Is revenge the only alternative ?
By alokn99
@alokn99 (5717)
India
November 21, 2008 12:55am CST
Revenge a strong and overwhelming desire, often twisted, destructive and misguided.
Humilated,angered or injured. Do you believe that revenge addresses the cause and will have the effect you want ?
Do you consider all the alternatives before considering revenge and being vengeful.?If not why do you believe it is your only alternative ?
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
21 Nov 08
I think I mentioned in someone else's discussion that the only time I will act on vengeance is to someone who would hurt my family in an unthinkable way. Then I will find unthinkable ways multiplied to infinity for that someone to suffer under.
Other than that, I don't believe in starting a war to end another war. Why shed more blood?
What about karma though? Isn't that some kind of revenge too?
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
21 Nov 08
That's an interesting perspective Sisi!
Our soul is on a journey and Karmic situations in which we find ourselves are both soul's mirror and a guide. Karma can show you where you've been and where you might go to learn the lessons you've chosen for this lifetime. Through this understanding, we can adjust our actions and can avoid making the same mistake again.
Now , we can choose the other path also amd by doing that we will only assert the dark sides like vengeance, revenge and evil. But its essentially on US, how we choose it!
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
21 Nov 08
Sorry Sisi. I have misinterpreted it. Oh yes, I find people saying that almost all the time! KARMA will get him, that's all because of his KARMA and stuff like that..
And yes, that's certainly vengeance, our grievance for that person who has hurt us by some means.
And, I could be very bad with people who hurt my family! But my way of revenge is different, may be not destructive..
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
21 Nov 08
Thanks mou.
I think I was thinking of karma in a different way too. I've heard so many people and even myself say that karma will get that person. So is thinking that the same as wishing vengeance on that person? For me, I try to do good and act as how I wish others would act around me and towards me because I want karma to bless me with what I've given out myself. But yes, if people hurt my family, I will be that rabid dog that was on a leash, salivating and can't wait to escape and sic 'em.
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@mayka123 (17083)
• India
21 Nov 08
Revenge, vengeance or retaliation is I think very harmful. When we take revenge it means we wish to harm the person in some way. This would ruin the relationship for ever. When I am angry with someone the only way I would take retaliate is by ignoring the person completely.
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@bbsr13 (4196)
• India
21 Nov 08
Hello,Alok! Every action has its own reaction.So if some body did harm to you don't indulge in taking action against him as it would create problems in both of you and your families.End the episode then and there by cutting all relation with the man and forget what happened to you.That is only the best alternative to live a tension free happy life.thanx.
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@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
21 Nov 08
I have never been a vengeful person in my life by nature. I usually have a way of letting things go even though I have gotten very hurt a few times. I don't think that revenge really helps any cause.
It just seems to cause more problems in the long run.
Revenge can cause more serious effects in the end and I don't really want to get back at anyone. I just move on with my life and learn from experience what not to deal with or get myself involved in anymore.
People are people and they are going to hurt you. You can either learn from it and walk away or waste time plotting and planning revenge. It is your choice.
I choose to be a mature person. I do hold grudges occasionally but revenge is not part of my mindset at all. 
