What do you do with the unsolicited advices?

By Bala
@balasri (26537)
India
September 13, 2008 11:56pm CST
Particularly when you know what you are doing.
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10 responses
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
14 Sep 08
I just smile ,and keep on doing what is best for me.
@balasri (26537)
• India
18 Sep 08
That seems to be the only right way of dealing with this situation.
@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
It depends on my mood. Maybe when I am in the mood, I could really just welcome it. But when I am not and when I feel like that the person giving the said advice is not a friend and has no right to give such, maybe i would just glare at the person and give the person a blank face.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
14 Sep 08
Blank face will definitely drive the idea in to that person.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
16 Sep 08
I still listen to them with a nice face for the people who kind of advise me are not only my near ones but have genuine concerns. I atleast try to respect the thoughts towards their gesture if not follow it.
@balasri (26537)
• India
16 Sep 08
I know that you are a good girl but never this good.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
17 Sep 08
So now you know me better...
@balasri (26537)
• India
17 Sep 08
And so pleased too.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
14 Sep 08
I hate unsolicited advice. I will ask someone for their opinion if I need it. I hate it when I know what I am doing and someone tries to tell me otherwise.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
17 Sep 08
Initially, I try to listen to unsolicited advice, thinking that I may gain or say learn something out of that, if the other fellow makes it a practice, I try to avoid him.
@balasri (26537)
• India
18 Sep 08
Time and again you are proving that yo uare a very patient.But they try to take a ride on us.Right?
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
18 Sep 08
Bala! I do agree with you, sometimes I really ask myself - 'Am I being taken for a ride'?
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
27 Sep 08
I listen and see if there is anything I missed in my thinking. Depends on who it is coming from. If it's money advice and it's coming from my friend who has two leans on his property and his bank account was frozen or from people who have had not one, but two bankrupsies, I consider the source unreliable and that they should know enough to keep their mouths shut and learn from me since my land will be free and clear once I finish the mortgage and I keep finding ways to not file bankrupcy.
@balasri (26537)
• India
1 Oct 08
That is a good one.So the BR.
@balasri (26537)
• India
11 Oct 08
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
1 Oct 08
Thanks for best response. I liked your answer of I listen and then I do it my way. Precious!
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@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
17 Sep 08
It depends who they are coming from my friend, as to how I take them, sometimes they are well meaning and just advice or support, or other times they are criticisms or telling you what you should do or what they would do and try to push their advice onto you. At the end of the day it's your decision, you have to take the risk, the consequences if any and it's your life not other people's! Sometimes the advice should be ignored and taken with a pinch of salt, yeah I hear what you are saying but that's your opinion, I have my own thank you very much!
@balasri (26537)
• India
18 Sep 08
The know alls who poke their noses are really a pain.
• Canada
16 Sep 08
I tell the person to mind their own business, that I am going to do what I want to do, that I know what they are doing, and that their pushing is only going to make me listen to them even less than I would have, had they not offered me unsolicited advice in the first place! If they don't back off, or try to guilt me, I stand my ground.
@balasri (26537)
• India
18 Sep 08
Your response is music to my ears because it is what I usually do.
@biggerb (2024)
• India
16 Sep 08
Just turn a deaf ear.If i think I should not offend that person i will simply listen, or atleast pretend to and go ahead with what I think is good and suitable for me.I guess you do the same thing is'nt it?
@balasri (26537)
• India
18 Sep 08
No Usually I don't do that.I just tell them not to advice me on the things I know well and make them think twice before slaughtering anyone else with their wretched advices.
@mayka123 (17083)
• India
17 Sep 08
I would just pretend that I am listening. Avoid being rude to someone on their face.
@balasri (26537)
• India
18 Sep 08
It is very difficult to avoid being rude especially to the unsolicited advices.