You aren't going to believe this!
By kbourgerie
@kbourgerie (8780)
United States
October 3, 2008 10:09am CST
I belong to a petition site called Care 2. Its usually about environmental issues among other things. I don't frequent it often, but if I see something in my email from them that peaks my interest, I will follow up with it. Recently, I got an email from them saying that I had a private message from someone. So I opened the email and was shocked to see who the sender was. I thought to myself "No way, it simply couldn't be." The message itself said only "Do you remember me?". Do I remember you? Heck yes, I remember you, I was married to you 30 years ago and haven't heard from you since.
30 years ago, I was 19 and living at home with my parents and attending college. I met an Iranian student there who was here in the United States on a student visa. We dated for 8 months and ended up getting married. As it turns out, if you are here on a student visa you have to maintain a certain grade point average and he was failing so unbeknownst to me, he married me for the green card only. The day after he received it, he asked me for a divorce and stated he had never loved me. To add insult to injury we lived like paupers, but after I had our marriage annulled I started receiving interest checks on all the accounts he had money stashed away in. He ended up going back to Iran and lives there now.
So not only do I hear from this guy 30 years later, but when I visited his profile on Care2, he had only joined that day and I was his only contact. How the heck would he know to find me there? I have asked him, but have had no reply.
Please tell me, is that unbelievable or not?
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12 responses
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
3 Oct 08
Wow that is pretty nuts! I wonder too how he found you there. Maybe he felt bad for what he did and tried to find you on stuff that he signed up for. But you'd think if that were the case he would just say that when you asked him. It certainly is a strange coincidence. I would be careful with that.
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@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
3 Oct 08
I don't think he wants to apologize, because he's had the opportunity to do that since contacting me and hasn't. Its very wierd and I don't know what his motivation could possibly be.
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@moondancer (7431)
• United States
3 Oct 08
Not only is it unbeliveable it is scary as hell. What is his reason for looking you up now? What does he want to use you for now? That would be the questions I'd be asking myself and wondering. Especially since he never ansered you back. And you are the only one he has contacted and only that day joined. It is creepy dear. I'd run a check on him. I'd even contact the FBI and ask about him. I'd let them know what is going on what happened in the past and what just happened.
Give it some thought, and do what you think is the best thing.
I know you are curious. Anybody would be. That's only normal. But don't let him get you caught up in something and you get into trouble over it.
Check him out this time.
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@moondancer (7431)
• United States
3 Oct 08
Oh, I forgot don't delete his emails so if you decide to go on to try and let them find out if this is him and what he's up to, they can find him by his email.
Best of luck to you and what you decide dear.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
3 Oct 08
Wow, I wonder how he did find you. That is just crazy. I don't think I would want anything to do with him at all. It sounds like all he did before was lie to you.
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@aseretdd (13729)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
That is indeed unbelievable... but this proves that the internet world is not as big as a lot of people think it is... one can find anyone a lot easier that in the real world... but i wonder what his motives are in contacting you... just keep in mind that he used you before... and most likely would want to do it again... for his own benefit...
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
30 Oct 08
Believe me, I was only 19 then, but now no one, but no one could pull the wool over my eyes again like he did.
@shana123 (2095)
• India
4 Oct 08
You might have given your real name and address may be with that , he had found you there , may be also he knows your interest and would be fervently searching for you in such places , one fine day he got you? You pretend as if you dont know him and wait for him lets see what happens ..
@CinderInMySoul (4717)
• United States
4 Oct 08
like someone above mentioned..if they have a couple of personal info bits and have a fair idea of the type of sites you would visit, and you happened to use some true personal info as part of your profile,..then it could have been easy to find you.
scary though. like someone else said..keep a copy of all the emails!! dont let him draw you into anything! for all you know he is trying to find a way to get back into the US and is hoping he can change your feelings for him!! like.."ive changed, i was scared of being deported and had was desperate to find a way to stay" know what i mean?
30 years later, after having used and dumped you, he suddenly pops back up...sheesh..he WANTS something!
@ersmommy1 (12587)
• United States
4 Oct 08
That is more than a little spooky. I don't think you will ever find out HOW he found you on the site. Unless he tells you, and I don't think that is likely. It sounds like he is a sneaky person from your time together.Now I know its 30 years later and people change. BUT you have to go with what you know. And none of it seems good. You have worked really hard. I would be cautious. Just avoid any more messages from him. I figure it isn't worth being upset.
@bournecaindelta (2477)
• India
4 Oct 08
.. I'm only allowed to use emoticons thrice.. That's why this is limited..How in the world is that possible. It's completely shocking that he found you on the first shot.. That's completely unbelievable.
bourne
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
5 Oct 08
kb,
It's more bizarre and scary to me. If I were you, I think I'd drop out of this Care2 just to be safe. Who knows what his agenda may be, and unless you're curious, remember, curiosity killed the cat. Be careful. I'm sorry to sound so ominous but When something strikes me like this, I'm often right. Keep us posted. OK?
leenie
@Lee_Rites (845)
• United States
4 Oct 08
That is freaky. Are you glad to hear from him? I think I would be a little spooked.
