When you can't achieve success in life Do you think life is waste?

@subha12 (18441)
India
October 22, 2008 5:23am CST
Recently I am observing that life i snot treating me in good ways. there are times when I really feel bad. It seems there are something related to career that I will never achieve whatever way I may try or work Hard.Its something that in hand of some people who really do not want me to grow in future. Its giving me sheer pain. At times I think its real waste. I start to think that my life has no purpose as I can't achieve what I want. What is your thought?
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
22 Oct 08
Everybody have their own problems in life. As a human being sometime we felt bad also. It is a part of life and that does not mean that our life has no purpose. Bad phase is in everybody's life but somebody is able to think positively but some others are failed to think like that. Learn from your failures and treat them as a step for achieving something. Take it as a challenge. I am sure success will be in your footsteps. All the best.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Oct 08
it is true all has problems. there are problems at personal front. But when its so much in yoyr life with career, it may seem very small, its not so
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
22 Oct 08
Ok Subha, I wish all the best to solve your problems.
@mojcica (1511)
• Slovenia
22 Oct 08
No life is without purpose. Maybe just your priorities arent the right ones. It is only a career, but life is more then just a career. I remember once seeing a move how life would be if the main actor never lived and it would be so much different. Everone made an impact on the world and people aroud them and no life is meaningless. Think of good things you did, positive influence you have on others, stuff like that, and soon you'll realize its ONLY a career, not such a biggy in ones life ;)
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Oct 08
yes, may be need to look at life more postively. but not always i am able to
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@mojcica (1511)
• Slovenia
22 Oct 08
We all get in this states sometimes, but it is important to step out of it and rise above this. Look around and you'll see people who love you and if nothing else this is the one reason you are where you should be and your life is important. I agree it is hard to cope sometimes...but trust me this feeling passes and life's gonna feel good again!
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
22 Oct 08
DEar you must not think that way. Your life is so special and you have live it the way it suits you the best. Hurdles are there but do not allow those to feel you down and dejected. Submission to crises will only make you more weak. And you are so strong. So cheer up, be happy. You have a world to conquer.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Oct 08
Its true. But when I try hard and still life is not at all favourable i gues sits just waste
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
In anything we do, we can't always have the success that we all want. Things may go wrong unexpectedly or fate may be so kind that things are easy and falling into places just the way you want it to be... Just always think positive in everything that you do... don't entertain the thought that life can be a waste... life is so good...
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Oct 08
its true that we do not get all the success. But for me its really something very bad. its a deadlock situation from where there is no way to get away
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@ajit25 (1008)
• India
22 Oct 08
Hey one thing i learned from life is without pain there is no gain , There is bad times which i think everybody's life when every thing in life goes wrong you felt guilty, fell shame, you loss, all thing gone negative even your dear ones hurts you. So don't stuck yourself with those situation or times because in this world everything is changing so the bad time will change too and you will be victorious One think if you can do just look every thing and situation indirectly that may be positive or negative ones. Have good time
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
23 Oct 08
In my case now the situation is luike some bad people are working against me so that its my harm. I think these are beyond my capacity.
@ajit25 (1008)
• India
23 Oct 08
Everything will be alright soon
@ememCz (139)
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
Hey!don't think life is a waste when you can't achieve anything. Just learn to focus and listen so that you can perform well. Don't think that other people will not let you grow. I do believe that they just want you to learn and then later on be it in your system so that you can achieve desired goals. I agree that's not a good feeling and not achieving something is really a painful experience. Keep on going, be positive, accept and learn from mistakes. Prove to people that you are willing to learn and have the commitment to grow. Hope it helps.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
24 Oct 08
other people are creating those obstacles that can be eliminated if I leave this job only. they want me to handle all resposibility but no progress
@peedielyn (1207)
• United States
22 Oct 08
I wish I could hug you. I found that even though life isn't the greatest right now or even then but GET MAD! I mean that. Get mad and tear into life. Make a list of goals and conquer them. I have evil mean people around me and I jsut get mad. Tell me that I can't do something and I rear back and go at it full force. Don't let a gloomy day get into your way of getting things done. Live life! Do what makes you happy. Make yourself happy. In this world that we live in, people are dying, not because of murder or disease, but because they have run out of life. Fill yours to the brim. Get out there and conquer the world. Only you can make you happy, truly. Get it done! Don't let something get in your way, kill the barrier! Keep your head up, Love! Smile-even when you don't feel like it. Ignore the negative and Eat the positive. Good luck, I hope I helped out!
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
23 Oct 08
its very bad sitaution. thjese bad people are making me mad.
• India
22 Oct 08
I mostly feel that i am waste , but i never feel that this life is waste. I need to travel lot in this life, i may have all the successful day in my futures.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
24 Oct 08
in my case the success seems never visible.
@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
22 Oct 08
absolutely not. i am grateful even the little things in life. i try to find the bright spot in each and every day and i am trying to teach my young son to do the same. i also try to do at least one good deed per day to make the world a better place. you could be the one thing that makes a person's day better and what a good feeling that is for me. i have had alot of people help me this past year so i am so grateful for all of it.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
24 Oct 08
it is great. but when i am not getting anything in return of the hard job, its bad.
@mimico (3617)
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
That's a very tricky question. You'd have to define what success is first because different people measure success differently. Some may see being successful and being rich as equivalents, while others may measure success in how much he or she is able to impact the community. I think success is being able to live out your potential as a human being, which means being able to develop and improve yourself constantly no matter how many times you fail at first. So yes, life won't be worth it (for me) if you don't achieve success.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
23 Oct 08
its true
@icegermany (2524)
• India
22 Oct 08
i know there are times where you cant get what you like but you know life is fully filled with ups and downs and god has given us more good things and with that there are a few things which we dont like too but it is how the life is and we have to compromise for few things and some have to accept how it is. i always believe that whatever happens is it is for good. sometimes we feel that what is happening is not good and we feel bad about it but at the same time there is something good happening also which we are not aware of. you know even i felt so many things like this in my life and i had really thought of some extreme things when my parents were the one who had convinced me. let me tell you even i have done my engineering and i got married and my husband dont want me to do a job but i have a great feeling ot do a job but you know in this way i just left my carreer for my family and i still have a hope i will work and i try to convince my husband and i am still determined and i will do it one day i have thought of and i am just trying for that.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
24 Oct 08
its true there are ups and downs. But i find no way of progressing. all doors are shut
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
I can relate with you subha. I've been feeling the same way these past few days. I feel that life is pointless, meaningless and a waste especially that I'm still so far from achieving my dreams and goals in life. I've done a lot of thinking and reading lately and I learned that we will not get everything we want in our life. We will fail countless times, that's a given, but we just need to arm ourselves with an attitude of persistence. Just keep going. Never, never give up. You'll get what you want and where you want to go in the right time Good luck!;D
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
24 Oct 08
i am not giving up. But the case is that few people are working against me and I see no light.
@CAdreamer (118)
• United States
22 Oct 08
Sweetie, success is not based on what you do in your career or how good you look. Success in life is based on how you life your life and at the end of that life what you have. Look around you at the people in your life that matter. Now imagine if just one of them weren't there. How would you feel? Ten to one they would feel the loss of you just as much. So stop looking at your career, the things you have. Success in life is based on the friends we have, if we learned our lessons by the mistakes we made. It doesn't matter how much money you have, or how many things you have, or if you got that huge promotion. What matters is who you are inside, how you touch others even if only for a brief moment. Don't get bogged down by the stress of trying to climb the ladder of success in the work place, cause if that is your idea of success then you will get to the top and feel empty. No one who comes to the end of their life ever when they are dieing says, "oh I wish I had gotten that promotion", they always regret the time that they wasted climbing the ladder of success and wish they had spent more time with their loved ones.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
24 Oct 08
It may be the other view. But for me at this point success do matter. so its not that career is just nothing. it also makes one successful or not. I am not denying other facts in life. But it matters to me
• Pakistan
22 Oct 08
hi friends i think that when i achieve something i realized that life is waste. and when something give me challenge and i am not able to got that thing then i think that life is full of motion and prepare my self for the challenge and i called that challenge LIFE. Prince Sad
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
23 Oct 08
its true.
@maru_047in (1007)
• India
23 Oct 08
i think this is the wrong and disturbed question from my experience In my 3 years of experience i have come across many such kind of situations where even it thought the same that you have done and i think life is never waste as the failure in our life is very small and success is quite big cause we never think of success every time and we always think about what has gone wrong and what if this doesn't happen. we need to think positively hence every thing will be fine. those who comment about our failure is not the right person to be with. Just work asusual and you ll land up in success and you shall feel better. thanks Maru Dont forget to rate my comment. Thanks in advance
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
22 Oct 08
Yes. I feel like that alot of times but we can never give up. There are many closed doors that are in the way but you may eventually fond an open one.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
23 Oct 08
you are correct. may be time to find new doors.
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
23 Oct 08
Don't think like that... it seems as though you are ready to give up on life... life will never be always a bed of roses... it has it ups and downs... and for sure your life will never stay in the down side for long... thing will start looking better soon... just wait and try your very best...
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
22 Oct 08
Truthfully with that kind of attitude you are committing yourself to failure....maybe a more positive attitude would work in your favor. Everything doesn't come right away...you have to build it!
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
23 Oct 08
Its true that positive attitude is needed. But at times this things which are beyond my hand are hard to maintain
@mayka123 (16598)
• India
22 Oct 08
I dont think life is easy for anyone. Everyone has problems in life and we should learn to face it. Do not get defeated. All bad things will come to an end and there will be good days ahead for you. Life has a purpose for everyone. Do not give up hope. One day this will all be just a dream.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
22 Oct 08
its true. But when I am trying my best, doing my best and still some people are just making my life hell and barring me from all opprtunities
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@manunulat (604)
• Philippines
23 Oct 08
I think you should re-assess your life plan. Life is not just something that you live spontaneously as things occur. You have to develop a path plan for it to be lived well. The only person you can control in your decision is you. This is not about any other people that should be making decisions for you. This is your life... Career is just one facet. There are many options but if you can't figure out mentally which of these options are best, you can write them down. Pessimism should be confronted when it comes to career. The impossible can not me measured unless you make that one little step forward my friend. If these people won't let you grow, leave them. Prove your self worth! Do not be intimidated because you should know yourself better. Your purpose is not always focused in the career part of your life. Purpose is something that you see in all facets of your well-being. To determine your ultimate purpose is to live with others, interact and learn from the world while keeping yourself "aware".