Do you hate it when someone walks out of the room while you're talking?

United States
October 14, 2008 2:27am CST
Have you ever been in the middle of talking to someone and then they turned and walked out of the room as if they weren't interested? Sometimes, my spouse does this. I know that he doesn't really mean it as a bad thing, but he gets so distracted. A thought will go through his mind in the middle of conversation and he's off to do something else. I'll be in the middle of a sentence when he leaves the room to go check the locks or get water. Makes me feel bad, until I remember that I've been guilty of the same thing. Has that ever happened to you?
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
14 Oct 08
Oh Beauty..I'm so sorry..that must be nerve wracking but it is kinda funny...Its like me at my store when someone comes in and asks how i am as they are walking away..so i say well i'm so sick i might puke any moment to see if they are listening..lol..nope they aren't.. huggs hun!
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• United States
15 Oct 08
Don't be surprised if I try that one out!
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@gemini_rose (16264)
14 Oct 08
Yes I do hate it, and my hubby does it on me all the time, he seems to have fallen into a really bad habit of doing it in fact. If I pull him up about it he will say "oh I thought you had finished" it is extremely ignorant. Then he wonders why I hardly bother talking to him some days, he would go mad if I did it to him, maybe I should just to teach him a lesson.
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• United States
15 Oct 08
And, guys never see the things they're doing, either. Sort of blind sighted about their own faults.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
14 Oct 08
It is something that happens with me rarely. because i talk less. also i try to talk with some composure and dignity so that the person do not feel bored. still it happens sometimes.
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• United States
14 Oct 08
Sometimes, I repeat myself, so I guess the other person feels as if they've heard what I'm going to say and then goes and does something else.
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• India
15 Oct 08
Hmmm.. It depends actually. Nothing of that sort happens actually. I'm the one who usually walks out, because my parents or anyone else are always cribbing about why I didn't do some thing and why I did them the way I wanted. SO I prefer to move out of that situation before I get angry. So I think I'll have to ask them if they hate it, but I think I know the answer already.. It will be a yes and they will start off again.. bourne
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@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
14 Oct 08
My husband won't necessarily leave the room, but he does become distracted like that. He is good about saying "Hold on, I have to go do something". But usually his distraction is more along the lines of something he has to tell me, even if I'm in the middle of an important conversation.
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• United States
14 Oct 08
Mine is notorious about the interrupts, but does it so well. He says that he'll forget if he doesn't butt-in and tell me something quick.
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• United States
14 Oct 08
Yep, that's mine as well, and it's true, he always forgets things.
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• Philippines
14 Oct 08
awe man tell me about it. i used to have a room mate who does this a lot. i mean we were just talking one minute the he just suddenly stands up and does some random things like playing video games or even sweeping. i gave him his own medicine though when he was talking i just suddenly left and boy did that pissed him off. almost got into a fist fight
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@gegegelay (933)
• Philippines
14 Oct 08
Yes, very much. It's so disrespectful if someone walks out of the room while you're still saying something. I mean, it's okay to walk out but atleast let the person finish what he/she has to say. Although sometimes we can't blame the person if he/she don't feel like listening or hearing another sermon. But, to get away from an even bigger argument, just try to listen or do the same thing to the person and just respect what he/she has to say. It's also very rude if you do that to a person.
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@KATRINKA (1624)
• United States
14 Oct 08
I absolutely hate it! If someone walks out of the room while I'm talking, I'm hearing that what I have to say is not important. It's a sign of disrespect. It's acceptable if he's leaving the room because he hears someone screaming, or something crashes to the floor in another room.
@shorty08322 (1270)
• United States
14 Oct 08
yea
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@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
18 Oct 08
Yes this has happened to me too. I think people just don't think about it. They don't mean to be rude. And I think it is rude when someone does that. I will usually say something if it happens to me. I will follow them and continue to tell my story and then ask them why they walked out on me. I will ask if they just don't want to hear anymore or if they just didn't think about it and walked away. I will tell them that it was a rude act and not say that they were rude, just the act was rude. That way I am not insulting them. Another thing I don't like is when I am talking to some one and they don't ackowledge that they heard me, especially if I ask a question. My daughter is really bad for that and I let her know when she does it. I ask her if she heard me and then when she says yes, I just say, well please have the curtisy to let me know you heard me by saying something. I don't care what she says just say something, like yes, or I hear you, something.
• China
16 Oct 08
This happened to me often. SOmetimes I must push so many people on so many issues. They are tired of this, but it is based on process. I often faced the situation you talked. Maybe, I got used to this, it likes a daily job to me. I never feel angry. Just go and talk to him again.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
22 Oct 08
Yes, it has happen to me. I think it very rude. I usually do not talk much to these people that do that.
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
14 Oct 08
Yes I hate this it really tee me off. This lead person at work does this to me a lot, I am talking to her and she just turns and walk away just like she is not even hearing what I am saying. It burns me up. I try not to do that to people. If I am in a hurry I will acknowledge it.
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• Philippines
14 Oct 08
yeah. i feel disrespected. i think the best thing people should do when someone is talking is to listen. it hurt to feel that no one listens when you are talking. lol.=D
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@Celanith (2327)
• United States
15 Oct 08
yes my husband does this at times or he falls asleep at times when I am talking to him. He does get tired and so do I. But he has walked out of the room on me as well and I tell him how rude that is. He gets impatient to do other things but there are times we need to make proper plans so as to not interfere with one another or mistake what we thought we would be doing only to find he has other plans. It is rude and I tell him so. But honestly I think it is "A guy thing" My dad said, "women like to talk and guys like noise" LOL Let them hear an engine being rev'd or an airplane droning in the sky and they are happy.
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
15 Oct 08
Absolutely and I get irate and frustrated. I used to clam up and swallow my frustration but now I follow the person and protest. It is not right to treat someone as if they did not matter. When you walk out on someone who is talking you are telling them that they are nothing, their opinion is meaningless and as a person they do not count. If people do it to me now I object loudly. How dare they treat me like that. I have had too much of that in my life to take it lying down now.
@quinnkl (1667)
• United States
15 Oct 08
Oh, you have just touched on another of my pet peeves! I just HATE when people do not pay attention when others are speaking to them (me or anyone else). That is just rude in my opinion. And to actually walk away when someone is speaking to you is very rude! When people do that to you, they are basically telling you that your words aren't worth listening to - that you aren't worth their time. RUDE!
15 Oct 08
Its also annoying when you are in one room and someone else is in another and they start talking to you. You cant hear them but yet they continue to talk and repeat what they have just said hoping you will hear and understand them!!! They wont move to the room you are to talk to you, you have to go to the room they are in so you can chat to them!!!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
15 Oct 08
Yes it has happened to me but I am more guilty as charged then my fiance is, and I feel bad when I do it as he comes in to the room I am in and gives me a puppy dog face that just makes me feel so bad for walking out of the room that I instantly apologize.
• United States
15 Oct 08
Beauty, Clearly you are among friends! My husband does the exact same thing. Often he doesn't even have to physically leave the room to tune me out. He can be looking me right in the face and have absolutely no idea what I'm saying to him. It drives me crazy, because I always ask him if he heard what I said. The funny part is he always says no, and then when I give him a recap of what I said he starts to remember. Men are so weird. My husband is really good at tuning out our kids too. He can sit on the couch with the two year old pulling on his pant leg and screaming at him and not even notice. It's really amazing.