Are you possessive on your loves ones?

Hi sree I agree possessiveness can be a boon and a bane.When a person loves another person,very often that person tends to be protective and possessive.This often leads to jealousy and ill feeling. it is this feeling of possessiveness that often causes ill feeling even between siblings ,friends and even lovers.For some people possessivness stems from insecurity .Most parents tend to be over protective towards their children to the point of stifling their natural growth and independence.Such feelings should be curbed lest children become rebellious.

What a wonderfully question really it is??? The question makes me to think for a while after reading.. Yes, & i agree that Relations which have more & more love on their dear ones, also carries much possessiveness. i had much and much possessiveness on my friends and my loving sister once upon a time.But i never get benefit for my true love & care. Friends turned as traitors & my sister passed away from this world. Now i have some relations whom i trust. I am not expecting much from them. But i should see to that i fill their expectations. I really love to have possessiveness on dear ones. but the opposite side should realize that love and care.They must spend time for them even if they are busy (spending 1 minute is definitely possible) & lastly, they should never think them as disturbance. If they think like that way, they will definitely worry one day when there is no one to care them. But if their dear one knows they are alone, it comes to care them again. True heart never has a limit in showing love and care.. It knows only to love and care!

I'm not possessive or controlling towards anyone. I do have a child and I do have to control her actions somehwat but that is part of raising her.

When it comes to my kids, I can get pretty possessive. My ex and I have been through some rough times and he hasn't always been there for the kids, so it's hard for me to let go when he is. I know he is their father and they need him. He's not a bad person either, just selfish sometimes. But still, I can be possessive as you have pointed out. Sometimes it is good that I am that way, but sometimes, I need to back off and I know it. Good topic.

I am not a very possesive person at all. I have never had the desire to control someone elses actions or their life and I sure as heck don't want it being done to me. I have been with possessive men before and I will say that at least for me, it does kill the relationship eventually. Possisiveness combined with jealousy are a sure relationship killer, i think.

possessiveness is good some time means you care about her/him but you coudn't control everything of your partner,you need to find the balance,not too much,not less.If you find the balance you will have a nice relationship with him/her. hope this is useful for you

Hi sree Kala nice discussion and simple reply to it is YES

Not at all because I don't want possessive people,too. So to make it fair, I don't own my love one like a property or a thing. But I consider them just like me who needs freedom and others to live accordingly.

I just love nad care so much that I want to be with them all as much as possible

I am not possessive in my marriage or any other relationships with friends or family members. I have been in a romantic relationship with a possessive guy and I began to feel like a caged bird. I am a trustworthy partner, so I don't feel that I should have to be interrogated about where I go, who I call, and who I see. I feel that possessive people do not trust those that they are possessive of. If you trust someone, you don't need to be possessive. I trust my husband, so I do not call him 10 times a day to see where he is and what is doing. I know what he's doing and trust that he's telling the truth. I know firsthand what it's like to be in a relationship with a possessive person and it's not fun, so I would never do that to my husband.

Protective, that’s for sure. Being possessive it’s not my kind of character. I believe in the feeling he is mine but that’s it. I can no longer impose that on him. I can be whenever he needs me and I am here for him; and that’s not possessive. For I know what’s rightfully mine should be respected by other people. To be possessive is that if someone is trying to take what is yours away from you. It's sad but it's true.

i'm not possessive, and never will. I like freedom, so i don't like possessive. i had a friend who's posseesive to me, i end up not being her friend anymore, coz somehow, she just scares me... seriously...i'm scared if anyone act like that to me, i feel like i can't breath

Yes, I must accept it that I am a little possessive to my love ones which I think is wrong because if you really love them you have to give them freedom because they also have their own life to live apart from you and deserved to enjoy their own existence. But now I am trying so hard to change that character of mine because I noticed that my dear close friends began feeling suffocated with my treatment. Lately, a guy friend told me straight to my face that my possessiveness is too much that he thinks he wanted to get out from our friendship, I was hurt with his comment and silently agree with him that possessiveness can suffocate any relationship.

If they both want to live together forever, it does not matter. If not, I think it is very dangerous personality.

Yes I am a lot possessive of my family and friends. And this possessiveness does cause problems in the relationships at times. I know it is not good to be over possessive but I just cannot seem to change myself.

you have to be possessive if you are human. it is there in everyone - every man and woman. but everyone will need to understand that there has to a limit to that also. possessiveness can affect mother & son relation as well. it can make a mother create friction between the son and daughter-in-law. it is there in every relation. but you can see it explicitly between lovers.

yeah, sometimes i'm possessive. Because they belongs to us right. But in the right place..Being too possessive could affect once attitude., sometimes your becoming selfish and greedy. It's not just love. It's supposed love with kindness to your heart.

Hi Srikala, Yeah I do.. I am very possessive by nature.. I am possessive on my friends, my kid, my mom and my husband.. I am trying to evade this negative trait in me, but I am not able to..I am working really hard to change myself as hatred may be the outcome of possessiveness...It will definitely harm the relationship... Regards, Akila

It depends. WhenI saw that my partner is interested in someone else...that I ecame possessive. Bt it rarely happens.

I think this is a topic which everyone is interested to know. I think I am a just nice person, or rather one who is ok to be alone and some times i would like my partner to be with me. I believe in every relationship, there must be a breathing space for each individual and giving each other enough time to spend with their friends. I strongly believe this will help maintain a healthy relationship.