When is the last time you made a mountain out of a mole hill?

I don't know. I usually don't have time to do that. However, I don't think you made a mountain out of a mole hill in this situation. Your sister makes a career of being inconsiderate. They should have paid for their own subs.

Funny you should bring up this subject today, because it was just yesterday that I made a mountain out of a mole hill. lol PMS and my yucky days that follow always throw me into emotional turmoil. Well, yesterday, my hubby decided to take some money out of my wallet so that he could go to town and get a device from the hardware store, which really wouldn't have bothered me all that much normally, but I was sleeping at the time. When I woke up, I noticed his new gadget. I knew he was broke and so I asked him where he'd gotten the money for it. The moment he said it was from my wallet, tears welled up in my eyes. I felt so betrayed. BUT looking back on it today, it really wasn't a big deal. Good old "mother nature" gets me every single month. I can't imagine what menopause is gonna hold for me! lol Great discussion!

that phrase is often used upon me,especially in money matters.i am one who beleives in spending within our means and my husband is a happy-go-lucky person.(he beleives in using credit card,while i dread it).

I think a lot of it has to do with your mood or frame of mind at the time someone brings something up. It can trigger all types of reactions. The last time I did that I was talking to someone about a religious topic. Normally I am very religion neutral and believe that people are going to believe what they want to believe and there's nothing I can do to change that, anymore than they can change my beliefs. So I choose to be very tolerant. However, this particular day I was in a foul mood, I had a horrible headache and in a lot of pain with my Fibro. So after listening to this person profess unshakeable faith and devotion to his religion, he started spouting the most hypocritical polar opposite statements. One of my biggest pet peeves is hypocrisy so to say the least that plus my bad mood at the time, I went off on him... and not very tactfully. I proceeded to point out every single hypocritical thing he'd ever said and told him that what he was doing was nothing short of living a lie. I verbally tore the poor guy to shreds and left him a bit shaken. Well, I also consider myself a student of human nature, and after thinking about what I had said and how I said it I regretted it. I know that hypocrisy exists and I know why some people will say one thing and do the exact opposite. I don't like it but it's all part of human nature. I had blown the situation all out of proportion. Unfortunately, I had no way of apologizing to the guy for my tirade since I didn't know him very well, I had no phone number or address to contact him and never saw him again. I can only hope that even though I hurt his feelings and shook him up a bit, he would re-think his hypocrisy and perhaps learn something from it and become a better person for it.

I don't think that is nothing. Your sister is very inconsiderate, and taking advantage of your mom. She should have paid for the subs herself. I would have been angry.

Well, I have been trying to change my attitudes towards life and I am trying to not let things bother me anymore, and it is working pretty good for me. I have left my husband and now I am more relaxed and so I have learned to let the little things slip by. I went back to Winnipeg a couple weeks ago, for a weekend only, and flew back to Calgary on a Monday morning. So I only had Saturday which I spent the day with my hhusband and Sunday which one of my sisters made a barbeque supper and had the whole family over so I could see everyone. There were about 35 of us and everyone came except my son and daughter-in-law. He said , when I phoned him on Saturday to tell him about it, that he can't come because I didn't give him enough notice. I usually would have gotten mad at him and would have blown up at him as no one else had to have more notice so why him. He said he didn't have any plans but he wouldn't come without more notice. Imagin ethat, I think I had a reason to be mad but I held it together and didn't blow up. I am proud of myself.

You just care about your parents and their welfare and people not taking advantage of them. I would have felt the same. My husband says I make a mountain out of a mole hill often. Like he hasn't worked this month bills are over due He is owed money he loaned out a few months before Christmas. I tell him to try to get the money instead of borrowing from another brother to pay for things we need. Why borrow from another one when the other one owes? Makes no sense to me. There's my mountain..lol

Just last weekend, I'm sorry to say. I bought a bookcase that I really wanted at a house sale even though I didn't have a van large enough to cart it home. I thought it would be easy getting a friend to help me out but nobody was home and I went around crowing all weekend long. I just kept focusing on that bookcase as though it was the center of the universe. We're picking it up today and I'm a little ashamed of myself for carrying on so much. It's just a bookcase and I really could have lived without it. I think I was just letting off steam. There's probably a lot of that going on with the financial situation gnawing at us all.

If I am in a situation like you were I probably wouldn't have made a mountain out of a mole hill....but if I have something pending......like doing that manuscript I lay in bed and blow things out of proportion.....granted it was a sticky situation but I get myself all worked up about it. Most things I can blow off but others I am like you....

Hi AmbiePam, I can understand why you were annoyed by this I probably would have been too but I think the last time I got irked like this was when a friend bought sweets for their own child and not mine even though mine was with them, if I have two children with me I will either buy for both or for neither and I actually said to them well thats the lasttime I buy for your child then, how can you be so cruel. It wasn't the last time as the icecream man came the other day and he was playing with my son so I automatically bought for both. I suppose AmbiePam because we feel for others we get upset on their behalf eh! I would say I made a hill out of it rather than a mountain LOL. Huggles. Ellie :D

I don't feel you made a mountain out of a molehill about this..you had very good reasons for this.. Now my daughter thinks i did when someone called my store and since i have caller ID i called them back to see if they needed any help since they called when i was closed..well instead of them saying no or not anymore they hung up on me..so i called them back and got the answering machine let them know they were never taught manners and could have just said that they didn't need help, but i told them to have a wonderful day and then said goodbye...My daughter thinks i made more out of this..

Hey ambie! I would have reacted exactly the same way for exactly the same reason! Your sister knowing your situation and your mothers and knowing that the subs where extremely high priced (at least in my book!) and then insisting that her husband have his own should have then offered to have HIM pay for his own like a MAN! I feel that she was wrong and rude and that was totally uncalled for. As for me and my mountain/molehill moments, hmmmmm let me think! I have them all the time with my stupid cheap boyfriend! And I never win because he is such a con and so cheap and will talk his way out of anything that will cost him any money! So let's just say I have them all the time! Any time I ask him to buy something or do something it is one of those moments! So I live with this day in and day out! Don't think I let him get away with it! He doesn't get what he wants either (if you get me drift!)

That would errk me too... In fact you have reminded me of my brothers. It always really irritates me when my mom takes her kids out for dinner because the boys order the most expensive item on the menu. My parents were always very thrifty. They always ordered the cheapest item and drank water with their meals. I hate to see my mom ordering her cheap meal only to have my brothers turn around and order Steak. It just doesn't seem right.

well i know what u were talking about because i spend most of my life (more like spoiling)making something out of nothing... but i still havent learned my leasons yet even after i spoiled my career because of it

It sounds like your sister is a spoiled brat and your mother is still not trying to break her of her bad habits.

I always get told I am making too big a deal out of something by by guilty dad husband. I'll let you be the judge. Do you think it is a big deal if my barely 17 yo stepdaughter is allowed to have her almost 21 yo youth minister boyfriend over at MY house until 1:00 am on the weekend and until 11:00 pm on the weeknights in her bedroom with the door shut? I think it's wrong. My husband think's it fine. This is causing a lot of stress for me. First, I'm not getting much sleep since they're in there banging around and laughing until that time of night. My bedtime is 10:00 because I have to work. I have tried discussing this with him and even got up and left one night and stayed gone for two hours doing nothing just driving around. I was ticked. Second, I have my own 11 yo daughter who I am having to explain to her she will not be allowed to do that. It is very hard for me to explain to her the difference between the two kids. I just told my daughter I do not agree with what my husband allows and left it at that. What do you think? Am I making a mountain out of a molehill?