How do you react if

@sudalunts (5526)
United States
November 8, 2008 8:19pm CST
someone looks different than they did a few days before? I saw and talked to my landlord last week. This morning he knocked on my door, and I was surprised to see that his two front teeth were missing. It was hard not to look at him, but I did not want to make him feel uncomfortable. He was cognizant of it because whenever he laughed he would cover his mouth. Has there ever been an incident where there was a change about someone you knew and you did not know how to react to it?
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@Lexus656 (672)
• United States
9 Nov 08
Well I have never had anything that severe I don't think. A few years ago when I was dating a guy from mississippi he had moved to nc for school and then had to go home for a month and I thought I was going to die without him here. When he came home it was a total shocked when he came walking in the door. I couldnt stop looking at him and he asked me why I was looking at him like that. All I could say is that I just missed him and that he looked different. Basically he just just lost ten or fifteen pounds and got an awesome tan. I had tried to not act like that or stare at him but it was hard. I think that the closer we are to the person then the harder it is to not act like you notice it.
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
9 Nov 08
your boyfriend was something to really take notice of, he lost weight, I bet that was a great surrprise for you.
@ladysakurax (1163)
• Canada
9 Nov 08
Oh yeh it happened to my bf and I was the one who physically changed lol. I usually have long hair till half my back. 2 days before, i went to my hairstylist and I told her i want short hair with a tomboyish look. In the end, I did get my hair cut even though she recommanded me to not choose that style. When I met my boyfriend, he was in total shock. And he asked me what i have done to my hair. It must be uncomfortable for him indeed. However, I'd prefer people to ask me if i was in his shoes. So I woul explain what hapenned and the other person would understand. Next time we would meet, I would feel more comfortable since I told everything. But people react differently. Sometimes, asking is an act of courtesy. In this case, the front teeth is really something important...
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
9 Nov 08
Wow, I bet the hair cut was a reall shocker for your boyfriend.
• India
9 Nov 08
now datz realy shocking blow my head
• Canada
9 Nov 08
that sarcasm of you hahaha I know the hair is nothing compared to the front teeth removed. I couldn't think about any other example. But now i remember having a surgery to get my wisdom teeth removed. The next day, I looked like a chipmunk. And i couldn't get unnoticed. At least I had braces so the holes would be closed. I don't know how that guy can replace his front teeth :/
@Bethany1202 (3432)
• United States
9 Nov 08
Yes this happens once in awhile. Sometimes people get in a fight and get bruises or fall and get scraped up a bit. Other times people get in horrible accidents and have injuries, burns, scars, and other changes to their appearance. I usually notice but try not to focus on such. I wouldn't want people making a big deal out of it for me, so I try to behave how I would feel comfortable if I were in their situation.
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
10 Nov 08
that's what I did, try not to look at him, I did not want to make him feel uncomfortable
• China
9 Nov 08
Aoids as far as possible
• China
9 Nov 08
avoids as far as possible
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
9 Nov 08
Yes, a friend of mine has denture. So, we were talking and eating at the same time. Somehow while eating, my friend's denture fell out and off it went to the ground. I was wondering what was it and I saw my friend quickly picking his denture up. I looked at him and there he was with his 4 missing front teeth. I was shocked because I never knew he had denture. I couldn't stand it, I just laughed it out loud because he looked so funny without his front teeth. And by the way, he is kinda cute...with his denture on.lol.
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
10 Nov 08
Oh, you couldn't get pass that one, since it was funny, but at least he is cute. I imagine that was rather funny
@riyasam (16570)
• India
9 Nov 08
it did happenn to me a few days ago,i was playing with my son of 2 years when his head hit my chin and my front teeth broke.i was so conscious and embarrassed as if the whole world was laughing at me.
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
9 Nov 08
Oh gee how terrible, sometimes those little ones can cause us to have accidents. My sister broke her arm last week, trying to get a little boy off of an amusement park ride, when she fell backwards off of the platform.
@loxion (1551)
• India
9 Nov 08
Ha!ha!ha!thats a funny one, maybe he got beaten at drinking stores, does he drinks? For me it happen mostly after some functions or maybe if there was a party and even most of those people i see them on the 1st of january because the night before when they were partying, they would fight and endup with someone loosing their teeth or having scares on their faces. Besided those things i never met anyone who would just change...like in the middle of nowhere[b][/b]
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
9 Nov 08
He does not drink ,but he does have a temper, my husband said maybe he was in a fight.
@ersmommy1 (12596)
• United States
10 Nov 08
I don't know. I think it is just human nature. My ex boyfriend had a tooth knocked out after we broke up. He had a partial that he always wears made up. One day he cam eover and didn't have it. I focused on it as well. It's just that we aren't used to seeing them that way. It's a first reaction. I bet it won't happen next time.
@dookie03 (578)
• United States
10 Nov 08
Wow yea that would be a tough one not to laugh at while talking to him. Did you mention anything at all? I think i probably would have said something and simply asked if he was ok or whatever. Obviously someone told him where to stick it being the landlord. LOL.
@gemini_rose (16192)
9 Nov 08
I do not know how you did not say anything, I would not have been able to stop looking at his teeth! I don't think I have ever been in a situation like that as I can recall, not to that degree of change anyway!
@celticeagle (123448)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Nov 08
I would just look, ask, hear the story and get on with it. Instead of feeling uncomfortable and trying not to look. It is normal to look. If people don't want the attention or whatever they can put something over it or just not go out.
@Bebs08 (10685)
• United States
9 Nov 08
hahaha!! this is funny!! I can never hold myself but make a comment if there is any change I can see to someone familiar to me. It is really hard not to say anything specially if it is very obvious and surprising. I don't know if there is anybody here who could say, he/she never have any reaction.. hahaha.. Like what you said? I can't help it maybe giggling when somebody has any change like that. I know it is not good but how could we control ourselves? that I do not know how...
• United States
9 Nov 08
Wow that would be hard to miss! I know that one of my husbands former co-workers had very very long hair. Then the next time that I seen her she had all of her chopped off to the point it was shorter than her ears! I could not believe it, I tried hard not to laugh, because she looked quite funny. I did manage to get out a comment of nice new look and such, but it was very hard not to stare because all the hair was chopped off!
@mayhem23 (185)
• Canada
9 Nov 08
Yes, I guess. In my high school days, one of my friends had their jaw broken on purpose to make their face look better through surgery. We all knew she looked fine but it was her decision and respected it. Now when she returned to school, her cheeks were puffed out really bad for about a month. It was really tough to look her straight in the face and talk to her because that is all your eyes kept looking at. I think you can't avoid it but just try not to make the person feel bad.
• United States
9 Nov 08
Seeing some one look differently only after a few days happens alot here.. I just try to ignore it if I think that me saying something will offend them
• United States
9 Nov 08
one of my friends I met in the first week of high school came in one day with a huge pimple on his fore head lol he never gets pimples tho so I was like wtf
@Takashy (496)
• Latvia
9 Nov 08
No not really. I man it is still the same person so why should I react differently to him if there is something new about him. Sure I might ask a question or two about it but I still know the person.
@wujinbo (341)
• China
9 Nov 08
you can make him feel better,and comfortable,when you are kind to him.because when someone makes some accident,you laugh at him,making him unhappy,he will hate you and search some chance to make you sad.it is true that you respect someone,he will respect you too.....