make me so angry, being a person who allows for things to go wrong and is always at least 15mins early, I just can't cope with time tardiness...
• United States
14 Jul 08
I was just so irritated earlier! They kept telling, "oh, we'll leave this time." and then called me and changed it 3 times today. I have stuff I have to do! I was always brought up to be earlier, and if I'm not early, I feel like I'm late, even if I'm on time.
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@guybrush (4660)
• Australia
14 Jul 08
I'm a very punctual person - we were brought up being told it was incredibly rude to be late for anything, so I'm the one at the airport three hours early, and sitting in the dentist's surgery half an hour before my appointment! My husband has clients who drop things in to the house, and he'll tell me someone's coming at a certain time and I wait in all morning rather than going out on my walk - but they don't turn up, and don't bother ringing to let me know. It drives me mad! A whole day wasted! When they DO finally turn up, they don't bother apologising for being late, either. And doesn't it make you mad when you're in the movies after it's started and people start shuffling in, talking and tripping over your feet? GRR!
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• United States
21 Jul 08
I agree! It's frustrating when you have so much to do, and someone tells you they're going to drop off something, and it takes them all day to do it. Meanwhile, while you're at home paceing waiting for them to show up so you can do what you need to do. It's so frustrating!
• Australia
14 Jul 08
I to have friends you are very unskilled at being on time and organising their life reasonably well so that it does not inconvenience others. Our friends are rarely organised and not only with being late for different things that we organise but when they invite us to their home for a meal at a certain time it is always served at least 1 hour to 2 hours later. I must admit of late they have greatly improved on what they were like a few years ago, but I do think that the reason people are not able to arrive or complete things on time is that are totally disorganised in their life and this does not allow them to manage time very well.
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• United States
18 Jul 08
They are very unorganized. You would think since they are in the service, they would on time for everything. I guess they are only on time when there is a consequence for being late. They wanted me to spend the weekend with them, and out of the three days, they were late three times, and only spent a few hours the entire weekend with my son and I. It was a complete waste of a weekend. I have some much homework to do. I don't know why I bothered wasting time visiting.
@roniroxas (10568)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
yes i hate that too. i mean if they are not busy atleast they give consideration to people like us who are really busy. waiting for that long is really a waste of time. i know a lot who are like that, and one of my sister is like that. she is the one who is late and still she is the one who is angry. one time i gave her a dose of her own medicine and she was more angry than ever... i told her now you know what is waiting is all about. try not to make we wait the next time.
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• United States
18 Jul 08
haha, very nice. I guess I'm going to have to give that a try. And then maybe they'll get the picture. I had so much homework to do that day. I was exhausted by the time I got finished. I had gotten up at 5:30 to write a paper, and expected them to be there 9. I ended up having to finish the paper in the car ride up. I put all my stuff away qt 8:30 am, and they didn't get there until like 3. That was the first time. It's quite annoying.. I'll have to give them a taste of their own medicine. Thanks for the idea!
@alkurishy (2069)
• Iraq
14 Jul 08
Well I hate that to, and I don't learn the lesson I am always on time but I dont have see anybody coming in time, because I am always waiting the one I have a date with him or her, for my life I dont know a friend or anyone I hav dated with him/her had come in time. Thank you for this topic it is new here, have a nice day.
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• United States
14 Jul 08
I'm normally always on time. And even if I'm going to be a minute or so late, I give the person a call to let them know. It's really annoying when people are late, and when they just keep on being late, even after you say something to them. I've learned to avoid these people, at least in the since of depending on them. This weekend however, I didn't have a choice.
@minda40 (39)
14 Jul 08
I hate being on that situation... waiting for hours! I just don't have the patience and in such case i will definitely have to adjust my other schedule just because he/she broke our agreed schedule. A few minutes is sometimes understandable and i can give in to that but never hours!!!! But in this hi-tech age, i believe, this is not much of a problem because we have the mobile phones and we can easily inform the other end if something urgent cropped up and that we have to postpone (or cancel) our appointment.
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• United States
14 Jul 08
Normally, I would have just said forget it! But, in this case, they wanted me to come spend the weekend with them. They were late picking me up, and then I told them I wanted to be home by 6:30 because I had stuff to do. I didn't get home until after 10 o'clock, and even then, I ended up finding another ride. I was infuriated. They were on leave, and I was trying not to ruin it, but they were the ones who made the plans. I didn't have to go out of my way and bring me and my son 100 miles out of the way to spend part of the weekend with them. It's so annoying.. and not even a phone call! and you're right, in this day in age, cell phones are readily available. They used it to call everyone else, extend the courtesy and let me know you're going to be late! lol, thanks for the reply.
@elmiko (6635)
• United States
14 Jul 08
If people are like that than I would not make any plans with them.
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• Singapore
14 Jul 08
Nah... I am usually one of those people who are punctual. I think it is basic courtesy to keep to the timing agreed upon unless something beyond your control crops up. Next time, when you are meeting those people who habitually are late, be intentionally late yourself so that you can meet them "on time"!
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@venkygec (783)
• India
14 Jul 08
I'm always ahead of time... I plan things... so if i have to go somewhere i calculate, how much time it will take... and so on and go a little bit earlier... just incase any problem occurs... Its better to reach earlier than on time.. I always reach college by 8:45... while my college starts at 9:00... And i dont like those people who are always late.. and find some stupid excuses for that...
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• Philippines
14 Jul 08
I am sorry for that experience. I am a bit guilty. I really am a late comer. I even hated myself sometimes for being such. I usually come late because I wake up late too. Or because I just don't want to be early. Sometimes I think that I may wait for the people if I go earlier. And I resort to coming late so that they are the ones to wait for me. I know this is bad. I am really my best to be come on time or earlier whenever I have appointments or the like. Still, I feel so sorry for you. With this, I realized more that I should not be doing this to my friends or anybody. I don't want to feel the way you feel now. Hope you're OK now.
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@stephcjh (32303)
• United States
14 Jul 08
I am always on time too or early. I hate when someone says they will do something at a certain time but they are late or never show up. that gets on my nerves. I think they should at least call or something and let me know they are going to be late, but alot of them do not even do that.
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@mayka123 (14342)
• India
14 Jul 08
I too just hate it when I have to wait for anyone. But while waiting I start on some other job so that my time has not gone waste.
• United States
18 Jul 08
I normally find something to do to keep me occupied dispite them being late. I had research paper to do, and there was a lot of papers and books involved in being out everywhere so I could do it. I didn't want to drag all that stuff out and then have them show up and waste more time. It's annoying waiting on late people..
@mayka123 (14342)
• India
24 Jul 08
Yes I agree it is very very annoying. But then one cant help it. Thanks a lot for your response and happy posting.
• United States
14 Jul 08
hey luckycharm, I know what you mean and know many people like that myself. I am the kind of person that will get somewhere like 15 min early. But really it irritates the crap out of me when people are late.
• United States
18 Jul 08
It does me too. I'm a very patient person, and it's ok to be five minutes late every once in a while, but it's very irritating to deal with people who are hours and hours late.
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Unfortunately I'm the opposite and I'd imagine that can be just as big of a hassle. When I fly I get to the airport at least two hours early. When I have a doctor's appointment and haven't driven there before I leave so early I often have to sit in my car an hour or so to wait. Oh and going to friends - I try not to be late so often I'm the first one there. LOL I guess I'm just afraid I'll be late for something I really shouldn't miss.
• United States
18 Jul 08
I don't mind sitting in the car and waiting to go in or an appointment. I've learned to bring a book because I get to places early. I'd rather be early than have to wait, than sitting somewhere wasting time waiting for someone to pick me up or whatever. It's starting to become one of my biggest pet peeves, Late people.
14 Jul 08
Hello luckycharm00812, Oh yes both my best friends, many a time they will tell me the will be coming roud such such time, I'll be waiting and waiting then they turn two hour late, they don't come to visit together they do it seperately, and no I'm never late most time I early. Tamarafireheart.
• United States
18 Jul 08
If it's just a visit, it's one thing. I can possibly understand people being late for just a social visit. But depending on someone who is always late is a real pain. I try not to be late, and it's been a habit to always be 15 minutes early.
@Hatley (164167)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Jul 08
luckycharm hi I am a person who is always on time, and I expect' my friends and loved ones to be on time also. and when they are not it really ticks me off something fierce. If I can be on time why cannot everyone else also be on time. Its inconsiderate and whats more its darned rude. I am on time, so should every one else also be on time.
• United States
18 Jul 08
I feel the same way. I'm always on time, so I expect everyone around me to be on time. I mean, I understand things happen sometimes that are unavoidable. Call, and all is forgiven. But to keep on doing it, and not do anything to fix this intolerable habit is just ridiculous.
@joliefille (3696)
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
Yeah I actually know people like that. Even though I spend an hour in the shower and about 45 minutes getting prepared, I make sure I wake up or start preparing 4 hours before the scheduled meeting time with friends. I usually am the one who's always 1 hour ahead of them. It does bug me when they can't come on time. Some people are just like that. I always make it sure I arrive an hour earlier.
• United States
18 Jul 08
I'm that person as well. I always make sure I am on time. It was just bred into me that I have to be on time no matter what. I honestly don't know how some people know that they are always late, and still continue to do what ever they are doing and don't change a thing. It's annoying, and I'm starting to get tired of dealing with it from some people.